Does it matter if your girl was a ho before you met her and

Now she wants to marry you? I saw this on a site and would like you bros take on it:

DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend, "Tina," and I have been dating for six months. For the most part, things are pretty good. However, she has been more promiscuous in the past than I would like in a partner. She fell in love with her sex buddy after 2 weeks and lied to me and said she was never in love with him, but I found letters to him saying how she was in love, wanted to spend the rest of her life with him, etc the same things she tell me now. I understand people can change and that we should live in the present rather than dwell on the past. However, I can't forget Tina's past sex life, and at times I find myself consumed by it. I don't want this to affect our relationship, but it does. Can you offer some advice?
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For me, and I have to be honest, I would have trouble dealing with it knowing my WIFE was a whore at one time. Right or wrong, I couldn't deal with it.

 

Re: Does it matter if your girl was a ho before you met her

Welcome to the world!!! Turn the question around and ask....Does it matter if your boy slept around before you met him. This is really a non issue because most men and women are sleeping around before marriage.

 

You've posted this article in 2 topics and have pretty much asked the same question in relation to it.

Plus, in this one, you ask a very gender-specific question.
Therefores, it should go in the "Men's Locker Room" section.

 

How do I delete this post?

 

To Rakim

When I first started reading your note I said to myself OK she was a ho. If she is not a ho from where you grew up thats ok. She an X ho who changed her ways. I kept reading and she was cheating on dukes and catching feelings. Yo Ra, I don't even have to say anymore. She's going to cheat on dukes forever. If she was a ho before he met her and she's not from where him and his homeboys grew up ok. But she was a ho in the relationship. Non Cipher. (NO) Cut her off and move on to the next young thing who's got it going on.
Holla at ya boy.

 

No, just give her chance and see where the relatioship leads to. Besides it was in the past.

 

No, just give her chance

Yeah, I guess you could do that. But be wary. Remember fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

 

Not her past, but the lie

The issue isn't wheter she is a hoe or former hoe, it's that fact that she lied about falling in luv with someone after 2 weeks of fuc*#%! She probably implied or said that they had been togehter a longer time.

What you really are concerned about is, if she let this cat hit, and then she fall in luv in 2 weeks then how easy is it for her to fall in luv with anyone after a fuc*? Is it luv or lust that she is feeling!!! Is her love for you REAL or NOT? Makes you wonder.

Women know this, that is why they lie to make themselves not look easy or easy fall for a guy.

I would be concerned as well. Test her. Keep fuc*&% and thendump her and see if she goes and open her legs for another dude right after the break up. If she does, she is a HOE that you don't need anyway. 8)

 

What is all THAT about....Guys come on, it's not like ya'll don't jump on any hot thing that lets you know she's available. Now would you wait after you were in love and then broken up to get with the new hot thing?

When is too soon to get back with it, 2 weeks, a month, 2 months?

Why the double standard?

My husband was a straight Ho.....I mean no long term girlfriends, never lived with anyone, screwed a different girl almost every weekend, we were kickin' it together for a few months, and never got attached.

That is until I left his ass........then it took 2yrs for us to reconnect, and then he was all talk about love and how no other woman he's been with since has been the same as me....guess I spoiled him for any other...but seriously,

Should I hold his past against him? Think him a liar?
Or judge him on how he is with me?

For real if we separated/divorced I would hook up with the next hotness I got involved with and love would have nothing to do with it.

Sometimes that is just what a woman needs to take the pain away.......


Women can fall in love more easily than men do, and yes sometimes we confuse sex and love but for many woman the two are interchangeable.

 

What makes a woman a ho, anyway? There is no set standard; i've heard guys say if you sleep with more than 3 men you're a ho, and I've met others who couldn't care if a girl was with fifty men. Sleeping around is accepted nowadays...sort of. If a hot young girl plays the field, she's considered a ho because she's good-looking--the guys don't trust her, and the girls are jealous of her. Even if she's responsible and uses birth control, she's still considered a whore, so what can you do?

I don't think women should lie about their sexual past to a partner. I don't mind discussing experiences I've had, but I'd rather not get into detail how many men I've been with and the feelings I've had for them. That's really none of my man's business, and I wouldn't ask him specifics like that either.

Eventually, women will get tired of screwing around, just like men will, though I think it happens at an earlier age for us. Here's to the biological baby clock! :lol: So even if a girl was promiscuous in the past, it doesn't mean she won't eventually want to settle down and have kids and/or a serious relationship.

 

Men's problem here is-as usual-PRIDE!!...that stupid pride that keeps us men from thinking straight so often!!

A man sleeps around and around, gets engaged to a girl and expects her to have been a saint before he met her...
But he is too curious and wants to know "I am the best fuck u ever had?" "How many guys did u sleep with?"...etc...

If the girl is smart, she lies (many do)..."oh yeaaah, honey, u are the BEST"!!...and the rooster crows with satisfaction and pride!!! and is somewhat reassured

But if she makes the mistake the be too honest and say "oh yeah, I was in a threesome once, it was awesome" and the guy suddenly feels threatened!!! "God what if she does it again?" "what if she dumps me??"

The answer to all this is TRUST!!! if u trust ur girl, if u believe in each other's love, the past just SHOULDN' matter!!!

Peace

 

Wherever she screwed the most men move from that area and start over again. It's not a solution per se but it saves the guy from having to hear all of those "ho rumors" while he may be married to her or in a deep committed relationship.