"Black-dar"

All the brothas on here know what I'm talking about. It's similar to the gay mens' "Gay-dar". You see a white girl from afar, and you can tell (just by looking at her) that she has a sweet tooth for black men. Brothas, lend me your two cents!

 

Never heard of it. It also seems like a pipe dream to believe it. You can't tell by looking at someone what they are into, and to add, a lot of straight men have been accused of being gay by someone's 'gay-dar' when all along, it was only a reaction out of a personal attraction to that individual man, which some women were in denial about.

 

"Black-dar" is a term that I made up.

 

I can usually tell if she is at least to open to black men if I'm in close proximity. It's the body language, facial expressions and the kind of energy that she would put out that would indicate whether she's comfortable with black men.

If I'm in a store or some other kind of closed area , what I usually do is to make myself known to her either by making a cough, asking the salesperson something in a very audible voice or walking past her in a deliberate manner. After that I gauge her comfort zone by peeping the body language and facial expressions. If I feel good vibes then I approach her and introduce myself and/or give her a compliment. If I get questionable vibes I still may approach her but not so aggressively. If I get bad vibes then I usually won't approach but still keep in mind that it may not be me but she might be in a bad mood. As far a telling that she may be into black from afar it's hard to tell.

 

Maybe its you she likes, not necessarily all black men???

 

I have to agree. I am dating a black man now. He is the second black man that I dating and it is because we are attracted to EACH OTHER.

 

This is good to know! And actually funny that you would bring it up because I was discussing this topic with a black male friend of mine. He says he has "Black-dar" (he didn't use that exact term, of course!) But he did add that he can't always tell. He claims that he never would have known that I was into BM!

In equivalent "gay-dar" terms I guess that would make me a straight-looking gay man! HAHAHA :lol:

 

Sometimes you can tell sometimes you cant. Besides the obvious clothing i mean...

 

Darman: I understand what you are saying, black radar, or better is IDAR--Interracial radar--being able to tell who is into IR dating/marriage or IR friendly.

I have IDar-- usually can tell if someone is more or less open to IR relationships.

Its a look, a feeling, behavior and interest. sometimes its even dress. It can get hard in places where there are not alot of black people, but in the cities it is much easier to spot.

 

Well, I have to admit that I've also used the term "black-dar" to explain the strange fact that I can very often spot a BM out of the corner of my eye... or how I tend to instinctivly look in his direction at the exact moment that a BM crosses my path! 8)

(NOTE: As I have previously stated in another topic, there are not THAT many in my city, soooo.. I tend to notice them more. AGAIN..... As I aslo stated, I am NOT attracted to every singly BM that I see... but I do notice!)

 

May the Lord be with you

 

and also with you, Let Jesus our God rest rule and abide in your life-praise HIM

 

I agree with you. I can walk down the street and make eye contact with certain White women. I can always tell the ones who are at least curious or attracted and the ones who aren't. Maybe its just a matter of confidence or culture. In other words, maybe a White woman who holds my eye contact and smiles, or flirts a little, is not really INTO Black men so much as she is just confident of herself as a woman and not afraid to express herself? I don't know. I mean, there are Obvious White women who are into Black men: they dress, walk, and talk a certain way that communicates to the world what culture they are attracted to. But, truly, when I met my wife, she didn't give off any signals to indicate she was into Black men at all. But, then again, she really wasn't until I came into her life. She says that it had never even seemed an option to her before, just a passing curiosity.

So I don't know. I started this Reply ready to declare my belief in Black-Dar and ended it not really knowing if its as simple as that.

:?

 

You're right, that's why I don't believe in 'Black-dar.'

 

Even if such a thing existed, very few people would be comfortable with the idea that strangers could immediately determine their preferences without even interacting with or getting to know them...

 

Greatly considered.

 

But the thing is, there really is SOMETHING going on with certain White women that does send a signal...I just don't know what it is. As silly as it sounds, there have been plenty of times in my life when I saw a White woman and thought, "She has a Black man." Later, after getting to know the woman, I was right...at least 90% of the time! Maybe there really are a set of subtle clues and hints that people can pick up on. For example, Black women have told me that they could tell I was with a White woman and when I asked How?, they just shrugged and said, "I can just tell, is all. I don't know how."

Could it be things as innocuous as jewelry selection, clothing worn, a certain walk, certain phrases?

Oh, well. It's not THAT important, anyways. But I understand what Darman was trying to express.

 

how can you tell? what do we do or say to give it away?

 

interesting

 

i want to know why we keep hurting each other, i didnt grow up in black communities and so had limited connections with alot of blacks, esp girls. Why is it so tense?