Dealing with children from a previous marriage...

All I can say in this one is, I totally agree with TheChosenOne. (as usual, ha ha)

 

You've got to love the word WANG, it really is funny...

 

This isn't necessarily true. Some WW go on to marry and have children with WM after first having them with BM. All WM aren't closed minded and do accept raising and nurturing biracial children.

 

what the???

I agree with that!!! :smt038 I know 2 women with biracial children who are now married to white men and a few who date white men who have biracial kids. My own father has been with a women for 10 years who has a 19 yr old biracial daughter. Her daughter who now has her own son by a black man, the baby is 2 which is her very dark grandchild. It is a trip when she tells people that's her grandchild and they are looking at my dad and her both white and the baby is pretty dark. We have an original situation. My dad met her 1 month before I met my husband who is black. So we've been together about 10 yrs. He strongly objected to my relationship. :smt102 :smt102 He felt rejected by me for some reason. I told him there was no difference between me and my husband being together than him and his woman (being that she had a biracial daughter). THis is deep. .... When she first came to the house.. I still lived at home.. had not even met my husband yet.. was dating no one... My dad says "THe lady I'm going out with tonight is coming over to meet you in a little while and she bringing her daughter and she looks black... he smiles and says.. don't say anything. I was thinking .. If you only knew. She came and sure enough her daughter was as tan as my husband is now. She has 2 other kids whiter than I am and she always said her husband cheated on her. To MAKE IT SOOOOOO BAD SHE ALWAYS SAID ALL 3 OF HER KIDS WERE BY THE SAME MAN. i CAN'T STAND THIS WOMAN.!!! :evil: Obviously her 3rd daughter was out of an affair she had on her 1st 2 kids dad. She told everybody the girl was German and French, thats why her hair is like that. THey had , I'll call her Laur soo messed up in the head!!!!!!! She would show me pictures and say I look so black in that picture and I'm like YEAH!!!!! :shock: THey would use the n word around her and everything, :x like she wasn't half black. Her moma even took the whiteman to court for support of Laur. He paid it. :?: I always wondered how could she see herself in a mirror and convince herself she was white???? I tried to get in the middle of it when my dad was threatening to kick me out as a teenager for seeing who is now my husband. :smt084 He said I was choosing black people over my family :roll: and I said what about Laur? :smt022 You know she's not white and you are with her moma. He said, " I don't want to hear that Sh-t, She said she's not and untill I find out further, I don't want to hear another damn word." So down the road , he went to Laur's RECITAL, MISS GERMAN AND FRENCH over MY WEDDING. TO break it down to any confused he went to a biracial girls recital (his girlfriends daughter) over my (his own daughter)'s wedding ??? Because his so called woman, denied her race. He knew it but lied to himself. ANYWAY! Here we are 10 yrs, 2 biracial kids of my own :smt049 :smt052 , a marriage. Laur was pulled aside by people in our town since she is older now and made aware just last May 2005 just after graduation, that she has a black family too. Her biological father has been here all along. My dad came around for me but has yet to bring up the bones in there closet. Laur called and told me all about it. They had domestic violence and all going on, :axe: because her moma still did not want her to know her black family. Ya'll just don't know what all I went through over that mess! I had so much of it to the point I did not care what they did anymore if they were that ignorant. I used to argue about it back in the day because I felt I had to defend myself but now I feel like I am sitting pretty. :wink: Why ? :idea: Because, Laur told her moma and my daddy that I know everything about who her dad is and her REAL FAMILY (black). I haven't said a word. :lol: I can tell for about 6 mos every time my dad comes around he is waiting for me to say, "I told you so," because of how wrong I was done in this situation, but it gives me great satisfaction just for him to know that "I KNOW" AND don't have to say a word. 8) He is still with her ? I guess finding out "different," didn't change his mind about being with Biggun after all :smt005 . He still likes her big white butt :roll: even if she did have a birracial child which originally he said he did not approve of ! :smt104

 

I think it's crazy that women are willing to accept my kids as they own... especially when they don't even have any.

Accepting white kids ain't no problem for me, white kids love me.

 

I am sure your lil men would love me...all I have to do is cook for them . Poor lil punkins....actually, funny you say this. I thought about this very subject today.

I don't know how a wm would feel about my mixed children; however I really don't care. I care MORE about how MY KIDS would feel about him.

 

Agreed. I think that's why I'm so stuck on keeping my relationships casual right now...the thought of having someone so important in my life that I actually introduce him to my kids scares the shit out of me. Just not ready to go there yet.

 

Hahaha my kids would absolutely adore you, they probably would kick me out of the house.

 

having to parent someone elses child(ren) is very touchy