Dating outside your religion

I wonder what people think about dating or marrying people who were atheist or non-Christians. Would you ever marry an atheist?

Now I'm not atheist and personally can't see myself with one. But I guess I'll have to reconsider since atheism is high nowadays, especially among people in my generation.


(I don't want anybody flaming me or leaving personal attacks just because I make a thread. I've noticed that lately.)

Edit* People love giving me bad rep, don't they? Let the haters and the enemies slide!:smt067

 

Yeah, it's not an issue to me, to be honest. As long as they were decent enough to respect the fact that I do believe in God and not attempt to undermine me every two minutes, we're cool.
There aren't a lot of religious people in Britain. Most of my friends are Atheists so it's something I've grown up with.

 

Well, IMO, I imagine that marriage to an athiest would be void since it's an oath under God and athiests don't believe in any God whatsoever? So, I think it would be tricky and need modified. I would definitely marry an athiest, in fact, I think that my fiance is turning atheist on me or he was just upset. I'll find out. If so, I'll make him take a blood oath instead. I'm for people having the freedom to believe whatever they want so whatever the other person wants to believe won't stop how I feel about them. I think that if people are going to marry "interfaithly", then they should have two weddings. One each for their own religions or find a way to merge the two faiths together when they get married.

 

Being an Atheist, don´t mean that u don´t have a ethical mind set.
I am religious, but I belong to a relgious minority and dating outisde my nationalaties and race, religion is one point where probably I won´t find a person who has the same religion.
For me that is not a big problem.
My partner should just respect me with my believes, I do the same with his.

One important thing is, I would not get a religious marriage if the partner has an other religion. That would meen for me, aproving for my own life with the other relgion, what it is not possible for me.
Like when u get married the christian way, u have to enter inside the religion, and I just would not do so, even not just for the great cermony like some people do it here in Germany.
That would mean that I lie at a very important point of my own believes.

 

That's the problem with people, they pick and choose what they want. Most people don't asossiate marriage with religion anymore and most people I know that are atheists still want to get married and don't see any links with religion what-so-ever.
And how come your fiance has decided that? I thought he was pretty set on being a muslim?

 

IMO, I think it's a good thing to be able to pick and choose what you want. I think that what you do and what you believe should be "yours" and true to yourself, and not what someone else tells you that you should do and believe. I'm just not sure how an athiest could vow under God when they don't believe in one, if they were to marry someone who believed that it's required and wanted to get married the traditional Christian way. I also think that marriage should be more about the two people involved than it is about their religions, if that's something they believe they can do :smile:. It's my belief that marriage really is a vow to your partner anyway, with or without God/whatever one believes in.

I'm not really sure, because he didn't elaborate. I'll find out. I'm thinking he might have just had a bad day and wanted to blame it on something. It happens. But whatever he chooses, I'll always be there.

 

I'd find it hard to be in a long term relationship with someone who was religious.

 

I kinda agree with you, but you get people like Westboro Baptist Church who pick parts of the bible they agree with and void the rest to suit their extremist views [against homosexuality].

 

One of my good friends is Catholic and married to an atheist. She has said a number of times how much she dislikes sitting in the pew alone, watching all the families sitting together.

While I wont say that I would never marry someone of another faith, I will say thank Allah I have a believing husband to share one of the most beautiful parts of my life.

 

I do agree with you to a point. There are certain parts of my religion that I don't agree with, mostly because it's so old school and a lot of things don't apply to modern times at all, but my issue is with people choosing things like a traditional Christian wedding, or a traditional Christian funeral just because it looks better. Or people that claim to be against abortion because it's 'Gods' Gift' when they have never even set eyes on a church.
I'm the same as you, though. Eventually I do want to get married but I'm not going to do it for religious reasons but for the tax benifits (I jest, I jest). If my fiance is going to be Christian then yeah, I'd like a Christian wedding but otherwise I won't stand there and have him swear to God just because I want a nice church wedding.

 

So you wouldn't marry someone who supported abortion?

I'm not against abortion nor do I support it. People can do whatever they want.

 

Nah, that's not what I meant.
I'm pro-choice. I just don't like it when people that have no morals in all other aspects of their lives claim to be all high and mighty and against abortion because it's a gift from God, when they aren't actually religious at al.
It's a pet peeve of mine because i've met SO many people like that in my area. My stupid cousin got his first ever girlfriend pregnant after two months of them being together and said he wouldn't even consider abortion because a baby is Gods' gift. He's never, EVER been to a church. If he said 'I want to keep the kid' without any bullshit excuse, fair enough, but having all this religious reasoning coming from someone that doesn't even know what religion he's claiming to be is just crap.

 

Well as a person who does go to church, I have to say that I support about a little. If a woman accidentally gets pregnant and the man doesn't want the child, she should either get an abortion or just the thing and trap the guy for 18 years.

Considering that teenage pregnancy is high nowadays, why not. The world shouldn't have to suffer because they couldn't afford that abortion when they should have gotten one.

I know it's harsh, but that's me. People in this generation are lacking sex educational skills these days.

 

Like I said, I'm pro-choice.
If I somehow got pregnant now (lets be honest, at the moment my love life isn't THAT exciting) I wouldn't keep the child. My friend got pregnant when she was 19 and I went with her to get her abortion because it would not have been right for her to have the child. She wasn't mentally or financially ready for it at all.
I don't think that a woman should get rid of the child if the man didn't want it though. I personally know a lot of single mothers who have raised/are raising their children much better than those with a partner.

My cousin takes drugs, lives with his mother, works two nights a week in a scummy pub and spends all of his money on alcohol. He wasn't ready for a child but that was their business to have it. What I'm trying to say is that someone who is not religious should not claim to be anti-abortion for religious reasons.

 

I wouldn't even be with an atheist, not even talking about marriage. just because my faith s a big part of my life. I'm not Christian myself though, and I wouldn't mind my husband to belong to any of religions. he just got to have a faith in his heart. thats all i need.

 

Now that's the spirit. I wish I had a girl like that - if she got pregnant, get an abortion. But it's impossible that she'll ever get pregnant because I'm already on the mindset of getting permanently fixed.

 

Haha, I'm not saying that I'd never have children. Eventually I do want one but I'm focusing on my career at the moment.

 

I'm focusing on mine at the moment as well.

 

I probably wouldn't date someone outside of my faith

 

Thanks for taking every opportunity you get a chance to mention that you want your balls snipped.