Can I ask men a question?

Rule of thumb is.. never put it all on the table too early. That by all means does not mean you shouldn't or can't be yourself, it just means that nobody like a desperate man/woman.. and you probably wouldn't either. There is nothing wrong with taking things a day at a time. If you gonna cook.. COOK! But you don't have to take out the good china on the first date. If you gonna go out.. GO! But you don't have to go to the opera in a limo on the first date. For men and women to be comfortable, it takes time to build to a comfort level where one can and should be their bare vulnerable self. If you display that too soon... you will give out a " I'm desperate I'll do anything here's my debit card take me for everything I have" signal that is an absolute turn off. For men and women. So it's not so much the chase, it's more of a process of getting to know one another without being best friends the first night. That's just me.

 

The chase is the way to go. It sounds weird but I like that lady that is fateful, but losable and I try to maintain the same idea.

A guys is going to view you in one of two ways.

#1

To his friend "Dawg I got this girl who is all over me man..blowing up my phone..Im going to hit that %@#!"

or #2

His mental thought. "Man, how can I talk to this girl? Get this girl?"

'Saying too soon' meh...it might work on a real nice guy. But it depends if you like a nice guy and please dont say you want a "nice guy" without knowing what a nice guy is.:axe:

You like to cook...save it for something special..because if you use all the your tricks and goodies in your 'utility belt' just to be OPEN...then what you going to do when u need to go into your 'utility belt' later down the road.. thats right nothing there.

 

How old are you>

 

I can only tell you what my boyfriend told me;
He tried to date me for a year until I finally agreed.
Before that time I enjoyed being single.
I gave him a really hard time dating me (not on purpose) but it really took him some time until he won my heart and he said he really liked it that I have my own head and that I am not easy to impress, that I have high standards. He liked thinking of good ways to impress me and he has never before met a girl like that- usually they melted away with his romantic acting.
So... I think it is definitely good to have your own head and to do what you want to do and not just concentrate on your relationship. If the guy knows he can´t have you all the time, he will really enjoy the time he has with you. I will never be a stay-at-home mom, I love having my own career and making my own money.