Best Place to meet

Hi Guys ,

what place is best to meet a decent person , in your opinion . Please
let me know witch one worked best for you ...

1. At university or college
2. Church
3. At the Mall
4. Public transport (Bus , Train or Subway)
5. Online (Internet)
6. Bar (Reggae club for IR , lol )
7. Shopping mall
8. At the library

or through another friend ?

 

University, most definitely. Nothing else has ever worked long terms for me.


Ok, i'm seriously bitter right now, so if you would have asked me two weeks ago I would have said a club, but i've seen the "error" of my ways and will not ever EVER go out again. (at least not until next weekend)

 

I'll tell you when I meet a decent person.

 

school and through friends are the ways i've met great guys. obviously they didn't work long term, but at a university you meet a wide variety of people with different experiences and backgrounds.

oh by the way, bars/clubs usually aren't places you would meet a decent person...unless you ask them out to get to know them someplace else...like a movie or restaurant. alcohol and loud music make someone seem great, then out in the real world they are really crap.

 

I've always enjoyed it most when I've met men doing whatever it is that I do during the course of my life. In classes, at work, in the neighborhood, at a park, in the hardware store, etc. Years ago, I tried online dating, had friends fix me up, and other contrived means of meeting men, and I really wasn't very good at any of it. Maybe because expectations (mine and/or theirs) were unrealistic? Anyway, it's so much nicer when I meet someone in a friendly sort of chance encounter.

 

Take bars out of the picture for me! I have low tolerance for drunkards.

A church, nah, not into crazy people, they might actually believe the cow jumped over the moon and the dish ran away with the spoon.

All of the others seem viable, you forgot a Museum.

Ooops I almost forgot the internet. The screening process, may take a little longer, because some people have a tendency of living alter ego's so you may need time to filter out the ish!

 

I don't mind bars. A lot of nice professionals gather for the happy hour.

The internet also... you end up meeting some interesting people that you might have never met otherwise.

 

Regarding the church... I met one Catholic guy online who said that going to both the Catholic and the Orthodox church is "heresy". Uh I know that. But I have my own relationship with God, thank you very much.

He also told me that he decided not to watch dirty movies anymore so one time he walked out of a movie theatre because the scene was "so dirty."

Umm... I'm not getting turned on here. Next.

 

NEXT being the key word lately!

Ok the sig line is just too funny. The online thing can be rather entertaining at times!

 

I have the bad habit of meeting people at work. -_-

School hasn't worked for me, because I'm older than most students there. And it really bugs me to date younger guys, for some reason. I've only ever did it once, and it didn't last long. The guys I tend to date are closer to 30 than 25.

I've met guys at bars, but I've yet to find a guy worth my time at a bar. I wouldn't automatically discount a guy I met in a bar, but I'd be more wary, that's for sure.

Best places - places/activities you're interested in (instant common ground!) and places not involving alcohol.

 

I don't think one place is better or worse than the other, there are decent and not so decent people everywhere. I'd say wherever you feel most comfortable but don't discount any place really, you never know what fate has in store and in the end its all about fate .... when you're supposed to meet the person you will and most often its in the unlikeliest of places.

That's my belief anyways.

 

I agree with this totally, sometimes in even the worst places you may find a Diamond in the rough

 

That's so true. As long as you don't go out with the intention of looking for someone, you'll be fine

 

Exactly. Its when you're not looking for someone that you find them.

 

I would add to this list...the gym

 

Church
Work

 

oh the gym, of course!

then they get to see you all sweaty and smelly! haha:smt053

 

Thanks for the addition , i never when to the gym in my life ... so
i had no clue about the gym thing.

I will consider "college" or "through a friend" ... they both worked
for me before. if you are into the one night thing then the reggae
club will be the best option ,i have experienced it myself in Europe.

 

I would say church, because that's where I met my guy, but I've also met a bunch of hypocrites there, so it doesn't always hold true. If you have interests, pursue them and meet ladies along they way that will naturally be a part of those pursuits.

I don't think it matters so much where you meet someone, as what you do and how you react when you do meet someone you're interested in.

I would suggest reading a great book by Alan Loy McGinnis "The Friendship Factor" and another classic by Dale Carnegie "How to Win Friends and Influence People". These books aren't about romantic relationships but they have a lot about how to make good first impressions and how to get people to like you. IMO these should both be required reading for a high school diploma.

That sounds on the surface as if it would be manipulation, but the books are not about manipulation, they are about genuine issues that help all relationships get off to good starts.

 

What about the ones who are too broke to go to the mall?