dads getting recognized

on gma this morning profiled a picture of a man taking care of the kids (combing daughters hair).

im not suprised he was doing this. i bathed my daughter and changed diapers. my friends did same. so y r we shocked?

 

i dont know where the *shocking* is coming from.
i personally wouldnt be, i would sit back and smile. i guess some ppl think when they see a man taking care of his kids the mother doesnt. that that is not necessarily right should be obvious, but sad to say it s not.
it s a great thing if a man cares for his kids, and taking some jobs from the mom only shows to me, that he cares for her aswell.

 

It's just rarer to see dads get really involved, despite the fact that there are more stay-at-home dads as of recent. Again, gender stereotypes will kick in horrendously by the Le Dick community.

 

was it this picture?

 

I think the tide has surely shifted to the more involved Dad, I know that picture was/is me and most of my friends' every day life.

As the survey below suggests, the detached dad, turning up his nose at diapering and too busy to bathe, dress and play with his kids, is mostly a myth. Most American fathers say they are heavily involved in hands-on parenting, the researchers found.

http://www.desmoinesregister.com/viewart/20131221/NEWS/312210046/Survey-Dads-more-involved-kids

Also, the benefits of having a father involved in raising his children are pretty clear. Researchers have been studying this issue for decades. For instance, did you know that ...?

• babies as young as three months old can tell the difference between their mother and father. They can tell by the way each speaks to them, holds them, and by their different smells.
• research has shown that children whose fathers are involved in rearing them score higher on cognitive tests (they seem smarter) than those with relatively uninvolved fathers.
• improved cognitive abilities are associated with higher educational achievement. In fact, fathers who are involved in their children's schools and academic achievement, regardless of their own educational level, are increasing the chances their child will graduate from high school, perhaps go to vocational school, or even to college.
• a father's involvement in children's school activities protects at-risk children from failing or dropping out
• research shows that fathers who are more involved with their children tend to raise children who experience more success in their career. Career success can lead to greater income and greater financial stability.
• involved fathering is related to lower rates of teen violence, delinquency, and other problems with the law.
• father involvement is associated with positive child characteristics such as empathy, self-esteem, self-control, psychological well-being, social competence, and life skills.
• children who grow up in homes with involved fathers are more likely to take an active and positive role in raising their own families. For example, fathers who recall a secure, loving relationship with both parents were more involved in the lives of their infants and more supportive to their wives. It is thought that having an involved father provides a role model for positive parenting, healthy caregiving, and a commitment to the family.

From a more anecdotal standpoint, I am helping to coach my sons middle school basketball team this year, and it is VERY EASY to tell which kids have an involved Dad in his life and which ones don't.

 

Utterly amazing. And as usual, an excellent post, Loki. :smt051:smt051

 

Interesting interview with the Dad in the picture, always good to see an intelligent, articulate BM on TV. He handles the racist backlash with class and intelligence...

http://www.cnn.com/video/data/2.0/video/us/2014/01/11/hln-intv-proud-dad-viral-pic-backlash.hln.html

 

Unbelievable, the negative comments aimed at him. *smh* Lots of talk in this country about absent, or uninvolved fathers and now you have a guy who is a great dad (how many men take paternity leave to bond with their child?! :heart and people still find something to be ugly about.

 

watched the video aswell and found my first impression confirmed.
he is just what he is suppose to be, a caring father and husband.
but reading some of the comments i must really ask myself, what s wrong with this people? it s terrifying how some are thinking, for real.

 

I understand why people will be shocked cus the fact of the matter is in the past, black men havent covered themselves in glory when it comes to the Dad department

 

Guarantee if his wife was black there would be far less back lash

 

Is your bias showing here?

 

No. Reality in NY take notes youngin lol

 

Was being sarcastic and dude i will be 40 this year so youngin i am not:smt005

 

*ahem* There is absolutely nothing sexier in this world than a devoted daddy. :smt060 :smt060 :smt060

IMO images like this shouldn't be that surprising, men have come such a long way in how they interact with their children. My ex does our daughters hair, he'll edge up our son, and he's always helped with handling their baths/dinner/homework etc. I'm so glad to see more and more men taking an active role in their kids lives. :smt023

 

Amen sister. You think you having kids is why you think it's hot

 

Yea probably. Pre-kids, I can't remember ever seeing a pic like the one above and getting all :smt007:smt007:smt007:smt007 over it...it just wasn't on my radar. Now that I have kids though, seeing something like that gets me all mushy lol. I'm a complete sucker for a man who cares for his kids like I care for mine.

 

That's the only reason he got backlash at all. One of the main reasons parents tell their daughters to stay away from bm is because it's stereotyped that we will knock you up and leave. The fact that this guy stayed, pisses racists off because they have one less alibi for anti-ir dating.

 

Pretty much.