Black Fetishists

In general I tend to look down on white women who are into black men due to stereotypes misconceptions or watching too much interracial porn rather than culture, values or humanity. But I run into two problems.

1) I sometimes feel hypocritical because I love interracial porn, particularly ones that play off the stereotypes.

2) When I'm with someone who I know likes me for me, I really don't mind playing the role or playing the stereotypes in bed through dirty talk, domination ect.

In a loving context I don't mind fetishising the stereotypes because as much as I love being loved sometimes I like feeling like a powerful Mandingo that's going to drill my woman til she's a soggy mess. Also the more true stereotypes of the culture I grew up with does clash in positive ways with my fiancées.

In a loving context is it not that bad to enjoy and indulge in interracial stereotypes and the fetishising that it bring up and should I be more lieniant on women who are open to enjoying interracial sex for purely fetish reasons during swinging or one night stands?

 

I don't think that it has anything to do with deciding leniency in situations or with certain women. I think that it's more about what/when/or who you feel comfortable in sharing those types of situations with. If you meet some woman and feel like she's using you more for her own fetishes than trying to go 50/50 in on enjoying it.....I'd maybe take a step back from a woman like that.

Personally, I get tired of people (and even certain black men) fueling the BMWW stereotypes towards me as well. When it becomes known that I've dated black men...suddenly everyone around me expects me to drop to my knees the second any and every black man walks through the door. (Literally....the bar I work at this is a running joke among the bartenders....I'm given EVERY SINGLE black man's number...)

However, after I've met someone...enjoy them and vibe with them well. I'm all for getting dominated in the sheets. :smt023

 

Yeah how ridiculous is this...! I date black men, therefore I must be interested in EVERY black man I come across.......!!! Stupid thinking

 

omg, it's one of the most annoying things ever. At work whenever we get a new employee if it's a black guy everyone suddenly goes "Nikki, don't think about it, you have a boyfriend!"

I'm like...ugh.

I even had a friend's girlfriend once tell me, about the man I'm dating now, "You don't have to try and date him just because he's black". At the time I was seeing someone else and only trying to be friends with him!

It's so fucking stupid. Sometimes I just want to punch people.

Even if I didn't have STANDARDS then the fact that I have a BOYFRIEND in a monogamous relationship should tip people off, but noooo. If he's got a black dick apparently I'm supposed to jump on it without question.

 

Fiancées?

 

I understand your sentiments...

Your post speaks great volumes on the idea of "racist love". However, I'm more than inclined to say that not all women who have a preference in black women do it out of a fetish. Yes, it all begins with a preference and a strong attraction based on the physical qualities of the person. However, to define it as a fetish is only when someone would only love the person for WHAT they are as oppose to WHO they are. I say this because if (for example) a white woman and black man get together, initially it will be out of physical appearance. From that point on, the physical attraction becomes less of a reason for when they get together. That there isn't really a fetish.

But, if they're together still and complications arise and one and the other starting hating one another and use racial slurs as a means to demean or diminish the other person, then you could say that the relationship was based solely on the fetish because of WHAT they are.

This is 2010 and the attitudes since have evolved. So I'm more than inclined to believe that men and women alike are more prone to love someone naturally beyond the physical attractions.

 

yeah, I know how you guys feel. I had a moment with a ww and we talked and it was sad how the world view her. I was trying hard to take her out but she wouldnt because she was hurt by how society was treating her (alabama) . she got it ruff from the black women.

that kind of delayed me from dating ww until now (20 years later) because I didnt want to put anyone through that. I didnt want anyone to cry like she did. it was horrible. she was a wonderful person. she was the 1st to go to a HBCU her in alabama. That I know of.

 

Do you still keep in contact with her?

 

naw, I havent seen her. we just talked on the phone a few times. she was really nice.

 

Goodlove, even though you start an awful lot of goofy threads, I gotta' love you for your big heart.

 

LOL, I love goofy. It takes you away from the pain and the worries in life. I appreciate you seeing me with a big heart.

I really want to say to YOU guys that yall are the nicest people I ever met. I have a couple of very good friends a call because I grew up with them and they know me deeply.

You guys I really do appreciate because yall in a way have been very helpful to me. yall let me escape when I need to. yall give me a good laugh. yall do know how much it helps.

 

There are so many people out there who see people of another race as a fetish. I don't want to date someone who wants to be with me because I am black. Iwant someone who really enjoys me and shares my values. The bedroom stuff comes later after a commitment is made.
The sad thing about our culture is because of our ugly history of intolerance/slavery/segregation/fear of black sexuality, there are so many hypocrites who want to marry a white man and have his children but walk on the wild side with a black man.

 

Good post....