Black men, what does your mother think?

How did/does your mother react to your interest in white women?

 

Mine might make stereotypes about white women once and a while, but she doesn't have a problem with who I date as long as the woman is the right one.

 

mine doesn't care who i date as long as we treat each other and its all good

 

I can't speak as a black man, but I can speak on behalf of my boyfriend's mom. She has no issue with who her son dates, as long as she's not an evil bitch, from what I can tell. I asked him when we first got together, because I was nervous she wouldn't like me because of my skin, and he insisted his mom only cared so much as to be curious as to what race her son had decided to date this time. The subject of my skin colour never really came up after that initial "So, what is she?" question when he first told her he had a new girlfriend.

I have to admit, my fears weren't fully put to rest until I talked to her on the phone. Then I felt much better about it, and realized he was telling the truth. She's a lovely lady, f'real.

 

She simply wanted me to be happy, after meeting my wife (girlfriend at the time) it was clear to both my Mom and Dad that we were made for each other, so there was never an issue, glad to say the same thing for my wife's parents as well. Also my Mom was very moved when I told her that I had always looked for some of the wonderful character traits that I had learned from watching her, when evaluating a woman I was dating. One of the main reasons I married my wife is that I saw the same strength, character, integrity, and honor that I have always seen in my mom, in her. These traits know no color, they speak to who the woman is where it counts, in the heart and in the head.

 

My dad has told me that my mom has said "I don't think he likes black women. I think he likes white girls". Like I give a fuck what she thinks.

 

thanks for sharing this loki...it would appear that you had much to do with how well your families blended...your mom raised you well and then trusted you to make a good choice...i'm sure she is very proud...

 

My mother, sister, grandmothers and aunts all have no problem with who I date or who I will marry as long as we are happy with one another. In fact, they kinda can predict that I will end up with a WW or non-BW. :wink:

 

heard the one before

lol

some of my coworkers have tried to hook me up with their sisters, but always asked 'do you like black women?'

Just because I fancy white women, does not mean that I don't look at other races of women. What's so hard to understand about that?

 

Both my parents were not very receptive to me dating a WW much less a Russian White Woman. In fact they never knew I left the country to see her, with that stated both my parents are supportive, my wife's parents feelings were identical, they both grew to be very supportive...

 

My mother can't really complain since she brought me herself in 4 different boarding schools in Western Europe(2 in Belgium and 2 in France)

My mother doesn't care about the race of the women I am intersted in really. However she just offered some advices on several occasion about marrying women of other cultures; but this of course meant Ethiopian women, African American women Asian women etc. I know for sure that given the historical ties between Belgian and the ex-Zaire, and the amount of Belgians and Congolese living in both capitals, she would feel more comfortable me being married to a Belgian woman than say a Polish or Swedish women. With a Belgian woman, there would be virtually no cultural shock/clash or language barrier to worry about as my mother has lived in Belgium and is fluent in French.

So my mother wouldn't have a problem with me having a preference for white women, but would rather be wary of the differences in cultures in case we decided to tie the knotts.

 

they don't care

 

My mom is rather "opposed" of my dating of white women. But I do it anyway.

 

Well, my man's mother was murdered when he was a baby. He told me his grandmother would rather he dated black women, but is perfectly fine with whatever makes him happy. She's no longer with us either though. His godmother loves me, and his closest aunt (his mother's sister) loves me. His daddy loves me and calls me daughter already, though my man and I aren't married yet.

 

Growing up in a majority white neighborhood, I could not help myself when it came to white girls. I had crushes on some of them in grade school, and had even more crushes and friends in high school.

Seriously, what else are you going to expect, when you raise a kid in an environment full of white girls and little to none black girls.

 

Yep, same here.

 

I grew up mainly around whites as well, but the women in my family were incredible pissed when they found out me and my bro like white girls. Luckily they are cool with it now, though they still tease us often about it.

 

Do you have Congolese roots? I didn't know that....

I must say though, I'm a bit surprised that your mother would feel more comfortable with a Belgian women (when comes to historical ties), as I had the impression the Belgians were the worst colonial ruler of them all.

If she's lived there, I can understand it based on personal ties though.

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Speaking for my Cameroonian in laws, neither of them care. But then my hb is not at all the first in his family to marry a European lady.

 

Sounds like my husband. He grew up in a small, very white town. According to him all of the black girls in the area were either taken or some how related to him. lol

He did manage to find a black prom date but he says he didn't date other than that until college where he decided his odds of scoring were better if he didn't limit himself to one skin color.

 

My mother does not care who I date. No one in my family does.