Friends with White Men

For the men here. Whether you have relationships with white women or not do you have close friends with white men? Do you find that a challenge in any way? Do you seek out friendships or do they just happen. I find "true" friendships with black women more challenging just because point of reference and and cultural experiences differ. Friendships are based on commonalities whereas when dating the physical attraction and love interest overcomes the other factors.

 

I have always had close friends of other races, so I have never truly thought about it as being amazing or some how incredible! :lol: For the most part it hasn't been a challenge cause I don't go around calling anyone I meet my friend. As far as dating goes I got white friends that only date blacks and blacks that only date whites and everything in between. Most of my friends became my friend through common interests and other experiences.

 

90% of my male friends are white, with the others being asian and hispanic.

my best friend is white and my best friends growing up have mostly been white

 

if i have friendship/relationship with a white woman, it is because we share not only a physical attraction, but we also share the same interests in things. i appreciate her culture and she mine--as with White American women we have the same culture(American) so i havent ever had a problem with whites (men or women) based on culture esp if they are American, have the same socioeconomic background and educational background. those are the issues that would be more difficult for me, or political and religious divisions.

 

To me, it's always been so-so, depending on whom I come in contact with...

and, what is one of the main things in life that enables an individual to live and accomplish a desired lifestyle or goal?

LIKEMINDEDNESS.



It doesn't pertain to a specific demographic either. Like-mindedness can be found anywhere and everywhere with people in general, not their demographic. Only the people you meet up with individually determine whether or not something can be achieved, be it friendship or a sexual relationship.

 

exactly, thats why i have no problems with white men. I dont have problems making friends with black men either, if we are of the same class. I have never had much luck making friends with poor or working class blacks. Not

 

very true for me also, mainly cause i can't relate to some things.

 

my best buds

 

If you don't mind me asking, how come?

 

hmmm, good question. they were the ones with whom I have the most in common. Same interest in type of music, world views, political views, values, lifestyle and social and recreational activities.

always lived in upper middle class suburban environments which were mostly white, asian. with smatterings of blacks like me and hispanics and jews.

It isnt any different than with WW, accept there is a physical attraction of course. but same environment

 

I agree I am the same way, I can get along with anybody no matter what race or class they are in.

 

ms jenkins:

if i could i would have black male friends, i just havent found many whom share the same likemindedness. i wish i knew some. i have had black friends from africa and carribean, but havent with black americans. but I am sure they are out there

 

If I were to teach an ecologist course in college, I wouldn't be able to stress that enough, you know, LIKEMINDEDNESS. To me, that is the best word to describe it all.

 

yes, likemindedness, thats why i date and marry IR and have whte friends, its that we have likemindedness on many more things than others

 

I see. Thank you for answering.

 

I was hoping that somebody would ask this question. I've been thinking about this a lot. I like to play pickup basketball games at the recreation center every week ( i just love playing basketball) and there's one thing that really stands out whenever i go: I always play with the "white boys."
When you walk inside and see the courts, there are 3 courts with 2 baskets on each end of them. On the first court are the street ballers (mainly black guys) who are really intimidating when you play against them. I'm a very good player, and i even have a lot of similar skills that they have, but there's something intimidating about playing with those guys. The main thing being the fact that they're all bigger, stronger, and faster than i am. Trash talk is definitely required in order to play with them, but that's another story.

Anyway, on the second court are the white basketball players. They're not all white, just mostly white. This is the court that i play on, along with a mixture of chinese players, a few indian players, and some black players. Don't take what i'm saying like i don't like playing with or befriending black guys, i just find that i actually have more in common, basketball wise, with white guys than i do with the black guys. With white guys, especially the young ones, there's no problem with them whatsoever. I mean, none. I'll talk to a young white guy like he's no different than i am. I'll befriend him, hang out with him, and won't think anything different of him. I have to admit that i do try harder with white people in general, you know, to befriend them and get to know them, than i do with other races because i want to see this divide between us come to an end so badly. White men are a different story, as i find it a little harder to trust their intentions, but with the younger white guys, if they're cool with me, i'll definitely be cool with them.

Sometimes i just think to myself, why are we pitted against each other like this?? I mean, this individual person has never done any harm to me, yet i'm supposed to not like him or befriend him because he's white?? I guess you could say that i'm pretty liberal though. I'll befriend pretty much anybody as long as they're a good person. But to answer your question, i don't necessarily seek out friendships with white guys, but i always embrace them if they do occur. I guess i embrace it because i'm always out to prove that we're not all that different you know. Oh well, those were my 2 cents about it. :wink:

 

I end up having friendships out of commonality and likemindedness. They just seem to happen. As a black man, I don't have a lot of black friends. There are issues surrounding that subject from a long time ago. I'm not going to go into it right now. I have friendships and business relations with many white men. My dating preference is never an issue with them. I would say most of my close friendships are with white women. I don't know why but I have a connection with them. They are the ones that I get along the best with. I know they like me because I'm easy to talk to and have a sensitive side. I'm not just trying to get them in the sac, and I make them feel respected. I think so many women are hurt because men like them in a sexual way, and aren't able to even be friends. Those men don't get what they want so they cop an attitude and nix the woman off. Where maybe she didn't want that from the guy, but truely liked him as a person, and would be his friend. Its sad.

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Amen wyldsyde, you took the words out of my mouth. I too have a similar experience. I feel more comfortable with white women. I have have found them to be reliable friends if you treat them right and respect them. Black friends i do not have for the mistrust and self hate so many of them have of themselves and of you.

 

My best friend is Caucasian.

I don't see him as white i just see him as my best friend.

We rode bikes together as kids

we even got simliar Land Rovers. although his is black

our mothers work at the same company.

he doesn't give a damn who I date. He is with an asian girl.

 

My roll dog is white as well and we've never had a problem with who each other has dated. He's dated some black ladies and I've dated white. I couldn't hang with some guy that has some sort of issue with white women not pandering to white males.

I dated this one gal living in GA. She was originally from West Virginia and she said when she was young they'd see an interracial couple and start calling the woman mudshark. I had to ask her just what a mudshark was (she said a bottom feeder)

Clearly her views changed as she matured but there is pressure put on women who date outside of their race. It's not your womb ladies..it's the licensed property of white nationals. If you ain't cranking out white babies then you're all kind of nasty things. BS