Black guys like white girls because they're white

I don't think too people I know would be attracted to anyone not being true to themselves.

But what is acting black?
I've never understood that.
Does it mean "Ghetto"?

Do you find yourself attracted to black guy surfer types or black guy "black guy" types?

 

To this day, some people still define color based on behavior, and I still don't know what the hell it means, other than stereotypes.

 

wow, i really love this site! this is the first time i posted so forgive me if i'm goofy... anyway, i'm a ww and i've found myself VERY attracted to this bm i work with. he seems to like me too but i think he may be intimidated b/c where we work is about 95% bw and i'm pretty sure he doesn't want to cause any **waves**. i have a WONDERFUL relationship with most* of the women i work with so i really don't see a problem, but i'm guessing it's different for him. wondering why i replied to this post( it's a little off the subject...)? well, after reading some of the posts on this site i'm concerned that maybe he doesn't really like me after all- i hope this myth isn't true!

 

Why would anything thing said on this site cause you to think he does not like you?

I mean unless he said something to you or unless he post on this site....
Why would you think reading some random posts by people you don't know cause you to think otherwise?

 

Yeah, you know...ghetto. They do their hair in dregs, talk ghetto, stuff like that. I know not all black people are like that but I don't know how else to describe it.

And I don't know too many black surfers or even beach types. I'm not sure if I'm attracted to any kind certain kind of black guy but I do like the thuggish types to a degree.

 

Amy. Amy. Amy,

Let me toss this out for you....
If you mean ghetto, try saying "ghetto".

You are free therefore I can't tell you what to say or how to think so take what I just posted as you will.

But if you know all black people are not ghetto can you see how the "acting black" statement can come off as being somewhat off color?
No?

No harm. Just one person talking to another.

 

hmmm, well i guess the initial post about the stereotype just got me thinking- but i may just be reading into his behavior and i know that's dangerous... i guess what i should have said was- he has definitely let me know that he's interested but it's almost like he wants to keep it between the two of us- he acts **different** around me when i'm the only white person around- almost aloof but then in other settings- some serious flirting... so, i don't know- :roll: i really like him

 

I've been in that boat before.
She was all hot for me when we were alone but I was the invisible man when her friends were around.
I jumped ship and never looked back.

Some people don't mind that type of treatment, so to each their own.

I think you'll know what you need to do.

 

I second that statement. I actually just encountered it at work. She wasn't necessarily "hot" for me but she would touch on me and whatnot, little things that showed interest. As soon as other people came around, she was the exact opposite. Still nice and whatnot, but that's her personality anyways. And on the flip side, I'm the only black person that works @ my job out of 40 people. All the rest are white.

 

Upon witnessing what Kev and SoCal are referring to (as well as experiencing it a few times myself) I have to concur with them on that.

 

well maybe i should just back off. i really don't see the BW @ work having a problem with us dating- and maybe that's not even the issue at all as far as he's concerned... guess i could always ask instead of assuming! it just really seems like we have a chemistry- and not just sexual- and that's hard to walk away from. it's not like he ignores me around other BW but just acts different- so confusing! thanks for your input!

 

You know we just totally hijacked this thread!!!!! You're so bad!!!

Here's the deal.
I'm a guy and I can only tell you how I see things from a male stand point.
I think you may need some input from the women here, so think about posting your question in the "Attractions" section because I think there's more traffic over there.

Here's my two cents:

If I like a woman, I'm going to be the same across the board.
If I don't like someone, I will not send conflicting signals.
If I'm being a player, I would "act different" because I don't want to give up my game.

If you like the guy... Ask him.

Again I say, you'll know what it is you need to do.
Cool?

 

you're right, thanks!

 

A couple of things:

#1: I'm sorry that you've gone through some terrible experiences with sistas who wanted you to be something that you're not. However, you can't blame this on black women. I've known white girls who were disapointed that I didn't fit the traditional stereotype (you brothas know what I mean). You should be comfortable and "be yourself" whenever you're around any woman, no matter her race. Let's be honest, no woman in her right mind (black or white) will be interested in some pistol-toting, thug-life loser.

#2: Sure, all women want to be taken care of (to some degree) by their man, but this doesn't mean that they're all going be gold diggers.

#3: I understand where you're comming from. I had the same stereotypes about homosexuals, but was proven wrong.

#4: You're right, there are more white women in shape than black women. This is (as all the brothas on here know) a BLACK problem, as our people are not as health concious as we should be. That is why diabetes, cancer and heart attacks are the leading causes of death among black americans. We must put forth the effort to keep this from happening with future generations.

#5: True, I can't lie. But then again, I can't throw all of my sistas into this category. Many of them are smart enough to know that when ANY woman finds a man who is smart, handsome, sexy, successful and respectable that she is going to hold on to him... regardless of his skin color.

On a side note: I do know some brothas who have dated or slept with any white woman that gave him the time of day. I suspect that this is because he feels as if he has accomplished something by "scoring one for the brothas", or maybe he just takes what he can get. One of the things that makes me angry is when the rappers travel to European countries for concerts and make a big deal out of the fact that they were able to have orgies with modelesque white women. Sounds like "slave talk" whenever I hear it.

 

Its true many of us do, i will admit. no apologies, and I hope some WW like BM cause we are black

 

we like them because they are sooooo very hot!

 

well of course I like black guys for being black. I like them physically and I admire their inner strength.

 

Ooops, that wasn't for me to respond hahahahaha. But whats wrong with liking someone because she's white also, part of the reasons, its just about your attraction.

 

I've tried numerous times telling myself that I'm not attracted to WW and it could cause drama if I pursue a relationship with one but I always end up having this natural attraction to them no matter what. I just can't deny it even when I try to, so I just go w/ what feels right. (Not implying I can only feel right w/ WW).

 

SoCal: why would you try and talk yourself out of dating a WW? arent you into dating IR?