Characteristics that turn you on

OK, aside from looks what turns you on or appeals to you in a man or woman?

For example, for me it is Dennis Haysbert, the actor that played President Palmer on the show 24. I don't think he is good looking (my opinion) BUT his charisma and confidence make him soooooooo sexy! His voice and that confidence (you know the kind where a man is not cocky but just naturally confident... he KNOWS himself) makes me drool.

I am also very intrigued by "brainiacs" smart, educated guys that have a balanced, down to earth attitude about things. So if I EVER find a smart, confident yet not cocky kind of guy with a voice like Dennis I will forever be in heaven (I THINK) ha ha ha

So, what is it for you??

 

I love it when women(specifically ww) are first of all real, fun attitude,
Girls that know how to have fun tend to look better when they put on a sexy act and confidence, But Iam a real sucker for women that are sweet.

 

I like poetic and artistic guys...I also love the shy guy and the quiet ones....they are more of a mystery and you have to go deep to get to know them real well....I like originality and compassion....and they need to have a passion for something whether it be a sport or a cause....and must be religious whether christian, muslim, jewish etc....because faith is important to me

 

Honesty is a big thing to me.
Empathy is another big thing.
Overall just having a positive outlook in life. I don't mean oblivious in a Pollyanna kind of way but I have found that my attraction meter has a strong correlation to a woman's ability to identify a glass as being half full more often than not.

And this may seem odd but the ability to accept a true compliment. I'm not one to give fake compliments because I mean what I say but if a woman has problems accepting basic compliments, I will see that as having low self-esteem. Low esteem and lack of self respect are deal breakers in my life.

 

as with others.. self confidence is a big one for me..

Not so much that one is cocky though.. that is a turn off.

I also am turned on by a guy that has a people magnetism.. he walks in a a room and people smile.. wave, say hi... they enjoy being around him..

.. hmm.. what else? self sufficient.. we can go to a party and I don't feel like I have to entertain him.. We can be by each others side, or apart half the night and both are comfy..

 

I am attracted to a woman who exudes confidence, curiosity about the world around her, intellectualism, spirituality, and a open mind. I also love a woman who understands and values sexuality and intimacy.

 

Charm, grace, intellience, spirituality (Real Christianity), and of course white skin.

 

Femininity (I especially have a thing for girly girls), sexuality, sensuality, sensitivity well-balanced with strength, ambition, charm, moderate or above-average intelligence, and she has to be into me

 

Chigirl !!

Good question .... Hmmm ....

For me, it would have to be someone who has a substantial depth of knowledge about a broad scope of subjects. That's just a strong turn-on for me. Imagine having a conversation with someone for 5-hrs about 5 completely different subjects ... and in each case, you challenge each other to the limits of your respective wisdom. That's a good solid turn-on for me.

There's also something rather stimulating about a woman who is innately curious about the world ... about nature ... about ideas ... about people ... about the universe ... about philosophy ... about a woman who pushes my thinking beyond my existing knowledge. That, Chigirl, is cool.

JohnMP

 

success

Success. In career, relationships and achievements. To me, someone who is successful indicates that he has a variety of qualities that I find appealing. He is grounded, hard working, intelligent, tenacious, has priorities straight, responsible and has decent interpersonal skills.

On a physical level- a good physique and deep deep voice.

 

SWEETNESS!!!! Besides looks, a woman has to be VERY, VERY sweet (and i don't mean fake like you're sweet, i mean genuinely sweet), and she HAS to have a good heart. If she has that, then we're in business! 8)

 

Hey graphicsRat, have you found what you're looking for yet?? I remember a while back you were hoping to find it, but hadn't yet. How have things gone for you since then if you don't mind me asking??

 

Oh yeah, if I may jump back in here...
Class!
I like women with class.
Ghetto and trailer trash are not high on my list.

 

Hey Bryant, I just sent you an email.

 

Okay,
I got even one more for you.
Today at work coming back from lunch, there was this little kitten that had crawled under a car and got stuck. There was an associate out there on the ground trying to get the kitten out. I jumped on the ground in 97 degree heat to help her and after about 1 hour, we got the kitten out.

I had never thought much about this lady but seeing her caring so much about about that little kitten...
After we got the cat out I found myself “THINKING” about her....

How wild is that for the powers of attraction?

Sometimes it's the things that you do that can may you attractive to someone.

 

That was cool..

now see from the other stand point, if I had been her and the one whose kitten was helped.. I would have been thinking about you after..


While we all think on a physical attraction level by nature, to be honest, a selfless act like that, even if I had been nearby to just see you help someone else, would have found that kindness an attractiveness about you. We all know over the years physical can fade, but that which is attractive under the skin, that which comes from the heart does not need to fade..

 

Honesty, empathy, humour (especially able to laugh at himself), originality, the ability to analyse and think deeply...appreciation of artistic things especially music, generosity and kindness (selflessness when necessary). Not too stubborn, able to compromise, able to have fun and go a little crazy and be outgoing. A level of personal spirituality and moral courage. Someone who thinks family is very important - as I prioritise mine above everything - and who eventually wants to have their own family, and will throw their all into giving the best for their kids. And someone who is emotionally open enough to be receptive to love.

 

Wow !!! That's deep, good thing an elephant didn't crawl under under that car, hell you'd be in love right now

 

The way a man carries himself. When he walks in to a room, everyone knows he is there, he exudes confidence, style, the way he can hold himself. . says it all. I also love men with large facial features. .nose . . lips. . very masculine!


Think every man loves a girly girl. . .hair done, as little make up as possible complements a woman more than looking like a painted doll. . the natural look is what is required, after all, you go to bed with a man with all the slap on and wake up and its all over your face . . pillow. .. and him!!!

 

charact.

I dont know KinkyGrl---A LOT of Pamela Anderson fans out there to go for the "natural" look ....LOL. But I can understand your point.

Along with saving kittens from trees and such. COURAGE. Oh god tell me who hasnt drooled over some war flick or NYC firefighters.

Oh I LOVE LOVE LOVE men who love men. Not romantic love. Not love hanging with "the boys" and need to do it regularly. But men who share a bond with another male friend or group of friends. An all boys club. But real love. I saw a lot of that growing up with Dad in the military and for some reason I find it really endearing.

Oh-and a guy who loves his dog or cat. Shivers. Love that.