Dating Options for Black Male Professors in College?

So I'm considering one or two possible teaching offers at some universites in the Northeast and in Florida and I was wondering if anyone here, male or female has once before worked as a teacher within a college setting? It must be difficult for teachers to find mates given the ethical issues that govern them as they go about their jobs. I certainly won't consider risking my job by attempting to date a woman in a class I'm teaching, but I was wondering if perhaps even dating anyone within the University who's not one of my students can be detrimental. As a college professor, you have to be discreet about what you do and can't be seen chasing women around from left to right like a regular guy would. So what then are the options? Night clubs certainly aren't the best places to meet good women at all, and I've met superficial people even in bookstores, not to mention the gym.

 

Get tenure first since if you don't your job would be in trouble. Profs don't hook up with students.

 

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Understood. The question then remains...where then do intellectual men meet women, given that even most of the locations I mentioned earlier aren't the best places if you're looking for a quality mate?

 

How about considering your coworkers and collegues from other colleges, rather than your students? There have to be some single, atractive women amongst them...

I'm also thining "the internet"... Probably beause that's where I met my man.:smt003 I don't know how "quality" we are though, nor what you mean by "quality"- but I'm the least educated of us, and I've got a masters.

 

Ronja what part of Scandinavia are you from? Sweden,Denmark,or Norway?

 

I really don't feel comfortable telling that, since (in my world) Scandinavia is a really small, limited place. By telling, I feel I might loose my anonymity (I would tell you in private though, but PM's don't seem to work on this board.)

If I did feel comfortable telling my exact location, I would probably have written it

Hope you understand

 

Hmmm...Ronja why do I feel you are from Denmark...maybe Aarhus or Kobenhavn?

I spent some time in those two cities (with my Danish then-girlfriend) wonderful country Denmark...

Well, of course you could be from Stockholm or Trondheim...

 

Haha. Why is it that as soon as you tell people you don't wanna tell where you live, people start guessing? (It has happened on other forums as well...)

Anyway, I'm not going to comment how right/wrong you are in your guessing

There are less than 20mill people living in Scandinavia. Considering there are cities with a higher population than that, I think "Scandinavia" is detailed enough...

All the ciites you mentioned are nice though. I especially like København. I also enjoy Malmö, even though that's supposed to be the Scandinavian version of a ghetto (high crime, high poverty etc). Whenever I'm in København, I'll usually take a few houres in Malmö as well.

 

Really..you've actually had success with the internet dating?? I've come to the conclusion that it absolutely, positively, DOES NOT work. Well for me at least. :wink:

 

Absolutely! Huge success!

I'm so in love that I'm about to die! We have so much to talk about, and the sex is the best ever. But as in real life, of course you have to be selective.

I choose a paysite (one night when I was feeling fairly desperate, depressed and lonely), because I was thinking people there are more serious. Also I was extremely honnest in my profile. I mailed with several, but one guy really impressed me. I just loved the way he expressed himself... hard to describe it... After some mailing, and then som chatting on MSN, I gave him my phone number. Since we communicated really easily on the phone as well, after a while we decided to meet. From we started mailing, until we met, I guess it took about 3 months. But when we finally did meet, it took aprox 2 houres before we were f***ing like crazy. (I'm normally a good girl! Really! I promise!)

Only downside to dating on the net, is that you gotta be prepared for a long distance relationship for a while. But he is aplying for jobs where I live now Anyone wanna cross their fingers or say a prayer for us, please do. As everyone on this forum probably know ,institutional racism is a big problem everywhere, even if we don't like to admit it. Even getting an interview is hard with an african name...

When we've saved some money, we might move to Cameroon- or somewhere else we both find jobs. (Actually I will move to Africa one day even if things don't work out between me and my BF. I love Africa. I love the way there's music everywhere, and people everywhere, and the way the ground is so incredibly red...I've only been in the southern parts of Africa, but I generally feel more welcome, and at home there, than I do here. Wouldn't want to move to somewhere unsafe of course, but there are lots of stable countries. People in general are very surprised when I say I'd like to move to Africa one day. It's like they believe the whole continent is like Darfur. )

 

Well Ronja, i will cross my fingers/say a prayer for you, because you've done the impossible, and that's make an internet relationship a success. For a while i thought it was possible, but i've encountered so many fake people/liars, i just stopped wasting my time with it. I truly do hope that things work out with you and your guy. I for one, am very happy and excited for you! By the way, about you going at it only 2 hours of meeting each other in person, i don't blame you. I mean, with that long wait to see each other and all..lol :wink:

 

Ronja,Scaninavia is not a small place since it has five countries. I come to some of them and it would be doubtful that a person can find you by nation alone. My nation the States does not have knoledge to the world and if you did mention the nation of your residence it would be know most to be cookie maker or the little mermaid or if furher north a land of tall blond women. I love maps and geography and there is more than the stereotypes being menitoned.

 

Thank you

Sorry you've had bad experiences with online dating. I guess I've been lucky. But one have to have some luck no matter how you try to meet someone.

 

First of all, Scandinavia is 3 countries. Norway, Denmark and Sweden. The Nordic countries however, are 5 countries (No, Dk, S + Finland and Iceland). I know you forreginers often don't know this, and even disagree (I've had that discussion sooo many times) since you don't always distinguish between "the Nordic" and "Scandinavia" in your daily speaking. But that's how Scandinavians and "Nordics" will tell you it is :lol:

Second: I disagree. It's a small place!

The rest of what you're writing I totally agree on. I still don't feel like outing my whereabouts though. The chance I'd get recognized is slim, but it's there

 

Unless you live in one of those islands near Denmark or Sweden,Scandinavia is not a small place. As for your whearabouts I wonder if you are from this region or know if your country was involved in the slave trade many centuries back.

 

It's not very small in area, but it is small in population. I'm not telling which country I'm from, and you should respect it. I also don't like being told how big/small Scandinavia is, especially from someone who have probably never even been here.

I'm born and raised here, and have relatives in all 3 countries.

Yes, I know if my country were involved with slave trade. But what have that got to do with anything?

(Anyway, if you didn't know almost all European countries (with coastline) benefited of the slave-trade in one way or another. For instance by renting out parts of their fleet to the British. Most don't like to admit it though, and keep it as a deep dark secret.)

 

Not many people in your country knows that their countrymen was involved in the slave trade. The relatives of the royals had slave ships being built and fortresses contructed in Africa and elsewhere.

 

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Thanks for your feedback, Edith. I wouldn't risk taking part in adultery, though.

 

shaft...i have dated two black male professors...i met them both on line...both have mentioned how important it was for them to maintain their reputations by not dating anyone on campus...one is a history professor and the other teaches acting...they both feel like they are a diabetic kids in candy stores...you can look but don't touch...
good luck to you!