After a Break Up

How long do you wait for a new realtionship? A date? a Hook-up?

 

hmmmm...well i've been single now for 2.5 years and haven't dated in that time...and i'm more than ready now to jump back on the rollercoaster...!!! :tonqe:

 

I pretty much move on quickly, I don't look for dates but they present themselves pretty swift.
Hey I've broken up with people and had dates the next couple of days!
Nothing wrong with that.

If it's over it's over, the only time I would hesitate to move on, is when things are unresolved, for instance if someone is behaving badly I will speak to them about it and if they don't listen I will come outright and say "look this is not working for me, it's finished"

When everyone knows where they stand it's very easy to move on, might sound clinical but it helps me sleep soundly.

 

When I feel ready for it. Can vary between a few months or several years..

 

lippy thinks it depends on the relationship that is breaking up...the longer you were together may indicate how much time you need...alot depends on how you feel about the breakup...if it was a slow dying process and you no longer have any feelings...no anger...then you may be able to jump right back in to dating...if however this breakup happened because the other person hurt you or left you without notice then you are in a different place...you may be angry...hurt...upset...crazy...crying...raging...it's all that is on your mind...you talk about it all the time...the world kept evolving but you stopped...well, then as much as you might like to get out there...the unfortunate person that meets you is going to get all the drama and baggage...if you find a good prospect better to hold them at bay until you are ready or they may tire of you quickly...

bosox...is everything okay with you and your man? i have read a few of your recent posts that may have indicated otherwise:smt056

 

It all depends on how long the relationship was, the nature of the relationship (was it a healthy relationship??), what the nature of the break-up was, etc.

I was ready to date after leaving my husband, only because I had to wait so long before I could leave him. So, by the time I left him, I was emotionally done with him, and had worked on myself. The act of ending it was more of a formality at that point, as it had ended long before.

 

Hey lippy....I ended it within the last few days, it was becoming draining and I was not happy with the constant need to reassure him. I still love him, but sadly, he is not the right person for me. I am really okay with this desicion, and we are still talking, it was not nasty. A couple of very different men have indicated interest, but I'm not sure what to do. I don't want a relationship or a cheap rebound. So I think I'm gonna sit out of the game for a while.

 

I don't really think there is a set period of time. I just do what feels right for the current situation.

 

two or three hours.....:smt061

 

i feel you...loving someone and knowing that the situation isn't right for you is a difficult crossroads...keep your chin up:smt006

 

It’s been about a month since I found out my man was cheating. On Saturday I was waiting in the supermarket parking lot and looked over to see a nice looking gentleman walking to the car beside me. I smiled, nodded hi, then looked away. I looked back again, and he said something to me through the window. We kind of flirted for a minute or two, he asked me where I was from, how would I like to show him Boston, etc. After a few more minutes of this, and me feelng kind of silly and giddy, I asked him for his number because I don’t’ give mine out right away. For those few brief minutes, I was able to forget about my asshole cheating ex, and felt good about myself for the first time in weeks. But now, I am wondering whether I should call him or not? So, Bosoxlady, I guess I am not really answering your question, but could certainly use anyone's advice.

 

No Limit

There is no right time to wait, you have to do you, what ever time you feel is right, is right. If I meet the all mighty person in charge of "how long you should wait to date after a break up," I'll let you guys know what he says.:smt028