Friend in Prison

I had a work-friend/drinking buddy, who kind of 'disappeared' on me a few years back. I just recently found out he has been in prison all this time for statutory rape! I can't condone what he did, but I pride myself on my loyalty. So I don't know if I should write him a letter of encouragement or if I should just let him go.

What do y'all think?

 

I say write. He would probably be happy to hear from you and be encouraged. People make mistakes and it might be nice for him to know that someone still believes in him and cares enough to find out how he is.

 

^ i agree with tam



just because someone went to jail doesnt mean they are a horrible person.

 

I say write him, plus... the way women lie these days you shouldn't be quick to judge ya boy.

 

I'm taking points off.

 

i found out last year that a friend of mine is in prison. after months and months of trying to find out where he has gone, i've finally been able to write him and let him know that he is still loved.

he committed his crime years ago and his past finally caught up with him. i go by the man that i know now, not the man that he was.

 

Co sign this, a very kind man he is. I will not judge him for what he did so long ago.

 

exactly :smt008

 

How close were you both? I don't know how loyal you became to your drinking buddy, but if you want to reach out to him, just do it.


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Stat rape is real tricky, because all he has to be is a year over the age and he's cooked. Or have an angry mom on his hands. Happened to my friend's b/f. A couple of years later the DA came after him because her mom found out and asked him to prosecuted. Her daughter had lied about her age, but how can a guy prove that...

 

how come jordan ?

 

i know just what u mean

 

exactly. geeky knows the man as well, better than i actually. he really is a lovely man

 

Thanks for the replies.

We weren't very close. We would talk at lunch, and we would go to a bar after work a few times a month, and he helped me move once. From what Ive heard the girl was 16, he was early 30's and he pled guilty.

I think maybe I will write a brief little something to him. Although I am a little apprehensive, that he might need more "friendship" from me than I can offer him.

 

Write him if you want to. Nothing wrong with that.

 

If he was manipulated i.e. the girl told him that she was 22 and she looked it, but was really 16, then I would be more understanding.

If he knew she were 16, I wouldn't want to associate with any man who would pursue sexual relationships with someone that young. Why invite that trouble into your life?