Attraction to Black Men = Perversion?

Ah yes, I forgot about the "white girls love giving head"...... Lol. Who gives you the most hard time, blacks or whites, men or women?

For me its white men and black women.

 

That's really interesting, DK. Do those comments come from men as well as women?

 

I can see how a racial prejudice can make someone attack and make them mask it as a sexual attack, but I still honestly think that if you were a man, any color man, you'd not get these comments as often.

 

That's exactly it. Super frustrating. But you might be right - not going to change any time soon

 

Amen! You took the words out of my mouth. There is nothing perverted about having such a strong attraction to what I see is the most gorgeous race of men on the planet. You cannot control what you find attractive. Everyone has their kind of man whom they find most desirable and white women should never be ashamed or have to explain to anyone why we want a black man. I've had to put aside some "associates" because a few of them practically accused me of being racist because I decided to pursue the men I really were attracted to and leave white men behind for good.

People well express their fear and disdain for such a beautiful combo of WW with BM because they fear something that they can't control. Whether it is people saying all black men want is a "trophy" white wife or whether they say we want black men only for their large dicks, it is all to denigrate WW and BM to make us feel guilty about our mutual attraction. It is PURE and NATURAL for some folks to have a much stronger attraction to someone of a different race. White women have nothing to prove to anyone who disapproves why we want black men; only thing that matters is that we are sincere in our desires to ourselves and the man of interest what we want out of the deal. We want the whole thing. At least the women on this board I've seen post want a good relationship with a BM which will include great action in bed as well as well as mutual respect

 

Because a relationship that does not have both, is not going to last very long. Neither one is negotiable.

 

If you get in any ir relationship, people will always bring up the stereotypes for it since they can't wrap they're narrow minds around any other reason why you would date out.

If you date an asian women, people assume it's because you want a classical houswife who stays thin and lets you wear the pants in the relationship.

If you date a white man, people assume you're americanized, you're a self-hater and a gold digging whore who doesn't respect their own cultural background.

The list goes on. Now stereotypes do have a percentage of truth, because I have met and been involved with ww who date bm with nothing but sex on their minds, met a few women of color who hate being the race they are and only date white men because they dislike being people of color, and I met a few guys who like asian women because they don't fight back.

But that doesn't mean I assume all people in ir relations are in them for those reasons. If only people thought the same way.

 

But, as a man, I cannot show my sexual appetite to any woman or I would be considered a sexual predator. I don't think of sex all the time when I see an attractive woman go by, but that does not suggest that I do not have a second look. In my lifetime, two white women had stated that they would, or should have gone out with me. But, they had other issues in their lives like being engaged or getting pregnant with a guy who turns out to be a loser. My older brother and sister used to ridicule me for my interest in the IR lifestyle when I hit puberty. This did not stop me. But, because I lived in a small town in the South(Live Oak, FL), I had to keep it to myself for my mother's sake.

 

Woah, my bad! Edited.

You can still answer the question though please and thank you

 

No problem just don't like giving the haters any info.
To answer your question its mostly black dudes who ask me that shit, but the do you love your mother nonsense is usually black women who would never dare ask a black woman do they love their fathers when they date someone non black. I used to get teased a lot for dating ww when I was a kid ironically several of the guys that use to make jokes about it ended up either marrying or having kids with ww. Guess they didn't mind the "wet dog smell" lol

I will say this, in my personal experience ww have been the most fun, caring, and sexual satisfying women I've dated overall. With the exception of my current gf I've usually only had eyes for ww but its not really a racial attraction as much as its associating positives with past experiences.

 

Well, I do see things a little different from a woman's perspective, but honestly, when I stop think about it as thoroughly as possible, I don't know in the end, what people's deal is with WWBM IR... I guess its a mix of the sexuality of it, the raciality of it, the historical aspect of it, and the social ignorance aspect of it.... all jumbled together. People are small-minded fear-based animalistic creatures, might be the best way of putting it, without getting into specifics...

 

So coming from black men, those comments are probably pretty on par with the jokes/comments I experience coming from white women. Maybe it is just a case of "fear of the unknown".

 

Well what I've noticed most of the black dudes who make comments really wanted to date ww but didn't think they had the "right stuff"
I went to private school and had mostly white friends growing up so to them I knew their "language" and to be fair I probably did since I spent so much of my formative years in that world.
I'd wager for a lot of ww who make jokes they are secretly curious especially sexually. What woman here doesn't swoon over having some strong muscular chocolate dude all over them long dicking them. I think nearly all women fantasize about because trust me bm aren't the ones supporting the ir porn game lol

 

No...but white men are.

 

Most of my female friends are gay But there might still be a certain amount of curiosity going on there.. !

 

When you look at all the angles in regard to WW/BM in relationships other than platonic, you needn't go no farther than what is said at home among the family. There is also the fear of how such a union affects a family's standing in the community they live in. It is about fear, revulsion, ignorance, religious beliefs and history. These reasons are legitimate to those who are opposed to IR relationships other than platonic. These individuals believe that the races MUST be separated because they believe that is what God intended. I think that these people had been around these attitudes for far too long and they won't change even if it is at their own peril. That being said; a close, committed relationship has its risks because to the outside world, the question is about what they see when the see a black man and a white woman together. Do the see sexual attraction, lust and desire? Or do they see a man and a woman walking together and standing alone against the world?

 

hold on they're gay saying dumb shit like that? wow
Talk about lack of sensitivity. Even though I do here gay men are notoriously racist in these parts so maybe its not that much of a surprise

 

Yes, and then there are the religion based dumbasses, who use the Bible to back up all of their bs, despite the fact most of them have not even read the Bible.

Any relationship has its risks. Especially when the people in it actually care what the outside world sees and says.... But you have a valid point, if the people are ambitious to fit into their society and community, an IR is probably not recommended, lol. But two people who have such an orientation are also a sign of a doomed relationship. Because the outside world will find any and all angles to tear down something they want to see fail. And I am saying this from the experience of being previously married - to a white man. Race not even a factor there.

 

Gay, straight, it doesn't make any difference, the stereotype about black men is the same.