Can A Woman's Love Be Bought?

Here is something I have always wondered and would like some feedback on. When men look for a woman, the main characteristics we look for include, her Looks, and Personality. Women on the other hand when looking for a man, notice how after looks and personality then tend to include "a guy with a good job". Does this go back to the thinking that the MAN must provide for the woman (even though we all know women work just as much as men these days, maybe even more)? Why do women care how much money a man makes??? Of course everyone wants to live good but why does money, especially these days matter? Does that make her a gold digger to want a man with money? And why don't men say, "I want a woman with good looks, a good personality, and a good job?" I think it is because we are taught through society that we should be the one working and making the money and not looking to a woman to support us.

Now the other issue is something my mother constantly tells me. She says sometimes "I see you like the white girls, and as a black boy you better get a good job and make good money if you want to marry a white girl." We all know how parents are and they just want the best for us and to see us succeed, but is there actually any truth in this statement??? Must a black man have a certain amount of wealth in order to "deserve" a white woman (not the trashy ghetto kinds you see on Ricki Lake, but the classy & sexy corporate types)?

And my biggest question of all.....Can a woman's love be bought? We see many beautiful, younger women marry old or ugly men who are rich. Hugh Hefner, Bill Gates, many rock stars, celebrities, athletes, lawyers, doctors, rappers, etc. Would any woman think Jay-Z was hot if he did not have all that money? 50 Cent has a nice body (I can admit that as a fully straight man LOL) but his face and teeth are shit, yet women (and many of them white) drool over him. Millions of dollars can do that to a nigga. Look at Travis Barker (the skinny tattooed up drummer from the rock band Blink 182). He's married to blonde bombshell Shanna Moakler. She used to be on a TV show called Pacific Blue (it was kind of like Baywatch mixed with Cops) and was once married to boxer Oscar de La Hoya. She is hottt and what the HELL is she doing with him? Watch their MTV show Meet the Barkers. On that list of looks, personality, and riches, which is highest on their priorities? Maybe some of you women in here can answer that for me? How important is money to you and does a man with average looks or no looks at all become sexier to you if he has wealth and fame and power? If so, why?

I know for a fact most men would not marry an ugly woman no matter HOW MUCH money she had, but then again as I said, we have different criteria when it comes to what we look for in a partner compared to what women look for. I do not get how money can make a man more attractive to a woman. Yes he can buy you more things and give you a nicer house and easier life and you will most likely not have to work if you marry him, but does his bank account help get you off at night when his dick is inside you and does it make his face more attractive to you when he kisses you at night?

And if a woman's love or attention CAN be bought, or swayed by how much money a guy makes, what does that say about women? If money matters that much to them, if she would choose a generally unattractive man she normally would not date just because he has money, what does that make her? A gold digger? A slut? It is an interesting debate to me because it is funny the repercussions this has in the media and the way men treat women. Women wonder why we treat them as hoes and portray them as skanks in rap music and rock videos. Why in video games and movies and TV we see them as objects. Why we men strive so hard to get money and ghetto thugs strive so hard to sell drugs and get that money and why we others go to college and get a good job. It's not just so we can have a big house and live good, but it's also because we have been force fed by society and the media the notion that we need money to get a good woman.

Most men (although they won't admit it) see women as dumb animals who can be bought. Objects of affection and for pleasure. If I drive this fancy car and show off this bling bling and my chain and ice and diamonds up in the club she will go home with me. If I buy her a 6 karat ring she will marry me instead of the guy down the block who can only afford a 4 karat ring. And women wonder why they get disrespected. Well if you act like you are some trophy who will go to the highest bidder, the person who wins you will treat you like a trophy. He'll polish you every once in a while, put you up on a shelf, and eventually forget about you until he wants to boost his ego and get another better one. A man will not see you as someone worth loving and respecting if he sees that your love and attention and affection can be so easily swayed by a material object. He sees that as dumb and gullible, and thus you become just another object to him, just another material he owns, something he can BUY, same as his bling bling and his cars. You are a piece of property to him. Nothing more.

I do not think that is right. The MAN himself should be enough. Not his wallet. I don't think a man should be a lazy jobless bum either, but he should not have to be rich either. Some women need to get their priorities straight and then maybe they will be treated right and find the men and the love they THINK they want and deserve.

 

So do any of you believe that a woman's love can be bought or am I wrong in my observations?

 

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You can't buy love. But if you want to get a very hot women of any race then you will need to be successful. There are women who will deal with some guys who are not successful for awhile. But at the end of the day,you better have decent financial security. I use to have to deal with models,etc when I worked with this casting company. They will date an average guy but most at the end of the day will marry someone who has money and/or fame. It doesn't just come from them being gold diggers. But also the mentality that they are better/worth more then the average guy.

