Any "non-MTV" young WW interested in BM?

One of the problems that I often face while searching for a WW is that many are attracted to the media-hyped "thugs" and "ballas" that MTV (and other similar media outlets) feature so prominently. While it’s great that this generation is to open to diversity and are generally fun-loving people, it’s a bit frustrating for a guy such as myself . It should be stated that I am a 23 year-old BM, but I prefer ladies who are 19 to 21 years of age. The WW whom I've encountered via the World Wide Web in last two years or so are often times astonished when I correspond with them using <gasp> complete sentences and reveal that I'm not particularly interested in Hip-Hop or the NBA. Ironically, some of these women actually make a note to indicate on their web profiles that they are interested in "smart," "respectable" Black men. Yet, when we converse they seem to be a bit taken back by my personality. Incidentally, I have trouble approaching WW on the street and in clubs because of, well, the stigma of interracial dating. I live in Chicago, which is somewhat of a segregated city (very few "interracial" communities). I love meeting new people online but I'm yet to find a suitable WW interested in anything other than a booty-call (which I initially had no objection to). Unfortunately, the few WW who were genuinely interested in a smart, decent BM either lived in a different state or had children. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.

 

You're not leaving yourself much scope for diversity with your small age range preference of 19-21! That is the MTV generation at it's peak!

Maybe you should try non American women. Not that I'm saying American women are a certain way, but British women in particular are not interested in the NBA etc.

By the way, I'm not interested personally as I have a man, I'm just offering my opinion.

 

You admitted in your other reply that you look for the typical media hyped WW, yet you complain that the WW you are running into only want the media hyped BM. Maybe you are choosing the wrong women?

 

Thank you for your opinion Iffey'swifey, but as I'm sure you could surmise, it would be very difficult to establish a relationship with a woman who lived in Europe. Obviously, conversing over the internet is one thing, but securing a mate and spending quality time with her would be damn near impossible.

 

Perhaps, but the reason I look for a particular type of WW has nothing to do with media portrayal. I suspect the same cannot be said about the type of BM many younger WW seek.

 

Get da hell outta Chi-Town! Move to Minneapolis!!!!

The Kid Rasta 8)

 

Kid Rasta you have given him words of wisdom!!! I look at as a business. If a particular demographic doesn't buy your product(you), then go some place(Minneapolis) else and advertise.

 

Is Minneapolis a good locale for IR couples or are you suggesting it as a place of residence because of your particular experience? I've heard the city is nice for the most part.

 

It is sad but true, and the reason why it is so hard to find a good woman in general dude

 

Yeah, I'm having better luck in Portland. I went there for business and social reasons, and I found quite a few serious-minded and goal oriented WW interested in a semi-professional brotha' such as myself Like you all pointed out, I think it had a lot to do with locality.

 

yes i loved living in Portland

 

Where havent you lived, Tucker :lol: j/k

 

CAli, the midwest and Arizona

 

I thought you had lived in Chicago? Well maybe i was wrong.

 

nope, no chi town

 

by the way, have you viewed the post i made to you on the thread about "people thinking you look like the type that dates white girls"? i posted you something.

 

I enjoy dating all types of men, including black men and whilst since I was young I have enjoyed ragga and some hip hop music, I am far from an "MTV" girl. I"m a few weeks shy of 22.

One of my clients had a younger brother who I came to know in a bit of a big-sister kindov frienship, they moved here from Sudan about four years ago. From leather shoes, smart trousers and shirts to baggies and massive t-shirts etc. etc in a few months. He started asking me lots of questions about hip hop music as he was only interested in ragga. I asked him what he liked and felt so sad inside when he said he didn't like it much at all, but that's just waht the girls expected and he was finding it hard to fit in at school without a hip hop identity.

I found that so upsetting. I have also been very upset when friends of mine have been rejected by women because they don't fulfil a "thug" stereotype- my man who I was with for four years was concious of it and found that women looking for that often don't stick around.

So what I'm trying to say is it cuts both ways- I just want a guy to be true. if that is what he identifies with, and finds important and is comfortable with, fine. But I don't look to or even particularly like that for my own relationship, particularly if the guy is passing off as American, which i can't believe they would even try! What is wrong with where you come from?

all, but I definately enjoy spending time with worldly men- people who have travelled and seen many different things, because that is something I find so interesting, I am passionate about going to as many different nooks and crannies of the globe as I can! Sometimes those men happen to be African where I live becaust post-grad students have often studied or worked in many different places- that said I haven't really dated many only a couple. Someone must have told somebody I can speak a couple of African languages, not sure how it got out but I think sometimes now people just wanna test me out!, not that they are interested in ME! That is absolutely fine though, I love meeting new people male or female. It is far from that I see a person's culture or people as a novelty, but I just crave learning things that are different to my own epxerience.

PHEW! Long answer!!!! But I wanted show a reason to why I sometimes seem to enjoy my dates with black men, other than being an MTV 'girl'.

 

I am currently in Chicago and will be here for a few months. All I can say is that you should get the hell out! This place really sucks. White people live one side, the Indians have their place, the blacks do, and I don't even know where the Latinos live. What the hell! I really can't stand this place.

On a more positive note, I look forward to living in San Francisco. It is where I will be starting the next phase of my education. Any thoughts about San Francisco.

 

east side of chicago is where the huge hispanic neigborhood is in Chicago

 

I just spent a vacation in San Francisco suburbs. Beautiful! Gorgeous! Warm. Especially if you drive a little south down route 101 into Santa Rosa county where the little resort towns are (I visited Sausalito and Carmel). You drive down the highway and see cows grazing on hills, in February! Expensive. A lot of Chinese people, well a lot of everybody. I loved it.