Afraid to approach someone of another race?

Espy you are truly beautiful and I appreciate you seeing my point of view because I know it's hard for a lot of people to suspend their egos the way you just did. Kudos.

 

Pfft... I don't have an ego Andrae. And I don't see what ego has to do with stating the obvious, or at least my opinion of the obvious. But thanks, and you're welcome.

 

Ego in the sense of self awareness vs being completely aware.
Not in the narcasistic way where you are self obsessed.
Being able to see life through the lens of others not just yourself.

Btw it might be obvious to many people pretend like its not.

 

:smt058 Thanks, I'm a little dense today. Expecting insults where there are none, and that sort of thing.

 

I would never insult you you're wwbm gf lol

 

Nice to know someone likes me today!

 

I like you today - and any other day..

 

Thanks FG! I'm just irritated at someone who actually IMd me to tell me not to comment on a thread so that people didn't perceive me to be stupid. Yeah, whatever.

 

ehhhh?
That is weird.
Does this someone have some sort of all encompassing insight to what everybody thinks?
:smt012

 

Andrae- for the second, I thought that was me speaking, LoL. You nailed it on the head, fam, kudos!

 

Very well put my dear, very well put.

Espy for prez, Espy for prez.... I think I've nominated you for this job b4... oh well......how about Espy for UN secretary? LoL

 

It's not polite to call married women sweetheart. It's never polite to use it as a put down, but it's especially impolite to call a married woman sweetheart. Please stop.

I don't know why you are lecturing me on racial injustice in this country, when I am one of the most militant people on the board.

I am trying to get you to specifically back up your theory that White Women don't want you. You say that you don't mean you personally. So where are you getting your theory? It can't just be freakonomics, even tho you won't tolerate any debate on that data. Is it your friends? Where are you observing all these White Women who don't want Black Men? Alabama?

The racial injustice that exists throughout this country is not necessarily reflected in the minds of young white women who are of decent quality that are interested in dating interracially. That is my whole position. Please respond to that, and refrain from disdainful pet names or digressions from the point.

 

Apparently, or at least the male insight. Funny a man telling me he's worried that I'm going to come across as questionably intelligent to other men, yeah like that's a big draw anyway... whatever.

 

It just doesn't seem like what you're saying, andrae09, is all that far from porcelansnowbird's posts.

You seem to be of the theory that White Women all hold Black Men to a standard that is higher than the one they hold White Men to.

As evidence, you use racism in America.

But the White Women who date interracially are already different from other White Women in that they do date interracially.

Not every White Woman is racist. Dating interracially is a good sign she's not.

But if you go into every date treating every White Woman like she's suspect, you will only be denying yourself.

It's better to trust your allies, once in awhile.

 

Thanks GZ, on occasion I do actually manage to use my brain.

 

You would look in the mirror and see a White woman if your perception of Whiteness, Race or Color was determined by Black people, or from an African historical perspective. You would be defining yourself through how Black people see you, because it would be their cultural norms and ideas (specifically about race) that determine your perception of yourself. If a Black person sees himself through the perceived perception of White people, and if he takes White culture as the norm, then he might be really seeing the absence of Whiteness and/or projecting every opinion (negative and otherwise) he thinks White people have of him upon himself.

A Black man overly aware of how White people perceive him is certainly going to have issues approaching White women and then he might question if his liking a White woman, or White women in general is not part of some issue of self hate (how he perceives himself) and desire to be accepted and fit in to the norm.

Well, you (the Universal u) can go crazy with this, but if you know yourself and try to find out who you are beyond these social constructs then you might find easier with people and issues like race. Practically, however, this is easier said then done for Black people who have had and still deal with real White prejudice and/or a legacy of it. In this dynamic, one can see it how real prejudice and perceived prejudice often get muddled.