do you think she should be concerned?

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by goodlove, Jun 23, 2015.

  1. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

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    In summation she believes her man is crossing boundaries when he spend time with the kids and thus blurring the lines with the mother. You have to listen to the video for details.

    Do you think he does blurr the lines?

    Should she be concerned?
     
    goodlove, Jun 23, 2015
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  2. K

    K Well-Known Member

    I have to go with Steve on this one. The dude is still immeshed with the ex.

    It's not a matter of boundaries being blurred. There aren't any boundaries.

    They didn't say how old the kids are. But unless there was some major issue, there is no reason he needs to be doing all his visitation at the mom's house, shopping with her, etc.

    This guy isn't behaving like a man who's wanting to create a relationship with the new one. It's not up to her to push the situation or make demands. He's not a single man in the way he's living, she should move on.
     
    K, Jun 23, 2015
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  3. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    U think somethings up?

     
    goodlove, Jun 23, 2015
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  4. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    Agreed.

    The man's "relationship" with the letter writer obviously isn't as serious to him as it is to her. If they actually had a serious relationship, then it would make sense to establish some boundaries. Since that's evidently not the case, she has no business making demands or having expectations as though he owes it to her fulfill them. Other than honesty he owes her nothing in this situation, and he's made it very clear that he's happy with the status quo and has no intention to change what he's doing. That leaves her with two choices, either accept it or move the hell on.

    It's also obvious that relationship between him and his ex involves more than parenting their kids, so she should move on and find a man who's not involved with anyone else and who wants the same things she does. She's wasting her time with this guy.
     
    Tamstrong, Jun 23, 2015
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  5. K

    K Well-Known Member

    No clue. It doesn't really matter. Obviously, the guy isn't in the right place to be getting involved with someone else.

    Why get involved with someone who's that entangled with an ex?
     
    K, Jun 23, 2015
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  6. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    I've been wondering, GL...why don't you use the original thread you created for posting Strawberry Letters? JMO, but it would make more sense to post them all there rather than making a new thread for each one; not only so they're all in one place, but also to keep the thread active.
     
    Tamstrong, Jun 24, 2015
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  7. goodlove

    goodlove New Member

    I wouldve but no one didnt participate in the other ones.

    I got a random health talk thread with good stuff in there and no one really participated in that...

    http://www.whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/showthread.php?t=26887

    In it example is an article on E.D.

    So i seperated it and gave the juicy title to participate.

    Ill do a random relationship if people take part
     
    goodlove, Jun 24, 2015
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  8. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member


    Part of the participation would be posting additional letters & videos in the original thread where Strawberry Letters was the topic. Then the folks who respond to the next letter will be participating as well, and the thread will continue to grow. It defeats the purpose to make so many threads on the same topic. That's the point I was making. You ought to ask Webbie to merge them all together for you.

    As for the random health thread, just keep on posting in there. Folks may not be responding to it a lot, but they're still checking out the info you're posting in there.
     
    Tamstrong, Jun 24, 2015
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