? for other Memphians

Where do you go to dance or just hang out. Apparently I'm not having much luck with guys older than me, early 40's. Maybe I should try meeting someone a little younger that actually likes to go out. The guy I've been talking to & went out with once hasn't had time to go out again. I get tired of sitting at home. It's really disappointing to get ready to go out & happy about it only to get a call saying we'll have to make it another day. I would like to find a fun place to go, I love music & like to dance. I girl I worked with used to go out dancing with her friends but she moved to Texas. She was surprised that I liked the same music as her & invited me to go with them. Didn't get a chance to go. Any suggestions, where it's not uncommon for a girl to go by herself.

 

Off subject a bit: But Blueyes, wasnt it you who wrote the story about the other guy who didnt have time for you? Something about you and him in a car? If not dont worry. But if it is you, then damn girl? Why do all these guys just not have time?

I dated a guy who lived 30 miles away in heavy traffic, owned a gym he opened and closed (and had mad clients as a fitness instructor), wrote two books he self published and STILL was at my door step 5X a week.

Something aint right mamma.

 

I think I've just had bad luck lately. I don't mean that I want to go guy hunting though. I just want to go out & have some fun, haven't went out in a while. Pretty obvious when I don't even know where to go huh.

 

Also he was a big mistake I wished I'd never met & wished I'd never told anyone about. Now everyone thinks I'm weird, really I'm not. If you knew me personally you would see that I'm quite normal & really nice. I don't do anything to scare them away. It's not my looks that keep them away either. I haven't posted a pic but I get compliments on my looks especially my eyes. I have the kind of figure that most guys here say they like, why the fascination with thighs & butts I don't understand. I'm average weight but do have bigger thighs & butt & wear a DD. Before anyone says anything no I'm not conceited & don't think I beautiful.

 

TTIWWP! (This Thread Is Worthless Without Pics):smt018

 

I never said any of that. Nor did I think it. I have known some very beautiful women who sought out men that treated them badly. Had nothing to do with their looks.

I am not trying to call you out or embarrass you. Just bringing to the fore something I noticed, a trend. Maybe I should have just thought it and left it be. Sorry.

 

I'm sorry, I wasn't talking about what you said. When I originally posted the need opinions I got mainly negative things said to me or about me. Except for SweetAngel29 she was really nice. I guess I was expecting 30 or so more negative responses. But you didn't offend me at all, I was just preparing I guess. With so many different people I guess you get lots of different opinions. I was just trying to avoid some that I thought I would get, if that makes sense. I'm also trying to attach a pic.

 

I knew I was walking a thin line when I said it. You were asking for places to go out. I understood that. I just got concerned for you when you said the guy hasnt had time to go out again. So many of my beautiful sister do not know their worth. Some seek out unavailable men. But it sounds like you have a healthy grip on your worth, my concern is abated.

 

I'm probably a little cranky too, I worked all last night & have been up since. I work in a hospital NICU & new baby got really sick. It just breaks my heart seeing parents crying when they are told their newborn may not make it. Plus I was supposed to see the nicer guy this morning, well it is almost 3:00 in the afternoon & I haven't heard anything from him. So I'm frustrated too, I guess that's why I really wanted to go out tonite & forget about how upset that I have been the last week. I know I'm going on & on. Still haven't figured out how to attach a photo.

 

Blueyes, sounds like a rough week. Here's a {{Hug}} for you.... :smt056

I hope you find something fun to do tonight. I understand the slight resistance to going out alone. I prefer to go with my girls too. Although, I bet if you went out alone you'd have men swarming on you like bees to honey!

PS. Please don't put yourself down in your own mind nor in these threads. Be your own best cheerleader, 'cause no one else will do it. I used to think rather negative thoughts about myself (didn't help that I had surrounded myself with negative people) but then I realized a long time ago that if I had a friend that talked to me the way I talk to myself, I'd punt her to the curb in no time! Now I am my own #1 fan as cheezy as that may sound, lol.

"I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and gosh darn it people like me." S. Smally. lol I don't go to quite that level of cheeze, but you get the idea. lol

 

Thank you Athena, I can't get a pic on here but I got one on my profile. I'm still trying to figure this out.

 

If you would like a pic under your username that appears with your posts, you can go to your "User CP", under settings or whatever there is an option to "edit avatar". Your avatar is the picture that we all get to see when you post.

Cheers!

 

Ok I got it & I put a different one on my profile also. Thanks

 

blue if you have your photo up on a photo site (like photo bucket) you can add it to the picture thread in the lovers area.

As far as finding people to do things with ....I know what you mean, it can be a tough thing. I'm not one to go to a club/dancing alone. You might want to try dating sites...especially if you are ok with casual stuff. As long as you don't take it too seriously - you may find some fun people to do things with.

 

Well I guess I'll be staying home with my 4 doggies tonite. Haven't heard any suggestions on places to go. I've been up for about 28 hrs. straight so I guess it's just as well. I can watch a movie while covered in dogs, what could be better. At least that's what my girls say.

 

If anyone in Memphis thinks of a fun place to go sometime they are welcome to go too so I don't have to go alone. I'm a little shy & sometimes feel funny going to places by myself or places that have alot of people there.

 

I usually like going to the clubs on Beale St. when I go out. Club 152 and Alfreds are really cool places.

 

Don't you have to park in the pay lots & walk a couple of blocks downtown. I've never been downtown by myself at night. I don't know if I would walk that far by myself I'm small enough that if someone wanted to attack me they could.

 

You'll never know if you don't try. Just go out, if it's not for you fine, but you won't meet people moaning about not being able to meet people on a forum really. Get out there.

 

Yeah thats the thing that sucks about going downtown, the parking. If you ever want to meet up and go to one of the clubs, let me know.