Colorism

Would he still date you if you were a black woman??

 

Nope. I like lighter skin period. Some guys prefer blondes dome women like guys 6'2 or taller. I love white women. It's all about preference.

 

What would be the point of that?

 

I like your raw honesty! :smt023 I was raised to only date black guys but as I got older and mingling with different races, cultures I found that my attraction was about chemistry and not about a certain color. I once date an ugly looking guy (according to my girls haha) but to me he was a ten 'cause we had crazy chemistry :smt007

 

LOL you're really trying hard to disprove the stereotypes aren't you? We'll see how long you last before exploding. It always happens.

 

its the myth and stereotype thread there's never a point

 

You are such a smart man. :smt058

 

I was getting a lil jealous of the other guys you're having conversations with :smt049

 

I mean what would be the point of dating a white woman if she was a black woman when I like white women?

 

I think all stereotypes have some truth to them

 

Ah now you know there's only one Karma! ;-)

 

They don't. There may be some that have some loose basis in fact, but it's not all of them, or probably even the majority of popularly held stereotypes.

 

It's Espy's attention I was jealous of

 

You have Espy's attention.

 

I know, I was kidding. Kind of.

 

Ill bite for now...
My X, yes - he would (I believe), he never dated a ww before and I had not dated a bm before - we ended up in a relationship before our first date and had crazy chemistry (mind you WAY above and beyond just ex).


Some of us dont have skin color as a dating criteria and in that case, probaby they would date you regardless of your color.

But Like Adrae said, some just simply are attraced to certain physical traits so probably not in general.. ..
I dont see anything wrong with that - I mean there are always some physical traist that draw us to a man/woman in the very beginning.
Lets face it (whether it is blonde hair, brown eyes, height, boobs or whatever).
Having that said, if one can not back that (skin-color) up with whatever else it is that the other person is looking for, it probably will be a no-go, much like in any other non IR relationship...
Unless it is purely for sex, men of all color (and women) sometimes are only out for that, but that happens in any dating pool.

 

In your case I don't see why you would since you have a preference, you were straight and to the point, I wish I were that decisive in my relationships, I don't know what I want lol

 

Perhaps that indicates you don't truly have a preference. I personally don't find one particular race attractive. BM, WM, AM are all equally attractive to me, Hispanic/Latino men are the only men that I really have no interest in and that's cultural. I think people like what they like. If a BM only likes WW, or a WW only likes BM, it's their prerogative to recognize and act upon that.

 

I understand what you are saying but at the same time I can't. When I first dated IR for the first time, there was the chemistry and then also there was just something exotic about us being together, because society says we should not. And it created a kind of "I got your back" kind of bond. I loved that Bunny and Clyde kind of feel. I actually thought that I would marry a white or latino guy, because those were my longest relationships and we seem to relate more because we had the same interest. But right now, I am in love with a black man, he totally swept me off my feet, he is the best man I have ever had, hands down!!

 

I honestly didnt feel like that at all... It didnt feel exotic or bonny/clyde-ish.. just completely right. We just completely got eachother.
I have dated IR all my life....Indian, Persian, Cherokee, Norwegian - you name it..
I had been on "dates" w bm before, but nothing came out of it, much like most other "dates"... so there wasnt a "novelty" to it either.

Having that said, I understand what you are saying - I just think its varies from person to person and relationship to relationship.