 

Some examples:


Beyonce Knowles and Jay-Z



Hugh Hefner and his Playboy Bunnies


Travis Barker and Shanna Moakler

 

Yea but in a lot of ways they ARE giving themselves to an average man, or in a lot of cases, a below average man (who just happens to have alot of money). Shouldn't women like that use the logic that I am good looking, therefore I should be with the best looking man, not the richest man? It's weird, in a way men should be glad women are like this. It gives men another way to get a hot woman. We do not have to be blessed to be born with great looks. We can be average or ugly but if we make Bill Gates or Donald Trump money, a hot woman will marry us.

It is pretty weird to think about that psychologically how that might work in a woman's mind, but it gives us men another way to get hot women, something we can strive for by hard work and getting a good job. Women do not have that option. No matter how rich an ugly woman is, no man will marry her (other than Star Jones' man but who knows what's really going on there). Only good looking women can get a man. Men can get a woman by either being good looking themselves, or having money. But I ask again, what does it say about a woman who goes for an ugly man because he has money? And how many women in this forum have used the amount of cash a dude has as a deciding factor when choosing between men?

 

sure many are bought daily

 

Guys will go for an ugly women with money(roseanne,whoopi). There are hot women who will go with an average man but they are very few. Alot of women will want handsome men who are financially secure. But I don't go for women like that. The women I usually meet who are on the same level as me and have their own money are usually older then me. I've met hot older women who have money but getting married with the huge age differences isn't going to work out. There has been only one women I would actually marry out of the many I dated. It takes time to find someone that isn't a golddigger,psychopath,b1tch,etc. They are out there but it will take alot of time.

 

to put it simple NO....but it can put you in a higher position ..but you winning her over I doubt it..if anything something like that can back fire on you ,beacuse of the next time she might expect more...ya know..but girls well few of them think they are supposed to be treated like that normally,being treated as queens and such... >.<

 

A person's love can't be bought. A woman can be one of the most beautiful women on the planet and be a bitch. No guy is going to date her.
the same goes for women. We all date who will treat us right and have sexual attraction. Women do trade looks for money though. Not all of them though.

 

In my opinion, Pey is really spot on with this thread, however, jxsilicon and archangel already gave the best advice.

 

Well speaking from experience, although yes, some women can be bought, I don't think it applies to most women. I was dating a guy who liked to take me shopping, and I love shopping (but that's besides the point). Anyways, after a little while I realized that I really wasn't that into him and even though he was totally into me there was no way it would work in the long run, so I ended it. I could have stayed with him because of all the gifts he bought me and my daughter, but I chose not to. So take it however you'd like, but I'd much rather have a man that I can't imagine my life without him rather than someone who likes to take me shopping.

 

Yes North American and in general Westernized European Women can be BOUGHT!

Though its LESS LIKELY to happen in Canada and Western Europe and for sure almost NEVER in South America.

If you choose to pursue American women only, then be prepared to date for a very long time to weed out all the potential problem children out there.

Get your life in order, and protect yourself from getting burned in case of divorce.

If you choose to expand your search beyond North America, you just increased your odds a 100 fold.

Depending when you leave, if your on the east coast, it cost less than $500 to fly to just about anywhere in Western Europe. I highly suggest you TRY it.

 

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I beg to differ. South American women can be VERY bourgeois. Most South American countries are very much dominated by class/social status. For a woman to "date down" is a huge scandal in families. Only time it doesnt come into play is when you date the lower class of women.

 

Maybe they should, but alot don't. I used to be friends with some gorgeous women at the modelling agency I worked at. Believe it or not, alot of them do not think of themselves as beautiful. They think they just had a good makeup artist or that they are just photogenic. In fact, many of them have self-esteem problems and will cling to a regular guy who makes them feel good about themselves. Alot of the guy models were players and had women throwing themselves at them. So there was a disadvantage of going for the best looking man.

 

Choc is on to somethin' here. You'd be surprised to learn from many attractive girls (especially white girls) how ugly they feel when their appearance alone makes you beg to differ, though, sadly, a lot of the ones who actually aren't very attractive try to act like they are around men, mainly black men.

 

Haha, you are so naieve.

 

Only partly naive.

Love can NOT be bought, but time, loyalty and devotion can be. Love can never be bought because it isn't a feeling/emotion we control.

Personally, I think anyone (male or female) who sleeps with someone simply because they have money...is a prostitute. JMO of course. :smt083

 

very correct Sin, you can pay for sex and spending time with you, having kids with you,getting married with you,but love (emotions in general) cannot be bought

 

i dont let guys pay for me, i feel like it wld mean i wld owe em something....

but i agree that you cant buy love
you can buy someones guilt...u can guilt them into staying wit you if you keep buyin them things....but u can buy emotions