Do you still feel guilty?

I don't know if the group asked this question or not. But for a while I felt a little guilty at the beginning of my interracial dating experience for "crossing the color line" and dating white women. But over time, I realized my attraction was not a passing fad and instead a perpetual preference. I'm with a gorgeous white woman now and I only see myself with white women from now on even if this relationship should not work out. If they do, it is time that black men and white women not feel guilty about the powerful attraction that they can have for one another. People are saying being gay/lesbian is biologic so why should we who enjoy being in BM/WW IR relationships be ashamed of our attraction? Does anybody here still harbor a little guilt over your decision to date BM/WW?

 

Hell no! That only lasted about a week. I guess for me it didn't last long because I've always thought, I like who I like no matter what they look like. I understand what you are saying though. It's like other people of your same color are looking at you like you just stepped into the "forbidden zone". I thought long and hard before taking that step and decided that I couldn't let other people bring me down and I have to worry about making me happy, not everyone else. And, I definitely don't think your attraction is a "passing fad". You like ww and that will never go away. It's ok, join the club, that's why you're on this website right? We're all here for ya!

 

Thank you, Jacie! I LOVE white women! The sexual attraction was there for a while; I couldn't help but stare at a gorgeous white woman when i saw her. I came to realize that I had a desire to be with a white woman more than any other woman. Dating white women was one of the best decision's I've made in my life. There is nothing like being in a loving, intimate relationship with a gorgeous white woman. My voluptuous, blue-eyed, true redhead ("The Flame" as I call her!) knows how to make a black man feel like a million bucks! Being part of the BM/WW club is a great thing!

 

Guilty?

:? I never truly felt guilty perse, but I had to come to terms with how I actually felt. When I was younger, I used to act as if my preferences were "open," when in fact, deep down I knew I was strongly attracted to white women, and now, it's not at all for the "novelty" factor. It feels good to be true to yourself.

 

I never felt guilty at all with my b/f - just proud and happy. But maybe being on the down slide of 35 has something to do with that - I certainly care much less of what other people think of me than 15 yrs ago, I'm sure that extends to my dating choices.

 

yep!

 

I guess I was the same as Natedogg2772. I thought that I needed to stop trying to have relationships with white women. I thought it was a fad or something related to western ideology. I remember as a kid and in junior high that I liked white women and I saw it in high school. I liked black women at the time still but I realized I had more fun with white women and they were more understanding of me. Years later, I had tried to see if I can find a great black woman to make me have more faith in dating with in my own ethnic group to no avail. I even tried to search for black women to be with online but I didn't find them attractive necessarily (not that they were ugly) but it just didn't appeal to me as much as seeing a white women. Now, I know I might get some flames but I honestly don't care if I am together with someone who is of European descent necessarily. Although I know that I have a better connection with non-black women. Currently, I don't feel guilty though I think about it sometimes but then I realize when I was with a woman from another ethnic group I generally felt better and happier.

For example, last night my friend went to go see his dancer friend (she is an 8 and white) at a dance piece. I was a little late and came in and then these two black women came in afterwards. Immediately both women came and stared at me like saying "get the fuck away from me" and I am thinking I didn't do anything to you. Well, I know it can happen with in any culture but it happens still with me in the black women. I don't what I do but just walking past them always makes them want to flat out stare at me strangely.

So, I feel it sometimes but generally I know that dating white (or other ethnic groups) is better for me in the long run and I don't feel guilty.

 

No i do not feel guilty. I have for the longest time holdover in having black women as my choice. It was not until recent years that i went IR. My first dates were with latinas. I met an asian female who was korean. We had a good time. It was not until I met my current girlfriend that i remain with now two years almost. I never regret being with her. I think it's how i was treated. I found the relatioships with non-black women to have been so exciting in terms of their willingness to let you be the man in their lives. I did not get that with black women whom i once dated. It was always competitive in those relationships if you brothers know what i mean.

 

No

I will never feel guilty for going after what I want. You only have one life to live. Live it on your terms.

 

Nope, never felt guilty for a second!!! I refuse to look back on my life and say "I wish" or "if only I had" because I wasn't strong enough to date who I wanted to date. Hell, my dad, sister, aunt, and a whole list of family members have a problem with my current lady......F*#K 'EM!!!

 

Never felt guilty about a damn thing.

 

Hell no

WM sure as hell don't feel guilty

BW sure as hell don't feel guilty

Asian women don't feel guitly

 

Nope, not for one second. I no what I love and I don't care who knows it. 8)

 

I never would feel guilty.

I agree with hearts

 

Honestly, i was on a long guilt trip for a long time until i later realized that people would be people regardless of circumstances.

 

I have no guilt because, all throughout highschool, and the college years, I tried to date black women, but got shot down, (and dissed) like a Kamakazi over Hiroshima, all the while, I was being hawked by White Women like buzzards flying over lame bison on the Serengeti.

And...

I always felt much more appreciated by White Women, than I do black women, even still to today.

Somebody knows what I'm saying.
So can I get an Amen?

 

"Guilty", my ASS!

The ONLY time that Yours Truly would EVER even "entertain" the thought of feeling guilty would be:

IF any detractors/disagreers/haters were....

Paying my bills....

Putting food on my plate....

Providing a roof over my head....

Furnishing my income... (i.e. 'weekly allowance'....I ain't no KID!)




If ANYONE can EVER be responsible for my EVER being indebted for ANYTHING described above....

I **MIGHT** consider what they would, uh, "suggest"....

And even then...being an ADULT....

I *STILL* might tell 'em go fuck themselves..............

Need I say MORE?!?




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Amen, bro! I woke up one day not long after I started dating ww and said "WTF? No more guilt! This is what I want. I dig ww and I nothing else!" Being appreciated by ww is the best and it makes your masculinity fully assert isself. When that happens, any guilt that exists just goes out the window!

 

Nope....you said it all, man!

 

Let me go one better, instead of guilt, I feel an enormous sense of pride when I step out with my girl, I like public displays of affection, and won't hesitate to flaunt her in front of whoever, I'll grab some ass, or get a peck on the lips from her whenever I feel the need while in public, and gives a damn who don't like it. My love for her is colorblind, and my happiness to be with her is showed any way I can.

A very wise man once said...
"It ain't right, unless she's White"!

Genious.