Given my stance on "race is bullshit", I try not to allow the concept it is to deter my judgments, logic, etc. Unfortunately, there are moments when I'm posed with a question mark. In the world of IR (I even hate the word 'interracial' ... when will people learn that we're all like people ... but I disgress), I've noticed in many places I've traveled and lived that "vanilla" women are 60-90%+ of the time with dark-skinned men. Suffice to say, I've wondered, "Damn, where's the love for a 'brown-skinned' man in all of this"? Anyway, just an observation ... maybe it's just me who notices this.
In America and Latin America, based on my convictions, light skinned black men are more compatible with white women. Around the world, especially Europe, dark skinned black men are what they dig. In Europe, they seem to have the "The darker the berry, the sweeter the juice" mentality. Even here in America, most white girls and non-black women in general would rather date a light skinned black man(if at all they're open to IR) but in actual fact, they prefer dark skinned brothas. Most white girls and latinas i've come across believe that dark skinned men are more hung and more masculine. :lol:
As far as we all know in here, the entire human race is all one race as a whole. Categorizing one another by race merely from skin color is like labeling different species of creatures, and that doesn't bode too well.
You're right. Unfortunately, we live in a very uneducated society. Just the thought of someone labeling me as something I'm not makes my skin crawl ...
Agreed, and I'm European! Being a very light skinned white woman I've got to say its the contrast of light and dark that is quite the turn on.
Yeah here in america darkskinned is considered ugly. You might be around one of the very few places where black is beautiful thats all.
I am not picky about skin colour but I must say I do love really dark men...but I am perfectly happy with brown and really it doesnt matter to me one way or another.
I prefer dark skinned men, not out of any fetish, but just like some men prefer blondes - I prefer dark chocolate!
This is very funny to me because it almost seems as if most of the women of all other races have told me that they have a thing for lighter to brown men. My first wife, who is black, had a thing for darker men. Of course, this is all relative anyway…. I think there are more than enough women [black, white or otherwise] that like light skin brothers so I really do find this funny. But the truth is that more people [real people] will like you for who you are. I actually love pale white women with dark hair, but I find other women very attractive too and I would never “rule” out a woman based on skin color or hair color for that matter. I don’t think women would do that either. This does bring up the issues of skin color in the black community as most white people generally see black people as black people. There are some who will use the color line as a measuring stick for worthiness but I doubt if “light and dark” really amounts too much more than our own personal demons and how much we allow those demons to control us.
In Europe it's almost certain that the darker you are, ultimately the sexier you are - though I can understand how living in the US may have screwed up your intuitive grasp of that. Basically being really black distinguishes you from other "brown" groups over in Euro - like Asians, Indians, Turks etc. who have no real sex appeal (in Europe at any rate). Obviously phenotypical "African" features (e.g. curled hair/afro, nose, eyes, lips, body shape etc.) come into play as well. I think over in the US we have a lot more variation in racial structure, which means that many different types of "look" are appreciated here. You WILL (eventually) find women who enjoy really dark skin, really light skin, all the shades in between and the same applies for facial characteristics and body types. However in Europe as a white woman you really only have two groups of people you will find attractive in essence; a White man or a Black man. Their "brown" races are not considered sexy (especially the men, from what I've seen anyway) and so there's no real competing aspect. I think what happens to a lot of light skinned black men over in Europe is that they sort of get "merged" into these "unsexy" brown races... if you sort of get my meaning. Hence they hold no real appeal.
I live in America and dark skin is absolutely beautiful to me. :wink: It makes me sad when I hear stories about blacks ridiculing other blacks because they are "too dark". I remember reading about Terrell Owens when he was growing up, he got teased and belittled all the time because his skin was so much darker than the rest of his family. It just tears me up to hear things like that :cry: Well said, designer. I second you on that thought.
You can't generalize an entire gender. Different women like different things just like different men like different things. If you have a decent body, takecare of yourself and you're confident and witty you can pull ass. Don't worry about being light skinned.
If you're not "black" per se, Ronald, then it shouldn't matter if dark-skinned guys get all the love :lol:
If you recall, I made no mentions of "race" but "skin colour". There's a big difference. Skin colour, as so many are led to believe, has no relation to one's biological properties or attributes. I made it perfectly clear of my observation of seeing more "dark-skinned" men (again, no relation to race) than "light-skinned" ones. And it's just that, an observation ... something I notice sometimes.
Since I've been in Cali, most of the men are darker any way. From the sun I guess so I've dated mostly very dark men. Years back, I prefer the lighter skinned men. Personally I don't care though. Its about the man in side that matters.
Although I haven't been a relationship yet. I'm consider dark skin I learned to love myself for who I am. As I see it it's really the person heart that matters. Although alot of lighter skin girls have approached me. We are all beautiful in our own way.
