Admitting your attraction/preference

Why would it be ridiculous to say that? If it's the truth it's the truth. Life is way too short to be concerned with what anyone else thinks

 

I like white women, but I guess that's obvious, huh?

 

I meant it's ridiculous to shout it from the rooftops, you just like what you like and you don't need people to know

 

Right. It’s not something that you want to run a complete marketing campaign over. It is simply what you want. Period.

You think? Lol

 

really?? I'm so shocked!!!

 

So I’m glad to see that everyone has accepted and is comfortable with their preferences.

 

ok, i have 2 public race related stories to tell ....from when i was in killa california (los angeles) . so I was riding the bus .....there was this older black couple sitting right next to me ....they where having a conversation about dating outside your race....he starts raising his voice ....i love my black sistas ! there's nothing like them! i'll never date no white hoe ! all these black men dating them.....it's self hate ! I started looking out the window , I did not want to look him in the eye because I did not want to get involved in this discussion because i was not going to back up what he was saying.i am not a yes man but i know what's good for me ......say nothing.

second story
i got on a bus again .....standing room only ....L.A is packed . so i stood next to this black lady . later on somebody she knew got on the bus ....they mistaken me as someone she was with .....she said "no way ,I don't date black men " then gave me and the person a....a stank child please look " then she said something in spanish and says she dates Latino guys. I didn't say nothing ..... but i was thinking ....lady , your not exactly my cup of tea either .

actually ,i would and still date black women , it just that very few black women fit in to what i look for.

 

Hmmmm, interesting!!
So I don’t think I have ever had such encounters in public. Germans and Swiss People are quite reserved, even more so in public and generally very conflict avoidant so you wait for a long time for a stranger to be so confrontational. Being conflict avoidant isn’t always good either, but that’s not the point here, I’m just saying how it is...my issue with the two stories you mentioned is mostly that those people felt the need to be disrespectful and insulting about who they do NOT want to date. I mean if you prefer to date black/Latino/white...best keep it to yourself in public because what’s the need...but if you have to say it, why not just say it like a neutral fact and not like you are putting all other races down?!
If that’s the general atmosphere over there then I understand where issues come in. People just need to be minding their business...

 

Although my first serious (in love) relationship with a black man was secret (we were both married) I’m not afraid to say that I’m more attracted to black men now. Ironic since my (ex)husband is as white as a sheet of paper.

 

So are you in a relationship with a black man now?

 

I don’t know why it’s love, if you are consenting adults love it’s no one’s business. I’m a white female & I feel that black men aren’t always open to white women when they are attracted to them why gentlemen

 

I agree, I’m a white female & I wish people would just leave love alone regardless of color

 

Fabulous, welcome to the site.

 

I just like the WW being open first about their attraction to brothers. It may not be me but, at least they know what they want.

 

Glad you found the brother who treats you right.

 

German women are not that reserved than Swiss German women when it comes to brothers. There is a long history behind it.

 

Wow! How long that brother lived in LA? Is he naive? It

That brother is naive since LA is not Chocolate City. It's Swirlcity.

 

Yes, I am open about my preference for black men if someone asks.

 

That's a great question. As it stands, I don't have any problem admitting that I have an attraction for white women. They're human beings as well. I guess the stereotype over the years is that what women were the forbidden fruit for black men. For me, having never been with a white woman, it would be a forbidden fruit for me. I don't care about the racial stereotypes. I see many black men with white women oh, and I guess it's not what you're attracted to but who you have more in common with. Of course, if you're a black woman oh, she's going to say you have more in common with a black woman than you do a white one. But they're also stereotypical myths surrounding a black women and black men how bossy black women can be towards black men. That white women are more submissive toward black men. For me, I guess because I've never had that fruit it seems forbidden and if you keep something from someone long enough they'll want it badly enough and do just about anything to get it. That may sound superficial on the surface oh, but it's the truth well my true anyway.

 

Sadly, far too many people still have narrow views. I won't put it all on BW as I know many who are of the opinion that you love who you happen to love. In my experiences over the years regarding WW/BM relationships it seems that those who object most are BW and WM. However, I know plenty of BM who don't like it either. I say to follow your heart, but just stay mindful that the closed-minded people are out there and will show themselves.