Colorism

well karma you know who my man is, and he obviously does not have a special affinity toward ww, so i dont know who is dreaming.

 

Its all pink at the end of the day

 

Yes my husband would still be with if I was black. His first wife was biracial black/white. In between me and her there was only one other woman. She was black. Dark brown at that.

 

This thread doesn't need anymore attention:toimonster:

 

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emm hmmm:smt045

 

While human beings are visual creatures--and looks do matter--I would not want to date someone who wanted me because I am a black man. I would want someone who wanted me for my personality. Also, while I prefer to date white ladies, I am open to dating women of all backgrounds as long as they are American.

 

Valid points, for the most part...

But, um, why American exclusively?

Just curious.












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i was curious as well

 

Bet even *more* "In The Family" are, as well....














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I still think this argument used against people who exclusively date a particular race is weak.... Most people don't date someone, or fall in love with someone, because of what they look like (whether it be black, white, tall, short, fat, skinny etc), but it is what initially attracts them.

If you develop a relationship with someone, of course it's because you appreciate who they are, their personality...

It's kinda like saying "I wouldn't want a guy who only wanted me because I was a woman".... !

Why would someone being primarily (or only) attracted to black men mean that they're less likely to appreciate you for you???

 

There are a lot of women in this culture who are interested in having a black man only as a living dildo but regard the man as someone not worth getting into a relationship with or marrying. Also, there are those who are married to/date white men but primarily view dealing with black men as walking on the wild side.

 

I would have more in common with another American than I would with someone from another country; also, I don't want to be used for a green card.

 

It depends on what the other person is looking for. A lot of women out here have heard that black men are hypersexual and are only looking for a sexual liaison or to break taboos they learned about during their childhood and teenage years. They don't regard us as relationship material.

 

Perhaps, but I would venture to say that any women in that category are not those who date black men exclusively, which is what I was talking about.

 

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Blcgrl's ghost....

 

I think some of the people are questioning the validity of racial characteristics here though. In most traditional dynamics the starting point is catching a glimpse and noting how hot or handsome they are.. If what initially attracted you is not a quality or look seen in a certain race much or even at all how would you even have had the relationship with them? Thats like saying if the roads were not wet do you think you would had still been hydroplaning.. After all that though, what keeps you there is substance most of the time.

Would you still look like the same person if you were Black instead of white? There are some things about appearence that are race specific in general.. If my woman turned Black would her hair be the same texture? The same style? NATURALLY?! Would her eyes be blue still? Would her hair be sandy and down to her midback? Would her cheeks (both sets..) still be reddish all the time? :smt102 I really really doubt it, and I might very well bounce.


The problem with what you said though is that i think you meant racism instead of colorism. Colorism is based on skin complextion which varies inside the White, Black, Asian, and Latino communities respectively.

I can look at my mom and know she is a Black woman even though she is the same shade as a norwegian.. I can look at a girl who spends all day at the tanning salon and has her hair dyed black and still see her as a White woman..

No no, nothing to scratch your head over. Mexico is like the U.S. It's founded by Europeans (Whites) and has or had a racial caste system. In Mexico you have Whites (Spaniards), Latinos (Mixed people), Blacks, and a few legit redskins. Everywhere you have had European colonialism you have had racism, you have also have mixtures of European ETHNICITIES who are under the white banner and groups of mixed people who can pass for white.

There ARE White mexicans, Spaniards ARE European.. A Spanish Mexican is as White as a Anglo-Australian, a Scots-Irish North Carolinian, or an Afrikaner.. Not every Mexican is a George Lopez mexican.. Any person who is European or a derivative of different European nationalities is/can be White. Europeans outside of Europe=White people so his views against Mexicans are not bizarre because they probably arent his RACE and he maynot recognize them as true Mexicans due to their race.. Some people don't beliece I am an American because I am Black.. Same for my great grandpa when he came back from the big war.. White people in Rhodesia did not think Afrikans were Rhodesians...

That is were that man has gotta put that bitch in check. Men and women are used for ALOT of things.. How can you have a person as a dildo? That white woman's white guy or whoever would not accept that dynamic.. I don't think you can use someone that long for sex and not begin to see something in them. I've tried that and if they stick around long enough you always become fond of them.. Why though are they saying the Blk guy is not worth more? And his this interracial sex kept hush hush or what?

 

Sexism.

Would he still date you if you were a man?