Are foreign women REALLY better?

You really think a lack of confidence is why so many men choose to date non American women? Interesting lol

You do know that's one of the major stereotypes behind why bm date ww. You guys are suppose to be more docile and you attract weak bm who can't handle "real" women.

 

Yes. Even existing children.

 

Interesting.

So, you think there is a difference between American women and other women as to who will raise children?

 

I don't really think "so many men" choose to date non American women. I don't know any men who go out of their way to date foreign women. Maybe some did when they were younger because they thought they might be more exotic, or they were in the military and in different countries at the time.

I know there are those who do the mail order bride thing but I've never known one personally who did that. When it comes to the mail order bride thing, my understanding is that it is predominately white men. And yah I would think there are some issues with a man who feels the need to go that route.

 

I don't think that is true at all...I think a BM that choses to "really" date a WW must be very strong...he has been raised by a black mother & hopefully father that more than likely would prefer he date within his own race

Now I am not talking about BM that see WW as a fetish...

WW that date BM for the right reasons are more than likely very strong as well...

BM/WW couples when doing it right are a pretty strong bond...both made choices to be in that relationship against the "norm"

 

I agree with K...I don't personally know anyone who chooses to date foreign women, but I hear 2-3 guys here talk about how green that grass is lol. "So many" men singling out foreign women to date though...I doubt it. My point is that any man saying he needs a foreign woman because American women aren't bold enough, clearly imo lacks the confidence to approach women since they expect her to be the initiator.

 

Foreign women are easier to "date." Getting through the "door" is easier because of where you're from. Cause, you're "exotic to them, also. They probably treat guys from their countries the way American women treat you. Never forget that. But, once you get into long term relationships with them, they're the same as any other woman you'd meet here.

At the end of the day, it's all about who YOU pick. If you're subject to pick incompatible American women, you will more than likely pick an incompatible foreign woman.

The only real saving grace is, depending on what country she's from, she may hold marriage up as sacred and believe that once you're in one, you don't leave it. No matter how bad things are. That could be bad or good. All depends on how mature the two of you are.

 

Well I think it's hard for you guys to say since again you don't approach women. And maybe the more accurate statement is many men prefer them to American because again we raise our girls to be entitled princesses. Of course not all but an incredibly vocal minority who do deter a lot of men.
And I dont know what dude meant by bold but maybe the better term is inviting. American women overall, NOT ALL, are very stand offish when being approached. So many of them act as if they're celebrities being bothered fans when they are approached by a man especially one they aren't physically attracted to. So if that's what you're being met with of course certain men would be turned off by them. Until you encounter the rudeness and down right dismissal that a man can encounter when approaching a woman you won't really get it.
As a whole Americans just aren't very nice or personable people. Until you actually travel you cant see it because it's our normal but boy the difference is astounding and there's a reason men talk about it.

 

You think so? I think culture matters a lot. Like for example I remember dating this girl from Sweden and we never got into a single disagreement in the year we dated and not because no one messed up but because her first thought was to discuss not to yell or dwell in being upset. We live in our feelings in this country. It's rare to find an American woman who genuinely wants to discuss how to solve a problem and move opposed to those who love to give dissertations on why they're upset.

 

I agree with you but I never said it was true I was just saying Raiders comment about lack of confidence is the usual insult thrown out at bm when we choose to date ww.

 

Interesting.

I don't think America has a monopoly on raising their daughters to be princesses at all. I think there are other cultures that do so much more than we do.

I do understand about the minority of incredibly vocal women who deter men and those who throw the attitude. I have seen that. It's weird. A friend of mine who is usually very nice and friendly to just about everyone told me the other day that I should just not even bother saying anything to a man I'm wasn't interested in because I didn't "owe" him anything. I was a bit shocked by that. I don't think I "owe" him anything. But I do think I should at least be cordial and say something. To me it's simply a matter of respect.

Sounds like Samson may be right in saying that it may be easier to "get in the door" but once in a relationship it's no different.

 

Is that what's said?

I can't keep up with the bs that is tossed around, nor do I care to.

I used to hear things like it's cause we will do everything for Black men and we were freaks in bed. Black men can get away with much more with white women.....blah blah blah

I'm much more interested in reality than what a bunch of people may say that really have no impact on my life.

I would agree with what Lippy said about it all. I realize that's not addressing the foreign women vs American women.

 

Well of course we don't have a monopoly on it but go to places like Canada, England, Japan, Sweden it's not part of the everyday culture like it is here. And like I said before unless you are dating women you're not really going to see it the way a lot of men see it.
And I don't agree with Samson because his statement ignores the fact that people have different cultures and that can greatly influence and dictate personality traits. For example after dating many European women I can say they put a much bigger value on education and not just education for the sake of getting a job but just being a much more well rounded person. They know multiple languages and have genuine interests in art and music not just top 40 shit. They don't devote dozens of hours to reality tv the way we do here, they eat better, exercise more. You don't that shit shapes you?

 

Which correlates to us being weak for dating you guys.

 

Um no that correlates to Black men being opportunists.

But the bottom line is who gives a fuck?! I mean is it true? Why be concerned about what other people are thinking or saying? Why would you (general you) give any of that any attention?

I think it's ridiculous to think by going out and finding a foreign woman any of that would be avoided. If anything, that would probably feed into that bullshit even more.

 

Well that has nothing to do with dating foreign women. Dating foreign women for a lot of men has more to do with far more warmth and basic appreciation. Having someone in your life who actually values time and experiences with you and doesn't come off as entitled and ungrateful.
It hasn't always been my experience but I seriously get why some men gravitate towards. This idea that all women are the same despite culture us absolutely ridiculous and untrue. It's like saying a man raised in thr middle east is exactly the same as a man raised in LA.

 

I agree that culture factors in. I just don't think that's exclusive to those living in other countries. I think it's more about core values and how a person is. Different regions in the US can be very different in terms of the things you are talking about.

Just as we can't say all women are the same, to say all foreign women or all American women or all women from x country are whatever, is no different. And then where does all that break down? Is it just the women who are living in those countries? How about those who have immigrated to the US? And which countries are you really discussing? Do you really think that the women from Japan are the same as the women from Sweden, and so forth?

 

Sam is on point. I dated an exchange student. Asian. I dated her till she left. She would tell me about her home life. You gathered enuff to realize a lot. I dated German (well more of one night stands so that don't count) and they were cool. In any case after the newness wear off.... (Fill in the blank)

Are there cultural differences...yes. In Germany they are big on family.. (I was in the field alot and I never shopped on the economy but my friend told me this) they would shut down stores early on Saturday to be with family.

 

Oh go to Germany during octoberfest....wow.

Also go to the redlight district in frankfurt Germany....holy crap... .the clubs and everything...I mean everything.

 

Yup! I've heard this many times. Of course, I file it under the BS hateration that it is. As for foreign women vs. American-born women... It's not something I buy into as I've seen good and bad from both groups. I'm sure it's the same with men.

I really think this just another form of bigotry.