American Black Men: USA or Foreign White Women

Who said anything about second or even first choice. I can't speak for Brian but I've mostly dated American ww. With only two exceptions all my love interests have been American ww since I was 14 years old. So when I speak its from a place of experience and observation. And of course not every American ww is how I described but its like living in LA. If I said I don't want to date a woman from LA because the culture produces vapid, immature, gold digging women its not to say every female with a pulse is like that but so many are it makes getting to decent ones way too much effort. Opposed to a place like Denver or SD where the culture doesn't produce or support the same attitude found in LA.
And I absolutely won't blame myself for what I observe because I am actually open and accepting its usually the other person who has a single minded myopic view point where things can only be one way.

 

My comments wasnt aimed st You. Its. Wtery clear i dont lump You in. Besides. You should know by now that i have lived all over this country. And worked all over this countfy as well....

 

yeah but she or he shouldnt bring drama either

 

side eye

 

You give more side eyes than most girls lol

 

lol

 

LA County is huge, just like NYC and its 7 boroughs are a world unto themselves.

There's a stereotype about the kind of people who come from these urban areas, but it's not really a good benchmark.

IMO if you meet shitty people frequently in your personal life, well, I'd question why you were drawn to these people in the first place.:vom:

It's not like they tricked you.lol

 

exactly

 

Because most people don't show their true colors right away.
You know that
You don't think urban centers don't breed or attract people who are obsessed with status and money?

 

Anyone else getting bored?

 

I am. Let's put this thread to rest.

 

lol

 

NYC has 5 boroughs.

 

If you wonderful people are getting bored....why you keep posting?

 

Again beat me to it lol

 

When was my last post before stating I'm bored?

 

LMAO!!!!

 

I don't know...but your ass has posted up here twice since then LOL

 

I feel a bromance brewing. :smt052

 

retort

in response to dialogue some pages back (this may get arduous):

i feel where all you cats are dropping knowledge from.

i am living in asia, beijing china to be exact. i have been living in china for almost 3 years there is a large “laowai” (chinese for “foreigner”)/expatriate community here. it consists of people mostly from european countries. before china, i lived in prague, czech republic. here is what i have come to learn:

i have met some righteous, cool women in both prague and in china and my travels in-between. and, i have met some not-so-good ones as well. as far as dating goes, you could end up with a lemon, no matter where she is from. it doesn’t matter, fellas. if one is consistently meeting women (or men) that aren’t measuring up, he/she needs to truly look within as to why (and own the reason(s)). when i was younger, i dated a woman from belarus who was a looker but i was incompatible with her, from the jump. different life directions, long story short. what did i do? you guessed it: i chose to keep on dating her - was fixated too much on her looks. things didn’t work out obviously. it was not a good look, but i had to take accountability on my side and make moves to where this wouldn’t happen again. there are features and characteristics on/in a woman that i am keen on and i could find them with women no matter where she is from. i don’t have a preference as to where she is from. i have always had an interest in women who are similar, yet different from me, no matter her skin color. it truly comes down to if we click and finish each other’s sentences, having that connection. in turn, she should not be fixated on you being black or trying out something different (though she likely was attracted to your physical attributes), if she is mature and has her wits about her.

can’t speak for the masses but in my humble opinion, it all comes down to how you present yourself. there is a substantial number of brethren here in china (from all over the world). there are cats that conduct themselves with class and integrity and in turn, they attract some lookers. conversely, there are some cats over here that are on that "nigga shit” and attract women that are similar in kind. disclaimer: just because a cat has a passport and is making moves, doesn’t automatically mean he is doing it. i met this cat from detroit over here in beijing (i grew up in the ‘d’ also, so we connected on that tip). one nite, i was politicking with this cat about traveling and he mentioned that he had a ‘dry run’ on women when he traveled to central europe. just from what i know about this cat, he is not very endearing and tactful and comes off a bit entitled. not knowing for a fact, but it could be concluded that he took said personality traits over to central europe, those women were repulsed, and shit didn’t pan out for him. from my experiences living in europe, you got to come (really) correct if you are checking the ladies over there. not to say that i have the magic potion, but from an observational standpoint, cats don’t be having their shit together most of the time when stepping to a lady. a woman of substance is not going to mess with a dusty-ass dude, no matter where that cat is from. again, checks and balances. if everything you are doing is balancing out, little things with more focus, you will grab somebody’s eye - trust.

moving abroad has been an opportunity to better understand myself and other areas of life i was not well-versed on prior, as a result maturing in untapped areas as a man. what you project is (oftentimes) what you will attract. if you are on your shit, you will attract women that are your cup of tea and exceptionally those that are not so much. know what piques your fancy, focus on that and go from there. in a city of 21 million people, that is one of the world’s most populated, a shortage of women is not/should not ever the problem. and, there are quality women in the midst of it all, so that is not an issue. there are substantial, open-minded, and well-rounded women in ‘jing that are looking for a standup man and skin color is not hardly a concern. if you reek being interesting, crossing paths with a quality woman will be the least of your worries, even if it is just on the friendship tip. living abroad, you come to appreciate the overlooked things in life that may have been overlooked before. for example, on the platonic tip, it is cool as hell to just have a cup of coffee or brunch with a down-to-earth woman from (insert foreign country here) and be schooled on how big this world really is - continues to amaze me day in, day out. women want to be around dudes that make them feel comfortable and radiate positivity.

people will tell you that they move abroad under the guise of personal improvement. but the reality of it, a lot of cats come over and get involved in that typical expatriate life - going to the bars (nothing wrong with stepping out from time to time. i am talking about it being the focal point of one’s free time), doing stupid shit (nothing wrong with that if that’s your bag, but again), and then later ponder why they’re majority meeting messy-ass women. in layman’s terms, these cats are not very well-rounded and aren’t putting themselves in more positions to meet and greet. my free time consists of working on languages, taking classes, fitness/running/cycling/hiking clubs, traveling/exploring, and so on. there is lots of stuff to do in beijing. by keeping your plate full, doing you, and enjoying your own company, you learn what is fact and fiction, weeding out bullshit/ters and attracting likeminded folk. most importantly, i am not trying to find a woman per se (prowl), but i am usually open and in a position to meet women to see where things may lead. i have been fortunate enough to have been attracting women who are parallel to me and what i am doing, which is something that has not happened overnight.

also, i would say getting older and having experiencing relationships that have not worked out and taking lessons from them and WITHOUT BITTERNESS, moving onward and upward from it have all helped put me in a better place as an individual. the symptoms of bitterness in an individual are obvious to onlookers more than we think and it doesn’t have to be voiced verbally. people will tend to shy away from that shit.

this all could be applied no matter where you are laying your head. i lived in denver, colorado before moving abroad and there was no shortage of great women. you had to screen out the not-so-good ones occasionally, but still.

a passport is a beautiful thing, fellas. it is indeed a (not “the”) key to a better you if you are wise about it. but there is more to it than that, a lot. from one real cat to the next, when you make moves, turn that swag down just a notch and be humble about it, be willing to learn and grow, and everything else will fall into place.

have vibed with a few folk on here at times. i don't post much on here due to connection issues. but, my goal is to.