Does a BLACK girl have a Chance?

Hi guys im black girl and I like this boy in my class, he's black too, but he's always dated white girls, and only flirts with them. (our school is like 80% white)

He's popular and he's in the football team.
Im not popular im rrly shy and quiet, I liked him since I was in the 7th grade. This is my senior year, and I rrly like him a lot. But I don't want to embarass my self. I just wanted to ask u guys here, since u know so much about interacial relationships, if I have a shot. Because he likes long hair and mines is short. And he's only dated white girls, and only flirts with him
Thanx. (Based on profile pics and avatar, do u guys think I look cute enough for him 2 b interested) thanx.

 

You're a beautiful girl. It may be that since your school is 80% white that has a lot to do with who he's gone out with.

Put yourself out there to him. The worst thing that can happen is he'll say he's not interested. Here's the thing - right now you aren't seeing him. So anything that happens would be the same as now or BETTER. It's always a risk.

Go for it!

 

Oh and I heard him talking a while back in class with his friends he says he likes boobs, and mines are rrly small. I just don't want to be embarrassed, I want to know honestly if I have a chance,

Oh and in my signature I have glasses, on that's how I ussually look when I am in school, because I sit in the back most of the time and can't see. My friend told me told I look better without them but I don't like the way contacts feel.

Anyways guys plz help out.
Thanx

 

Sasha, I agree with K, it's worth the risk, but if he does say no, keep in mind it probably has nothing to do with you, some guys just are attracted to different types of women. Maybe this guy just prefers light skin and such.

You are beautiful and if he doesn't see that a better man will!!

 

ok look.

Guys have preferences for all sorts of things...just like we do. Maybe you like a guy who's a certain height, weight, shape, hair, funny, serious, bright, whatever. But does that mean you aren't ever interested in someone who doesn't fit all that list?

Truly the worst thing that would happen is that he would know that you are truly interested and he's not...so what? It won't be the end of the world. And you may find that he's interested. Hell, you may find that he's interested and then realize you are NOT.

 

Thanx KnCA but im so so so shy, and there are a lot of pretty pretty girls in my school, and im rrly scared, cause I might face complete humilation.
And based on who he ussually dates and I don't fit the description, he's goes out with the white girls with colored eyes, (like blue and green) there hair is ussually really long, and they have a much bigger chest than I do, and they are more outgoing,

Im quiet, I have short hair, im not white or have colored eyes, and I don't have much of a chest at all but thanx anyways, ill try. I rrly will I have 2 cause im gonna regret it if I dont., when I graduate.

 

It is always worth a try to go after what you want in life. If you dont, you will hold back everytime when you get scared. Life is about taking certain risks for the better and if you like the guy then try!! The worst thing that could happen he could say No, but that doesnt mean you didnt try.:lol:

 

Sasha, as scared as you are to approach him, men go thru that more than we will ever realize. I say go for. Just keep it casual and fun and let him know you feeling him.

 

I'm gabby tonight so I wanted to say something else on this.

I'm 43 and graduated 25 years ago.

In the years after graduating...even not very long ago...there were several different guys who told me that they had been really interested in me in High School but they never said anything.

Some of them...I really wished they had! They made assumptions about me because of the people I knew or whatever. But they had no idea. And the sad part about it is that they wondered for years what may have happened.

Fear of rejection can be a big thing....but you just have to realize if he rejects you - it's OK. It's not a big thing. But at least you will know and not always wonder.

 

sasha...we don't know what he looks like so it's hard to say what the two of you will look like together...if your school is 80% white...do you find yourself attracted to the caucasion guys? are they attracted to you? i will tell you that i see a trend happening right now...my son is blonde hair blue eyed and loves all the mixed and/or black girls...i think it has alot to do with exposure...obviously it's not just because they are dark...he is also an old soul and really looks for girls that are sweet and have a good heart...his lil' friends are players texting 20 girls...he lays a little low...takes in the whole situation...if this boy is attracted to white girls and that is all he dates then don't torture yourself...find someone that digs you

 

First and foremost, let me just start by saying you are cute as hell. I'm am older so I know exactly what's the deal. You are cute enough for any self-respecting black guy your age. The fact that your school is largely white has NOTHING to do with it. And don't worry about him being on the football team. Girls have always seemed to be into football players for some reason.

