Divorce and Custody...

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Making one now...

 

I think it should be based on gender as well. Boys need a father to learn how to be a man little girls need to learn how to be women. Who else could be a better teacher?

 

After reading several posts this morning, I'm re-assessing...

 

Are you talking (quoting) yourself today?

We'll allow you to change your answer though. Special circumstances. :smt042

 

Yeah, I talk to myself alot. Lol!

I was feeling pretty generous last night. But I read a couple of questionable posts this morning, and thought "Maybe I spoke too soon...!"

 

This is one time I can actually agree with to huge degree. It was hard for me to swallow that I was not best for my son. Sure I took care of him, provided for his needs, went well out of my way to help his father be in his sons life by driving those long drives to take him there and even bailing him out of jail and giving him a couch to sleep on trying to help him get his mess together so he could be a regular in his child life that so desperately needed him. I was there emotionally and certainly wasn't a bad mother but I had to face the reality that I am a mother, not a father and sometimes little boys fair better with their fathers b/c I could raise him but I could never teach him to be a man.

 

Exactly. I wish more women would recognize that(the ones using their kids as bargaining chips)

 

haha this is overrated. First of all, what does "being a man" really mean anyway? It doesn't make a great deal of sense as there are different types of men and women, which is what makes us individuals. Rather than focus on raising someone to "be a man", the focus should revolve around raising them to be a self-reliant adult.

 

I agree with you, S.

Regina - There are several guys on this board who say they were raised by women only with no father around. They don't seem to be lacking in "being men".

There are many more qualities, beyond what sex you are, that determine how good at parenting you will be.

 

By that logic you don't need parents at all lol. I think if you ask most dudes if having their dad around made an impact on what it means to be a man they would say yes. Like knowing when and how to fight is something a lot of women can't teach their sons or how to approach and get women or taking on a protector role(there's a major difference in the way a woman is protective opposed to a man). I'm not saying its impossible but usually a woman has to enlist the help of an uncle grandfather or some other male to help out.

 

way off on that one. Trust me yrma is on point with that. I will take it a step further.
if it wasnt for a woman's pride and want to be a part of the "Im a strong single mother" then she would let the man have custody if the dude ask.

hell the woman wouldnt stop the car for the kids to get out..she would scream "tuck and roll kids ..I aint stopping the car. hold on to your bags so the clothes will not come out".

 

I'll let the guys on this board who have been raised by women speak up and answer. I bet they could kick your's and goodlove's ass with one leg tied behind them. Fighting is overated anyhow.

That's like saying if ymra's daughter lived with him she wouldn't learn to be a woman or know how to cook. This isn't 1950 Ward, men and women have blurred the gender lines.

You are about as sexist as they come.

 

Don't quote me or talk to me and we'll all be happy. You don't make sense. I keep reading that second paragraph and yeah .......no sense.

So just do us a favor and keep your interaction to others here.

 

This whole "being a man" nonsense has to stop, it's fucking archaic and usually represents some skewed vision of what emanates naturally from male instinct.

Andre you don't need to be fighting anybody with the shape you're in. Just run down the street screaming.

 

And you're about as slow as they come. Fighting is overrated to you because that's not something most women grow up dealing with but men do.
There are a lot of things Ymra wouldn't begood at with his daughter since he's a male and he'd be the first one to tell you that. This is all out of his playbook anyway.

 

I agree with both of you. The ability to nurture is not restricted to women. The ability to teach independence and strength is not restricted to men.

By the way, I'll never understand the whole machismo preoccupation with the supposed need for fighting. Personally, I've never felt the need to "prepare for battle" against some unknown assailant at some unmarked point in time.

 

there you go rite there

the only people profiting from women fighting men in seeing the kids are the atty's and the court system.

if they sat down and think about their actions they would see the following:

1) waste of time because the courts will tell the women he has the right to see the kids

2) waste of money. see intro

and lastly

3) waste of energy

then why women do it.......

1) str8 up hate

2) they have a new man and they are using the kid(s) to make him stay. the new dude will sometimes put on his cape and get attached to the kids or pretend he is a catch to get the nappy dug out.

eventually the women play themselves.

all women love the typical answer to that question.....some women just dont want it put into action because they arent woman enough to handle it.

your problem is that you are one of the people who is mad that I will not diss black women to make you feel good.

whats really funny ? if Im not making sense then why is everyone able to respond accurately to what Im saying? its very obvious your are the moron.

do yourself a favor and put me on ignore .....dumbass