Father's Racist Letter

I know shes not losing her life. But catching hell does not necessarily mean you are losing your life. It just means a stressful situation or grief.

He put college in the middle of it. Lol. Really?

 

Oh GL lol. When I debate, I'll chat it up for a bit then when I'm bored of the back and forths I'll throw my opponent a bone like "we just see things differently, no biggy". Sound familiar? That means I'm done playing on the merry go round and I'm on to something new.

When you debate you carry topics and words said for mooooonths lol. You're still pulling the "n word in bed" card and that conversation was like a year ago. You always bring up FH and TDK and the "false claims" they made re: bw and McNairs death and ww dating bm as a last resort, respectively. I actually make little bets in my head, trying to figure out how many posts you'll make in a debate before you start with the old stuff! It's not a question of if, but when lol.

 

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That's been my point all along, if it wasn't the black guy it would be something else. People discontinue relationships with people they love over some minor shit like that.

 

Well, I think it is a big deal. I've been there myself. But the good news is, she actually has a lot of options even if she may not be able to see that in the middle of it.

I don't think people are really trying to say it's nothing. I think it's frustrating and pisses people off that there are still such things going on out there. It's crazy that a 19 year old girl would be disowned because she acted out a bit and has chosen to date a guy who's Black. Sometimes when we see outrageous behaviors (like this father's) we want to blow it off and just tell her she's better off without them. Of course she's better off not having that sort of crap around her. But that's also her family and that's a tough thing to deal with. Sometimes you are faced with things you don't have any control over and you just have to deal with it.

You know damn well things like this hit us all. It's awful that anyone has to deal with such things and it brings up anger, sadness, and all sorts of outrage. It's just plain wrong. And it's beyond frustrating and there isn't a whole lot we can do about it.

 

Well yah....the dad mentioned several things. Clearly they are ashamed of her for different things. This is just one of them.

I find it very sad that any parent would be like this towards their child. And as tough as it may be for her, she's really better off to walk away. Maybe one day her folks will come to their senses.

 

This is my contention with goodlove, he's using this an example of hey see ww go through shit for dating bm when in reality we can see situations like this have far less to do with the woman having a black guy in her life than it does about control of her. When you see the type of people willing to cut ties with their child, think about that the flesh and blood they brought into this world and should love more than their next breath, they are the kind of people to do the same bs over something as dumb as what school you go to or what friends you keep. They want control more than they want you so what exactly are you losing?

 

OMG....I actually have done this too. It's this thought of....here we go again....3,2,1 and yah specific things brought up over and over again no matter how many times they've been explained. I don't get why people feel the need to try to convince others, there's a good chance it won't ever happen...so why not leave it alone? Post the opinion about it and have a little back and forth but then get on with it.

Lordy it reminds me of a conversation I was trying to have with someone last night. I was relaying my personal experiences and his were different and he started in on bringing up studies to show how right he was. Seriously? that's NOT going to ever change what I have experienced in my own life....I could give a rip what studies say about it.

 

Makes sense. And I don't think you are just saying it's no big deal. While in the middle of it all....of course it's a big deal to the person who is agonizing with it all. But when it's all said and done, it's more likely than not that she will realize how toxic the relationship was overall.

The best thing I could have ever done was to cut ties with my mom and her husband. The only thing I regretted [if at all] was that I didn't do it sooner.

 

Very true. My brother was joking the other day that talking conservative politics with me is literally like talking to a wall. I won't budge on my political beliefs so there's absolutely no point in trying to "change my mind" lol. I enjoy a healthy debate/conversation, an open exchange of views and experiences, but I don't expect others to conform to my beliefs nor would I want them to expect that of me. It's a beautiful thing when these conversations can be had without turning argumentative or hateful. Not always easy with sensitive subjects but it can definitely be done and I so love to see it when it happens!

 

That's why you love me .

 

My thing is why pull out the measuring stick? Just because by numbers dont happen as much does not mean it does not matter. If it happens then you should recognize it as a cross to bear and not dismiss it cause it don't happen enough.

The ww side of ir should be discussed also

 

Lmao sarcasm?? Deep down (sometimes deep deeeep down lol) of course I like you. You make completely incoherent posts sometimes, then have the audacity to tell others to "go back and read" lol but most times you mean well. You and I just don't see eye to eye on much so our conversations get old quickly because our life experiences (which form our views) are very different. At the end of the day we could BOTH be right, just seeing the topic from different view points.

I don't love you beating dead horses though lol. Gotta let some stuff go eventually GL lol.

 

Well, that girl's father better get used to it, because it doesn't seem (if the photos are real) that his daughter's coming back anytime soon.

 

Bull shit and you know it. You love me to no end. Don't sit there and say you let shit go. Example the bm should be held responsible for the kids they make issue. You petty and TDK went at me forever on that. So don't try it. You defend the nigger in bed thang ..come on now. Really? Lol. I mean seriously you are in left all by yourself.

 

Omg lol *dead*

You literally just illustrated exactly what I've been talking about :smt043

 

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SMH

 

No sir, I didn't say that at all. It is obviously a big deal. I'm simply acknowledging that (and any racism/bigotry) is bad, and sad when someone is forced to choose between relatives and a s/o because of racism.

 

lol by you or actual ww?

 

That's what I've been saying too

 

Girl plz.don't get mad at me for you cosigning dumb shit