Anyone else Estranged from their family due to IR dating?

If so how do you handle it?

Me...focus on my kids, friends, job ,relationship and all the good things in life...some people are just never happy and I have stopped trying to make them be that way.

 

I was for a time. Eventually we've gotten closer again. I was newly married and pregnant then caring for my new family and didn't have a lot of time to mourn losing my family because of my decision.

 

Bosoxlady, I am sorry to read about your situation. I am very fortunate in that I am not the only one in my family in an IR relationship - so it's a nurturing and open environment with my family. Of course there are members who harbor less than ideal feelings about it all but they are intelligent enough to keep it to themselves.

 

Some of my extended family stopped speaking to me. My immediate family were against it, but over time, they had to deal with it. I also lost some friends, and extended coworkers stopped speaking to me. But I moved on and made new friends.. But to answer your question, it was hard at first, but you really see who your real friends are.

 

My father doesn't like it but he doesn't make a big deal about it. Just gives me that look when a black guy shows up at my house and asks for me.

My mom though is totally cool with it so at least I don't have to worry about her. She always was the more liberal one in the family.

 

I ignore it.
My mom is very offended by it and totaly ashemed. Latly I told her that I will see a friend on a street festival and she asked me back if the guy is black. I said yes.
It was a very good friend of mine who was visiting with his wife and kids the grandparents.
Even when my mom knew that his wife would be arround, she was like, I hope nobody will see you.
It is hard but when she cannot hanlde it it is her problem not mine.
The only way what I would understand if she would have said, that she don´t want her grandchidlren going thru the same trouble like I did sometimes. But this she never mentions. She realy don´t like Black people.

 

My dad's side of the family is somewhat ignorant but they have a bigger problem with me dating an American black guy.If he was black,born n raised in Germany they wouln't be saying anything

 

No.