Anyone else refuse to date?

Lol, too true! But there are mythical females out there who don't need a man to work his ass off for a house so she and her kids can move into it...

 

I understand that I come with "baggage". But you have to understand that most of the men I've met through the dating site also have bundles of joy. And some of them have their bundles of joy a lot more than just once every other weekend.

But I digress, it's different for me (as the female).

I've also had someone tell me once that I should be grateful that he's talking to me because I have a child. I stopped that communication quickly.

I'm with Socal and Tarshi, I've come to the point where being alone is preferable than meeting these dickwads who think that just because I have a child, that I don't deserve the same type of happiness that I would get if I were child-less.

To those men, I say a big old "fuck you". :smt023 (And that is in NO WAY directed at you, Karma).

 

yes this does seem to put guys off i have noticed

 

Good for you Books, I also would never look twice at a man with an attitude about kids.

Plus like you said also, alot of them have brats of there own and that's no f*cking picnic, I once dated a guy that was called on every five poxy minutes to deal with his 10 year old, if the kid answered her back or sneezed the Mother was on the phone (I am not exaggerating, I repeat no exaggeration)

Plus he delivered her to school everyday and had her 3 nights a week plus most weekends, I like a fool ended up babysitting her for him, adding more shit to my day so he could get his work done.
That is no fucking picnic, so shove that up ur arse Karma.....works both ways.

 

I agree with this 100%. And ive continuously fallen victim to do doin just that. Online dating lends itself to this because there are so many options. The second you see something you dont like..."well lets see whats goin on with so and so who sent me that email"

Overall im on the fence with dating. Im out there but im not actively looking. I think some of it has to do with the bad taste from my last relationship, as well as losing faith in my ability to get those butterflies you used to get when you were younger. Not to mention theres something to be said for just doing YOU and enjoying the lack of expectation associated with being single.

That said, I havent shut the door.

 

That's another reason why I've given up on the online dating thing: the whole "grass is always greener" mentality that you get because you have a wealth of choices at your fingertips.

I also agree with FG and Max. I don't believe in dating more than one person at a time. I tried it a little over a year ago and it's just not fun. You can't give as much attention to the other person that way and you may miss something important and/or a red flag because you aren't giving them your full attention.

 

Too right....and repped

 

So are you mackn' on brothas in the supermarket line? :mrgreen:

 

I can definitely understand where you're coming from socalgirl and honestly, I don't blame you. It's better to be hassle free and just keep single. You can still please yourself through of measures, sexual and non-sexual and you can still live a fruitful life. Just remind yourself that in general, love is overrated since such a thing bears a meaningless struggle.

 

Only if it's you. ;-)

 

Unfortunately, it's another example of the few spoiling it for the many. Not every single parent is looking for a replacement parent for their kid(s). But unfortunately, we all get lumped into the group of "she's a single mom, she just wants a dad for her kid". Not the case. But most of the time, those of us who aren't looking for replacement parents never get to show that we aren't.

Oh well. Like I said, I'd rather be single at this point in time than made to feel inferior because I have a child.

 

I honestly dont see anything wrong with that.

#1 it shows that she has her child's best interests in mind.

#2 if she offers something or many things that are worthwhile to a man, then naturally the man she wants will gravitate toward her and coincidently, her child.

If the woman isnt shit then she wont be whether she has a child or not. And its up to the man to figure that out.

 

This post right here is the reason that:

A. I :heart: you as much as I do, because you get it. You understand.

B. I wished you lived by me.

C. You give me hope that there's one of your kind in my area.

:smt023

 

Although very sweet of you... I didnt add #3. This is assuming the man is ok with dating a woman with kids from the get go.

 

That goes without saying. :smt023

 

Now see this is the disconnect that Satyr alluded to (however bluntly):

You "don't need a man" yet bitch there are no good men

You're "independent" yet you want "chivalry"

As he pointed out that's some sistagirl nonsense that basically guarantees you remain single.