Black men, what does your mother think?

I've grown up in a pretty mixed environment. I mixed a lot with South asians..never dated them though. But my mother doesn't really care what race I date..as long as i'm happy. My mum is more fussy about them being christian more then anything!My mum is really religious.

 

I understand you perfectly because I was in a similar situation. I was born in Brussels and by age 6, I was already in a primary boarding school full of whites with only a few Africans. I did a cameo in school back in Zaire from the 3rd and 4th primary but then off I went to boarding school again but this time in France. So from age 11 to 15, all I saw was white French girls who were mostly sweet and it was perfectly normal and very common in the school to see many black and white couples. Most of the time we(foreigners and French pupils) all liked the same white girls though... and they were usually the prettiest girls in school who thought we were either "retarded" or immature . Then you had to try to avoid the Pippi Longstocking kind of white girls who were impossibly rude, very agitated and sometimes tried to pick a fight with you for reason that are still mysterious till this day.

There weren't enough black girls around and the few that were there were either too young, too old for me, or taken already by white guys. It's funny but I had to wait for 1989, when I was 17 to have my first experience with a black girl.

So my mother has never once mentionned race when it comes to dating and on the contrary, she insisted that the reason I was placed in boarding school was to teach me how to live with people of all walks of life. Thus she wouldn't even raise an eyebrow if she saw me with a white girl, but she will definetly express some concern if we started talking marriage and the girl was from say Russia or the Latvia because the cultures there are less familiar to the Africans.

 

moms has ALWAYS hated my love for white women

oh well

 

My boyfriend's mom is okay with it. She is a great lady. I thought it would be hard as his father is having an outgoing affair with a white woman, but she does not hold me accountable for that. She just cautions BOTH of us to take it slow has we are both divorced and have screwed it up once.

 

My mom is fine with me being with white women. It's a blessing to have an understanding parent (not parents in my case, as my father is not an important part of my life). It ultimately wouldn't matter if i had her support for dating IR or not, because it's my life and i would do it anyway, but it is nice to know i have an understanding mother, and she will accept the woman i choose with open arms, no matter what skin color she may be.