are interracial couples overly sensitive?

Or do people who date outside of their race think that everyone is opposed to what they are doing?

The reason I pose this question is because of the replies to my post about sexual harassment.

With an innocent question about sexual harassment, I was accused of trying to incite a cyber riot. Huh?

Another contributor accused me of coming here to diss a black man because I thought he treated white women better than he treated black women. :?

Well, I do feel that the guy I mentioned erroneously thinks white women are superior to black women and so, yes, dissing him would be as thrilling as having multiple orgasms. :lol:

But I'd prefer the dissing to occur in a vis-a-vis situation. Hey, I can be petty and childish sometimes.

But I'd get no emotional gratification from dissing a man on this site. First off, he wouldn't see it. Secondly, I am perturbed with him and not the black men on this site. So why would I lash out at those who have done nothing to me?

Which brings me to another point. I have gotten into heated arguments with black women who complain about how we are losing decent black men to white women.

That statement drives me totally bonkers. It implies that black men are indebted to black women. When in reality, they don't owe us anything. They have a right to date and marry whomever they please without being subjected to hostile, disapproving stares in public or being accused of being race traitors or devoid of racial pride.

That's my position. But most people in interracial romances don't believe that there are black women who feel that way.

I like black men and white men. My preference is black men, but I have no problem with it if they date white women because I think having those experiences usually makes a man more rounded and interesting.

And I like interesting men.

In closing, I want to say that I am nobody's foe and I have no interest in fighting with anyone.

Happy Easter to all.

 

Although you admit to being childish sometimes, I think even a child would know what sexual harassment is in the scenario you gave so I question the so called innocences of the original thread.

You ask a question about the mindset of interracial daters but you say date interracially so you should know the answer to your question just as well as anyone else here. No?

Before anyone gets all bent out of shape, I make these assessments in innocences.
I don't want to cause a riot over here... Or fight anyone.

Just my two cents is all.

 

Look,

I think Black people owe each other a heck of a lot--called respect, understanding, trust, and appreciation considering the B.S. that we already go through from external forces, we sure don't need to be bringing each other down. I believe this is where many BM and BW are truly coming from when they get into these battles over IR's.
The majority of us really do not feel that either one of us really value and appreciate each other.

No, I or no other BW owns a Black Man, he is free to do what he wants to do and entitled to his own choices. Yes, no one in an IR should be subjugated to hateful stares, nor verbal and physical attacks. The only time I would throw down, if he or she came at me with some B.S., then it's on.

I personally do not feel that WW are taking anything away from me, I wouldn't dare give them that much power over me nor give them that kind of credit. Also, many WW are just as insecure about BW period and BW dealing with WM, they just have enough sense to not be as publically vocal about it. It's not PC. I and so do many other BW have plenty of access to BM from all over the world, and men of color period. The only ones who say this mess about WW stealing their good BM are insecure, fake, materialistic, standards are so high that even Jesus Christ couldn't fulfill them, clown looking BW, who NO man would want in the first place. I see these women, and they are so fake and rotten, they just make me cringe when I run into them and embarrassed. If any Black American woman cannot find a mate, it is her fault, not a BM's fault. Too many Black American women, no matter what socioeconomic class, have a problem with limiting their options. They usually have ONE specific kind of Black American male in mind, and if they don't get him, they CHOOSE to stay alone. Thus, that leaves out a great deal of Black American men they could have b/c he doesn't fit her type. Picky, Picky, and more Picky!! Too many Black American women are soooo bigoted, they even refuse to date other BM from foreign countries and other men of color b/c they are not Black American men. Also, the minute, you say date out--they automatically think of a WM and many get turned off by the idea. You can date out and it don't have to be with a WM, try a Jamaican, a Ghanian, a Japanese, or even a Puerto Rican. "The Sky Isn't Falling."

Finally, the thread that you started seemed pretty shady to me, considering you would come on to the website that is clearly about Black men preferring, having an interest, or exclusively dating WW to slam a brother for doing the same, and instead of being woman enough to sit down to him face to face and discuss how you felt, you automatically want to jump on the sexual harrassment card b/c you rather he wanted chocolate just as much or even more so than vanilla, then again, this is just your ASSUMPTION. When you ASSUME, you make an ASS out of yourself. You don't know the exact kind of relationship he has with these WW. Also, you are not in that man's mind, you don't know what he likes, prefers, or thinks about WW or BW. Maybe, it could be your own bigotry and insecurity that is misinterpreting his actions with BW and WW. Either be a woman and face him or let it go.

Peace.

 

Jeverage, you are UNREAL...
You must be cloned 100 times!!!

Everything you say is so true that adding to it would just diminish its strenght!!!
I am truly impressed...GRRREAT points!!!

 

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