Black women hating on your relationship!

*I searched for this topic and couldn't find it. Sorry if its been repeated 100x


I'm in a relationship with a BM for the first time ever and so far so good in every single aspect except one.... black women.

That's actually the way that I found this site. I've been especially bothered by the negative attention my man and i get from BW so I was curious at the origins of the conflict and the overall dynamic between black men and women... one thing led to another and here I am. Along the way I learned some interesting things and it seems like more then any demographic of black women have the hardest time with relationships. That being said... I feel for them and see where the resentment comes from. To add salt to the wound man is older/handsome/fly and I happen to be pretty young a goof ball and probably come off as the "silly lil white girl" they all despise so much.

Ladies, have you experienced negativity from BW? As the person receiving the hate (they don't seem mad at him!), how do you react? My guy doesn't seem to notice or care and when I talked to him about it all he said was "do you. be you." so i dropped it. How does your guy react? Guys on the forum, does this bother you too or do you think "it's between them two"?

 

:lol:

 

I know you're trolling but I wanted to comment on this since I went through this very thing on Friday night when I was on a date.

Me and this girl I've been seeing were kissing good night on the hood of my car (very common to see couples making out in NYC) when this group of young bw start yelling out "your girl is wack your girl is wack". To her detriment my date kept cool and didn't say anything but it pissed me off for two reasons.

1. My date was way hotter than any of those other girls

2. If she's wack what business is it of yours. You don't have to kiss her. I get to.

Put a sour note on an otherwise awesome night. And every time I deal with any outside negativity it's ALWAYS bw. I don't know if dudes are too intimidated to say shit or just don't care but I never hear shit from them. A few stares if I'm with a particularly hot girl but that's probably more about them being hot and not the IR thing.
I'm not really proud of how I handled it since they were probably teenagers maybe a little older but I've been dealing with that shit since I was 14 and its way past old.

 

Alexis...it's just you. My experiences have been plenty positive and hardly any negative responses, even from black women. The closest I've gotten to such a problem would be from a bunch of race supremacists who like to espouse bullshit to keep people under a constant state of fear...on YOUTUBE!

 

the only time i had trouble from a bw was when i was dating a guy she wanted to date ( and boy did she make my life a living hell) but that was just her... and i sometimes i felt like it had to do IR relationshps....but i think the main prob was, she wanted him. idk if that helps any

 

My husband and I got some nasty comments from black women working in the registery office when we went to enquire about a marriage license. They were pissed that he was choosing a white woman over a black woman. But apart from that, and a few strange looks every now and then, we haven't had any problems.

 

my bf wouldnt give two fucks, funnily enough its always black guys who hate on him because hes with me, the looks they give him when we are in town, or if i kiss him and hug into him, one black guy even said to me why am i with him and for so long :smt085 :smt043

 

That ain't racism that shit is jealousy

 

:smt036

 

My (ex)husband and I were walking hand-in-hand crossing an intersection and as a couple of (Black) females and a male passed by us, one said, "sellout!"

 

yup i know

 

Its not like an every day thing even... it's just uncomfortable and I'm not really sure what to do with myself at the time! Part of me wants to start shit/act crazy but I'd never do that in front of my guy. Not cute.

I guess i'll continue to pretend i don't notice!:smt073

 

fuck that.

 

Hey dude, check this thread out
http://www.whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/showthread.php?p=646968#post646968

 

My advice is stop caring so much what bw think. Most of them are irrelevant.

 

Harsh!! But thanks.. i'll try to remember that.

 

I get so sick of the hypocrisy and double standard when it comes to those black women who screw every dick of all shades of color, yet when black men venture outside the "black vagina box" so to speak, it becomes a problem.

 

BW talk shyte...WM throw our resumes in the trash. I can deal with occasional shyte talking from time to time...but having an over drawn bank account is life changing.

 

My black friend totally cock blocked me this morning at the gym... I mean I don't blame her because I did tell her I was going to train her this morning. Anyway I was flirting with this fitness consultant and we was all



Then my friend butted her ass in the conversation and the whole mood changed to



completely fucked up the mood.