Are White Women the Ultimate Drama Queens?

There is a stereotype about most white women being drama queens and I'm beginning to wonder if it's as true as black men loving big booty girls or is it as false as black men and malt liquor. Below is a case in point:

I know a guy at work (let's just say his name is Tony) who was madly attracted to one of his white female co-workers (let's say her name is Becky). He never came out and told her how he felt because she was married. They worked side by side until she was promoted to a higher position. After she was promoted, he sent her an e-mail congratulating her on getting the new job because she hated her previous supervisor and he was happy for her. She sent him an e-mail back saying thank you.

After awhile, they were sending each other e-mails almost every day talking about everything from sports, religion, politics, and even a little (gasp) flirting! Keep in mind that he wasn't trying to black bull her but he did admit he was attracted to her. She even gave him the old "Driving Miss Daisy" you are my best friend line.

Anyway, while she was working at her new position, she began flirting with this other black guy she was working near (let's say his name is Kevin). They began hanging out all the time and he would always sit near her at company meetings. This made Tony, who she used to work with, a little jealous and he wrote her an e-mail saying that he was somewhat jealous that she doesn't treat him like she treats the other guy. He also said that if anything he has written her bothers her, just let him know and he'll tone down the content during future e-mails. She didn't know that he was friends (albeit not close friends) with Kevin. He even found out Becky had been calling the Kevin whenever her husband was gone to work. But, previously, she said that she didn't talk to co-workers away from work because she is a married woman and it wouldn't look right.

The next day, Tony got a call from Human Resources. It turned out that Becky told HR that Tony's e-mail "scared" her. Human Resources, along with Tony's supervisor, told him to stop sending e-mails to Becky and if he tries to have any contact with her, it could be grounds for insubordination which could lead to his dismissal from the job.

I told you that true story to say this: I believe that most black women would have handled the situation differently. Becky came down with a severe case of Drama Queen-itis and got that man in trouble. Women, what would you have done? Did Becky overreact or was Tony being a Drama King? Are white women the ultimate Drama Queens? If white women aren't, then who is?

You be the judge. Looking forward to all replies.

Peace.
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"The mind is like a parachute. It works best when it is open." - Rickson Gracie

 

I'll reply when I have more time, but we have a very similar situation brewing on my job...all centering on a married woman pursuing black men and telling everyone they're after her. She calls them from home while they're still at the office sometimes using her husband's cell phone, but the guys are now easing back so as not to provoke her to cause any undue problems. I think they were flattered at first until they all found out about each other and she became increasingly demanding.

 

For one Tony should never flirt over the companies email system,He also should have not got worked up over a married woman anyway that is just foolish. Never shoot yourself in the foot by messing with the women you work with,was she being a drama I have to say yes she could have told him herself instead of going to HR,she was trying to get that brotha fired for real. Also her married ass should not be calling and flirting with the men on the job also.

 

Maybe this one should be in the stereotypes section

 

So, Kevin "made friends" with the other guy? That doesnt sound normal. He sees a man sitting by her at a company functions, gets jealous and makes friends so he cam pump him for info.

Sounds like Kevin has some boundry issues. Have you seen the emails or are you going on his word?

For me, it would all depend on what he said in those emails. Just from the story he told you I see he has some boundry issues. It all depends on what was written. I would be freaked out if someone made friends with someone I was seeing/possiably seeing/thinking of seeing and then confronted me with personal information. At work.

Besides, it was company email so I am sure they can recover all the emails and tell who is truthful and who isnt. If he was above water he should just stay away and let it be.

 

The guy I am seeing right now just got back from 3 years working overseas. While he was gone, his non-white wife had a baby by someone else and moved him into their home. All the while this guy was supporting that home by sending money each month.

A friend finally tells him what is going on and he send her legal separation papers. He tells me the story and then says he is coming home around Valentines and asks if I would accept a date from him. I agree. We start seeing each other.

Now, his non-white wife (who got pregnant from someone else) is freaking out. She even said to him that she would kill him, me and our baby. WTF? Yeah, she is already planning a baby for us.

She makes his kids miserable and has then calling him crying. I heard one of their messages in which his daughter said she whipped her for no reason and told her that since she wasnt happy, no one would be happy. (It has been on my insistance that he keep his messages and I showed him how to download them onto my mac for safe keeping)

He caught her the other day inside his vehicle late at night going thru crumbs.

Now, THAT is drama.

 

not in my 35 years of experience around WW

 

why hard for me black man to get white woman

I am foreign born, having hard time to date white woman, although is easy for me to get a black women. Is this due to my accent or my culture any one know why?

 

no it isnt based on your culture or foreign status, it is probably where you hang out and who you hang out with.

try going to open minded places like a city with big university; coffee shops and bookstores, theatres, art museums, multiracial churches, multiracial lectures.

It might be that you are not going to the right places where alot of white women are.

I live near NJ in Pennsylvania and there are lots of IR couples and white women who date and marry black men from many cultures.

try www.interracialmatcher.com and look at NJ

 

All kinds of women ( as well as some men) can be drama queens, but as we all know, it's much worse when it's woman than if it's a man...

especially if it's a WHITE woman, because with their social status in the world versus all the rest, they can pretty much get away with murder (literally).

Yes, she overreacted, and YES, she did mean to get that dude fired, otherwise:

1. She wouldn't have stopped flirting back

2. She wouldn't have been cheating on her husband

3. She wouldn't have been flirting with more than one man at work, who also happens to be black

4. She wouldn't have taken it to Human Resources

and, this sort of thing proves that:

1. Business and pleasure don't mix

2. Business and pleasure don't mix, especially with a mixed group of people

 

excellent points

 

WW, BW, AW, LW can all be drama queens...but I think the reasoning for the drama varies. BW and LW will give you drama...but it is usually because they want to engage in a power struggle and show that they can "tame the wild young colt" that tries to come on to them. BW and LW that have feelings for you are generally pretty straightforward even if the man is of a different race. WW and AW (mainly when dealing with BM) can be drama queens when they are scared to let their true feelings show. Its not that they really enjoy being messy....its that they know that tingling feeling they get when they see a handsome BM...and they don't like feeling that way. Some WW and AW will lead you on, until you bite hard enough and than try to back away and use you as an example of how an average looking WW/AM can attract a good looking BM. It doesn't mean they don't have feelings...its just about saving face in front of friends.

 

Very true.

 

I think its more that she is a biatch as some would say. She knew what she was doing and wanted to have her cake and eat it to. When it became obvious that her bs could get thrown in her face. She probably did what was most known to her. Bring unnecessary drama and make someone else look like the bad person. These type of women aren't just limited to ww. But to all races. But a ww's position in this society makes it more dangerous for bm when being accused of something from ww. Whether it be false accusation of rape,come-ons,etc. Bm need to pay attention to who they are dealing with.

 

Co-signed,

SG