A FB page that has different people of different mixis and interracial families. Each day their is a new question. Today there is question from a black man for black men. Thought maybe you all could provide answers to his question b/c I've seen similar brought up in here. http://www.facebook.com/mixis.living He ask this. Feel free to click on page and answer question. MIXIS QUESTION OF THE DAY: I am a black man dating a white woman. I have to admit that i feel a little guilty when i hear other black men say thing like the following: "I just feel like, as black men, we do have to be aware that, every time we step out with some woman it's setting an example for our daughters and it's also representing something for our mothers. If you can't really love your own, how can you really love others?", I would like to know how other men deal with questions like these.
Hmm, I suppose I would say that I am loving my own because she is a member of the human race. Be she black, white, yellow or red, she is worthy of respect and I'd hope for my daughter to see that this is how you treat not a black woman, but a woman in general. That's one thing that annoys so much, is when we as a group, at least a good number of us seem to think that we are supposed to treat each other like we are all some sort of monolithic beings created on an assembly line that acts the same, dates the same, votes the same, worships the same and it's just not so. And then we get surprised and pissed off when 'other' groups of people actually treat us this way and we want to complain about stereotypes and someone being racist. And yes, some people out there can be racist, but it isn't everyone, and it seems like we've sucked up that whole 'power to the people fight segregation w/segregation' so much that we jack up our personal relationships too, by being so paranoid with what others of the collective black group might think because of an attempt to build self esteem based on skin color & cultural foundations. I apologize for getting on a soap box, but I'm getting married soon and I know that I may someday have a daughter, who won't be black but will be mixed(and yeah, a person of color). She will be both black and white and no matter how much she knows that, and will be raised knowing that, there are those that will lump her into a box ( and TRY to brainwash her to think she's a black woman with the world against her) in an attempt to make her feel like something is wrong with the fact that she has a mother who is white. And that men who date women who don't look like her are jacked up or something and I want my daughter to feel and believe just as anyone else can date someone else no matter the color, she can do the same. As you can tell this hit a nerve with me, hope I answered the question some where in there lol...
It was Goldysocks. {sarcasm} And really Regina. If the "ahem 'Black "man" person has a question, this forum is filled with threads of such and I'm sure he can come here and read the archives and be set right.....which is essentially that loving a woman, regardless of her race, does not equal hating your own self or your loved ones. Because there is no such thing as "your own". Your own is yourself and your spouse/family that you can really claim as having a direct ownership from a legal and blood perspective. And the fact that you are capable of loving anyone else - period, moots the assumption that a person is self-hating.
I don't know the person that asked the question. It's anonymous. I just know that he isn't going to get many "male" opinions so I thought I'd share the page over here.
