Can someone explain this...

So I have been going out alot now and lately the only WW I am attracting are the unattractive BBW types, Why is that? Like I know I am not a skinny guy(I am big guy but very secure about me) and I am a very open minded person but these women are not understanding that I dont go that route. Do any other guys have this problem?

 

I can imagine that there are quite a number of slim women who are not interested in BBM types and are asking you the same thing when you approach them ... what do you usually respond?

 

WOW, nice comeback but I said before that I am comfortable with mines and far as the slim women, there are some ugly ones of them too but I don't approach women in the club, but if they say no, I don't try to force myself onto them...

 

Where are you looking at bro? Maybe you should try something new or change your surroundings.

 

Conversations......Why do I only seem to attract?...

Yeah:
You're only going to genuinely attract the mirror image of your own thought patterns.You have to ask yourself:"What am I willing to be in order to attract what I desire? I'm serious, it really works that way.
There are white women of so many different shapes and sizes; just like all types of people-there's one for every kind.I think it starts on the inside and works its way outward.

 

:lol: :lol:

 

I think we have all caught the eye of someone we don't find attractive but I find how you/we treat those people says a lot...

Maybe those BBW unattractive women are liking you because of your warm and kind soul and not your body type....
Or maybe those women are just "secure".

If the problem is you not finding "your type" - okay.
People finding you attractive is totally different and should never be seen as a problem.

 

:lol: Love it !

ChiCity, it's simple, just tell her in a polite and nice way that you are not interested. I applaud anyone who approaches the other sex and they deserve a decent response no matter how they look, how old they are etc. etc. You say they don't understand "you don't go that route" do you mean they press on even after you say you are not interested or do you expect them to read your mind and not approach you in the first place?

As far as only a certain type of woman approaching you, maybe they feel since you are a big guy you may like bigger women or simply would be more accepting of them.

 

Exactly! Even if I am approached by someone who happens not to be "my type" I see no reason to degrade him or to make him lose his face in front of bystanders. I try to keep it friendly and respectful. A few sentences of small talk, then a smile and a "well, have a nice evening" and I move on. I believe that if you want to be approached in a respectful manner, than you have to respond to being approached with the same respect. Life is hard enough, let's not make it harder to eachothers than it already is.

 

i agree with chi and silver...i think there is a way to let someone know that you are not interested in them without having to make them feel bad...a woman that is secure and has a tendency to believe that no man is out of her reach is usually strong enough to accept rejection as well...i happen to be that woman...if i see a gorgeous man...i am going to let him know that i think he is handsome...nothing ventured nothing gained...if the bigger girls are going for you it may be that in their experience men of your size have been interested in them in the past...i love to date tall, big guys...it makes me feel petite...skinny just doesn't do it for me...he doesn't have to have a six pack...that's just frosting if he does...i think it is interesting how large men sometimes see themselves as average or fit when they probably should admit that they are "a few extra pounds"...men sometimes look in the mirror and see the college running back even though that was 15-20 years ago...

 

Now I gotta stick up for my weight, I will admit I am a former football player(I played college and Arena Ball) so I am honestly not that big I just need to drop 50 ibs to get back to playing weight, with that said I like all types of women but if your like 35, got 2 kids, divorced, and 5'2 300ibs hitting on a 25 year old, that is telling you that hey you nice but not my type and you still won't back off, something is wrong. When I approach a female(I should say that is rare because when I am out, I am about hanging out not always getting numbers) usually I kinda know that they are interested in me before I approach.


FYI: That is actually how most of them looked that night.

 

Maybe it was something in the air that night! It would have been fun to see a flock of 5'2/300's hanging on you! Sometimes there is just something about a man who looks like he could throw you over his shoulder and haul you away that is irresistable.
The dating scene can be just a big numbers scene, hang in there...

 

It wasn't a pretty sight and I doubt I can haul off a 300ibs woman in heat. I hated that some of my friends labelled them Damaged goods and white man's leftovers, yea if you want me to explain that let me know...

 

No need to explain, we are all familiar with the idiotic language and stereotypes some people try to use to label white women that are not a perfect 10.
Some "nice" friends you got there Chicity

 

Honestly its my black female and my preppy white friends who say evil things like that but they will ride or die for me so you take the pros with the cons.

 

:lol:. Same here.