Complimenting a girl

There's this girl at my job that I like. The other day, I seen her looking at me from the corner of my eye. sometimes she would look in my direction too. or when i walk by, she would turn her head as well. The problem is that I don't talk to her. I act mean or like a douche because I don't want it to be so obvious that i like her. she calls me by my name when she thanks me for doing something. I really want to compliment her on her looks. will that be weird? I don't want to do it because she may have a bf and i don't know what she will say or how she will react. she seems like a nice person though.

 

You sound like those little boys in school who would hit a girl or push her off the swings cause you really liked her.

Just cause you compliment her, is not gonna make you a bitch or a lame.

You can say something nice, but not over-the-top. Pick out something small. Like compliment her style or something she has on. Maybe if she has a nice smile, compliment that.

 

Dont compliment her- ever, atleast not until you know 110% that youre gonna hit it.

My suggestion: dont be a douchebag either- be an asshole, yes, be the biggest asshole shes ever seen, however dont exaggerate it. KNow your shit (around your work- life) and use complicating maths and scientific formulae and complex words to keep her in awe and feeling completely stupid. Trust me, feeling stupid will make her feel like talking to you more. And then start arguing with her (politics ,art etc), just remember that you are always right. You know your shit and have studied it inside out, so shes always wrong and youre always right. Do this for at least 3 weeks before asking her out. And compliment her only after the pussy has been given to you (in which case you need not compliment her at all)

 

You are always good for a laugh BMJ. :smt043

 

Laugh all you want, Ive been doing this shit since my early teens and it has never failed me, regardless who the woman was, her race or her age.

Im just providing sound advice to the lil fella,,,,,,,thats all.

 

I was gonna say that - BMJ, good job:smt079

And I am not trying to be mean TheBentBoner, but how old are you?
Covering up liking someone with being mean and a doushe - you should have left that on gradeschool schoolyard.

Just be yourself and compliment her on something she is wearing, just very simple and short. A few words will do, then move on to another subject. Dont over think it.

 

Yo my dude, dont listen to that.

In fact, do the exact opposite

 

Well by all means, stick with what works for you. Who knew there were so many sadists in the world willing to put up with that kinda crap though.

 

:smt042:smt042:smt042:smt042 Dude, start up a website. You are the new Tucker Max.

 

Its not about being a sadist, its about being a woman,,,,come on, get with the program.

And brotha Ajax- lol- follow my lead, i'll supply you with everything you need

 

I know how to be a woman, thanks for the tip though. Your approach, while apparently effective for you, would not work for all men, nor on all women. There may actually be women who respond to that, but I guarantee you all of us wouldn't. Now maybe you've just got some ass kicking charisma and that's how you pull it off, but it'd take something akin to a complete out of body experience for me to go for a man who took that approach.

 

:smt038

 

Oh dear, my friend, you are setting him up for failure...
You are not the average dude, and I dont think you do that all the time, it might work on some women, and I think you can peg that in a second.

 

Hmm...If you are shy very few women will go out with you. Just be confident, dress nice and smell good, funny and witty always works...just go for it with the mindset that the worst thing that can happen is that she says no. no biggie really, lots of fish in the sea...that first "no" means nothing anyway, some women if not most love when you pursue them like no one else has before(makes them feel love and wanted and they just cant resist giving you a chance) ...even if she doesnt like you at first you will grow on her...at least thats what i think...lol
so..if she said no to a first date just keep asking her almost everytime you see here or bump into her...this you have to do being really funny with lots of humor and wit...you dont want to look like a stalker...lol

oh and dont just ask her to go lout everytime...just hit on her in a funny way most of the time...make her laugh! anyway, i hate typing so much so ill just keep it short...

be funny, confident, persistent(without stalking.lol), witty, dress good and smell good.artyman:

 

Never be afraid to say something nice especially if you mean it. We all like attention, and hearing that someone appreciates us is a wonderful thing. I think she probably thinks your nice, but the shy thing is insecurity. Just tell her something like this.. " You know you always look so nice when you come to work." or something like that. I am sure she will be so happy to get a compliment from you she might even blush herself. You can even try it out on a total stranger if you feel uncomfortable approaching her with it. Just say something like that to a checkout girl in a supermarket, or a waitress. Somebody you might never see again, but a stranger. This way you will gain confidence and it will not seem so unfamiliar to you when you approach her. Trust me no woman ever refused a compliment. Keep it simple. Maybe just tell her she looks nice and leave it at that, see what develops. Chances are if she liked hearing it she will come around fishing for compliments. Also we love it when you notice something new.. hair, jewelery, clothes.. anything that lets us know your paying attention to us. She already knows your name so that's a good sign. get in there and go for it!

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BMJ, I think you've schooled some exes of mine... which goes to say that the above method does work. At least it does on me (sadly)!!! ahhh... those were the men I hated to love. Irresistible though. I am not sure though that at this point you could step in and act this way. It must be natural and not forced. In saying that though, there are many nicer ways to get her to notice you!

 

I can imagine it works for a certain type of woman. That one, without any self-confidence and brain. But honestly, who wants them- ahh yeah, for sure..some special typ of men..

Bentboner- if you want an intelligent, kind woman- never listen to him..

 

JABL, you're too pretty to put up with that BS....

Being a challenge is one thing, but being an asshole is another.

 

Aww thanks IB... I would not put up with that now, nor am I attracted to that kind of guy any more. My tastes have evolved to the more intelligent and gentlemanly type as opposed to the challenging, bad boy type.

 

BlackMasterJay, I have read some of your comments and I wonder why you always try to play the tough guy. If you're so convinced about your self, then you have not to act like that, right? I like manly, strong men, but not if they behave like arrogant assholes (please excuse this expression).