Characteristics that turn you on

I was going to start a new thread ... but I thought I'd ask you all the question here since I see so many ladies here.

Chigirl, Sassy, Kinky, Mistress, Daphne, Alessandra, Bosox, and all other ladies who will be reading this ...

Do you believe that one can be poly-Amorous? that one can be in-love with two or more people at the same time? Please share your thoughts, and explain why you feel the way you do.

Cheers
JohnMP

 

I don't have time to write more now, but I think you can love more than one person at the same time...I've loved more than one man at a time just as I've loved more than one family member at a time, everyone has different reasons for you to care for them. But I don't think you can be IN love with more than one person...at least I couldn't. Being in love is completely emotionally exhausting in some ways, I couldn't imagine it with more than one person!

 

I am bedridden for 3 more days. So I have been addicted to messageboards so excuse me if I dominate the boards LOL.

DOMINANT MEN are exceptionally attractive. Not domineering men nor bullies. I prefer men who are so Alpha they don't have to resort to those things. Leaders. Taken control men. John Wayne types. Super Alpha. Wear the pants in the family type of men.

Physically and mentally. I like a man who comes into my life like a bulldozer. Strong and secure and sure and true.

 

That is an excellent way to put it... I feel the same way.

I love when a man knows what he wants and goes after it. I also appreciate that you always know where you stand and know what they want. They don't leave you clueless.





sorry about being bedridden Daphne!

 

Hi. ..

I can't love more than one man at one time.

I have a huge heart but if the man deserves my love, then he gets it all!!

Sassy - men also love it when we know what we want - very sexually endearing to have a woman who knows what she wants and how to get it!!!

 

I think you like two people at the same time or love two of them but eventually you choose one over the other.

 

Yes I think you can love more than one person, however I don't think you can love them equally the same amount and in that lies the problem I think.

 

It's funny you should ask this... I was wondering the same thing, because I'm married and love my husband, but think a lot about my ex who broke my heart and later made amends.

I think it woudn't be the same kind of love... there are different aspects of both people that attract you... Funny, one of my friends who was in love with a married man but fortunately did not get involved, once got an email from him saying he's in love with two peeople... however one of those two people got a ring and a house, and the other - only that email.

In my case, it was impossible to keep in touch with the ex without it taking a toll on me emotionally. I haven't spoken to him all summer, then at a weak moment sent him an e-card... oh well. Eventually you do make a choice in favor of the person you NEED more. You can rip your ass if you try to sit on two chairs at once, as Russians say.

 

You ladies are sharing so much ... I appreciate it a great deal.

So, it sounds like you might love two men at once, but they will each be different from the other. Perhaps, an apples-to-apples comparison is unfair or non-sensical. Just like you might love your Mom, your sister, and your child .... you may also love one man, and yet another man in entirely different ways.

Can your MUTUAL love relationship for one man be embellished many fold by your MUTUAL love for/with another man ? How can you not feel so much happiness here ? Share your thoughts ....

JohnMP

 

Chigirl: :wink: I didn't mean to hijack your topic ... So, I'll respond to your original missive ...

I'll bring it back ....

Are there other non-traditional physical traits [other than the typical ... broad shoulders, muscles, etc] that turn you on in a guy ? Is there a peculiar type of neck .... or type of walk .... or head shape ... that you LOVE ??? do tell

I like breasts that aren't necessarily perky but hang like rain-drops .... perky is good, but rain-drops are very good too.... I also like legs that can be bowed inward at the knees ... this tends to accentuate swaying wide hips me like 'eh ve-wey ve-wey much.

JohnMP

 

Ideally, you adhere to your responsibilities to the person you're committed to. It's a tough thing to face, but you have to face it with honor.

Ambivalence can't last forever. It's good if one suprasses the dilemma without having done anything that would taint their conscience.

When the other man was on my mind, my husband felt something was wrong, and suffered. There will always be a place in my heart for the other man... but not in my bed... and there will always be time in my mind to remember him... but not time to call or email him... I made the decision to do only what I wouldn't be ashamed to admit to my husband.

My husband was man enough to understand, when I told him that my feelings were a mess when the other man re-entered my life but I ended up cutting him off... he told me "you made the right decision".

And the other man... I asked him a few times to stop calling - he didn't listen. So - as Russians say - if you don't get it the good way, let's talk the bad way. So I cussed him out. He fucked off finally.

I don't mean to sound self-righteous... For me alone, it was the only healthy decision.