If you're going to learn anything in life, it's that you must take some chances. If you like him that much, you MUST make him notice you. Nothing overt or over the top, but maybe make an extra effort to pull him aside and talk to him. I was and still am a bit of a shy person. But the military helped me to break out of that shell. You have to approach people and talk to them. Trust me. He'll probably surprise you.

All guys like the physical stuff on a woman. THat doesn't matter as much as talking and getting to know a girl. And just because he's mostly dated white girls is nothing. Take it from a black man, pretty much ALL brothas love sistahs. So don't be embarrassed. Believe that you have more to offer than the physical.

Well...that's a large part of the problem! Don't sit at the back of the class girl! How would ANY guy ever notice you??? I told you. You're cute as hell. A pretty sistah. Yes, with the glasses off as well but that doesn't matter. Again, be CONFIDENT in yourself and try to put yourself out there more. You're about to go into the real world and guys are going to notice you a whole lot more. So don't be surprised if you're randomly approached by a guy for being pretty. Just start to come out of your shell a little. Trust me. This guy will notice or he's just a plain fool and you REALLY don't want a guy like that. So good luck and I hope I helped you some.:smt023

 

Little sister,
You have been given the most sincere advice and encouragement from some of the brightest female minds on this site,.. so take heed and remember what they wrote to you….
But for me…..your case is gut wrenching….because years ago I made the same decision as your dream guy. I however, made that choice because when I was in high-school, it was very rare to find a black girlfriend with your class and honesty and sweetness and good looks……so listen to me when I tell you that you appear to have all of these qualities as a little lady. And so even if this dream guy does not look your way, you should not be discouraged because time is on your side…and I promise you….love will find you someday soon and wrap you in the arms of a man who is more deserving of your young innocent heart.

 

hey sashaisminniemouse!
you sure do have a chance! because almost all the black men who are attracted to white women are usally attracted to black women as well. you are a woman thats the key words. and you look beautiful in my opinion! and even though he is popular and everything, he is a man, a human just like you are. so dont look at him as something unaccessible, ok? and yea, just everybody said, just try and see what happens.

Good luck!!! :smt109

 

lol @ "does a black girl have a chance"

You are our blood,so ull always have a chance.

 

A black woman asking white women for advice on how to attract a black man; that's a new one.

Contrary to popular opinion, most black men prefer black women and if the target of your affections does not, they are millions of black men who do.

Just remember that it's only one guy.

 

true

 

My brothers Satyricon and Tornto23,
I humbly stand to be corrected and you should feel free to set me straight if I am out of line ….but ……..is this not a girl. She describes her self as a girl!...... and her tone has humility and innocence. She sounds like she’s hurting……She is not a battle hardened grown woman……she is a kid with puppy love infatuation over this popular high school baller
She sounds so defeated emotionally, that she has turn to the source of her pain for self re-assurance….. I think that’s very sad. The 3 of us most likely all have in common, similar taste in women because we all enjoy this site……but all or some of you must certainly have a little sister or cousin who might have to go through this.
Don’t tell me that we are so far consumed in our quest to enjoy the lovely women on the site, that we can’t ever look back home with some sympathy.

 

There's not a BM in this Country that hasn't been in your position.

We just have the sense not to sweat a woman that prefers WM.

Get in where you fit in.

 

What everyone else said but really, I'm sorry if I sound rude but why are you even using this forum?

Many black women and white men and whatever inbetween have joined this forum saying they're "researching" IR dating or curious but really what they gradually start doing is downing black men or white women and trying to "convert" the guys here.

Sorry, I don't get why you'd want to join this site? I have no desire to join a BM/BW, AW/WM, BM/AW, BW/WM or even BM/BM, WM/BM (lol) etc... forum. I'm not even curious.

Maybe I'm alone here. I don't mean to be rude, you seem very nice and all I just don't get it, at all.

 

Sistas and WM are always trying to worm their way into where they don't belong.