Disgrace to all blacks.

Thanks Sarah. I watched a TV programme last night on C4 - guy in London who traced his roots back to Jamaica then to Nigeria and it was pretty heart rendering for him - and me too watching him deal with his emotions. I do understand where Ladyzeeman's coming from, my kids are more than likely the descendants of slaves themselves, both their Grandparents are Jamaican and yeah it is a tetchy subject, but you know in the now 16 years Ive been with my partner, we've never discussed the subject. It has never come up once.

 

I know this may sound like a typical ignorant comment, but you wouldn't really understand. That is why he probably never brought up the subject.

But to answer some of the other questions directed to me, yes ANYTIME a black person does something negative, it does affect us. Why even deny it? It's like a arab man saying bin ladin's actions did not affect all arab people. Bullshit. I know it's not right and it shouldn't be that way, but it is. It's just reality.

And why should white people feel a negative action by another white person is a disgrace to all whites? They are the majority. Why should they give a damn what other races feel about them? But go to Jamaica, south africa,tc where whites are the minorities. They definately care about their image there. Why? Because they're the minority.

 

No, sorry Soul you are wrong. Its never come up in conversation as it doesnt affect us, our relationship or our children. His parents who are in their 80's dont discuss it either, maybe they see it as a taboo subject, but I know a lot of elder black people whose childrens partners are white, hence have mixed race grandchildren and they never mention it either. We did broach a little on it last night in conversation when speaking about his childhood in Kingston, but to be honest, it was neither here or there.

 

If your partner is Jamaican, I don't understand how it doesn't affect him. Or your kids who are half. Or has your husband traced his roots back to africa, or he just doesn't care? I don't think we fully understand each other.

 

I dont know what you are getting at either soul. Do you want me to say he talks of it every day its detremental to his life? It doesnt affect him in any way shape or form, he sees it as the past.

He was raised by his Granny in Jamaica and as he is 50 now Im sure she broached the subject in some way shape or form with him as it would have affected her life Im sure. It doesnt affect my kids as they are still very young but I have told my 5 year old certain things delicately. I basically raise my kids single handedly with minimum input from their Dad and I feel this subject is one that it will be me approaching with them, not him so Im sure when the times right you'll be there for advice!! Joking, no I have a lot of female black friends and male friends who work in the community and teaching and they will have the information I need as and when required.