A little question for DK and those who buy his theory

There's been a lot of discussion around here about how older WW go out with younger BM, and how "unfair" that is, including discussion about how older WW cannot "pull" younger WM (which I think is nonsense).

So I was thinking about this in the shower a while ago and I have a question.

What's in it for the WW?

Is a younger man likely to be a better lover than a more experienced man? No.

Is a younger man likely to be more mature and interesting as a companion? No.

Is a younger man likely to out earn us and let us live in luxury's lap? No.

If we want kids, is a younger man more likely to impregnate us? No.

I suppose you *could* say that our society programs us to appreciate youth over all other qualities - but if a WW has already tossed out the racial programming she's been fed so that BM are an option, wouldn't she *also* have tossed out other bs programming like the one about youth?

So...exactly *why* do you think that BM are "preferred" by older WW? What's in it for us, except the usual bs an interracial couple gets?

For me the answer is simple, but then I don't exclusively date men of any race. Younger men seem to be the ones I attract, regardless of race. I can't say why that is. When I was young, I dated older men, sometimes much older men. After my divorce almost 20 years ago, all of a sudden every single man who has asked me out since, regardless of race, has been at least 5 years, and up to 20 years younger.

 

Older WW can attract young WM or BM. Plenty of wm love 'cougars'.

What's in it for the ww?? Umm...almost the same thing as there is for older men with younger women. You get a gorgeous, young, tight, fit body on someone who looks up to you, makes you feel young and will do what you say. :smt042 :smt042

 

LOL Mostly people do what I say anyway. I'm just a *tiny* bit strong willed and stubborn.

 

Damn this is really getting under your skin huh kid.

Well I could break down the racial heirarchy that exists in this country but I know that will get dismissed as me whining so I'll leave you with this.

1. I NEVER SAID IT WAS "UNFAIR" PLEASE DON'T PUT WORDS IN MY MOUTH.

2. In all my years I have never heard nor seen or myself experienced older women being the focus of what men go for. I'm sure there will be many of you who will tell us about the younger guys who have hit on you especially after 30 because apparently you're sexier after 30(which is not what I personally see but whatever)
Men more often than not want younger women (women between 20 to 30) and if you'd like me to break it down I'm more than happy to but be forewarned that its at your own emotional risk my friend.

3. What I say is usually a general statement that doesn't apply to everyone in every single case but I generally see to be as true.

 

Having sex? Sure why not I guess but relationship wise very doubtful. Men have a hard time submitting to young hot women let alone people old enough to hang with our moms.

 

Not under my skin, I'm just kind of puzzled. In other words, I don't see why you think it's exclusively BM who go for older women, or why that somehow seems to buy you in a racial way - like somehow it comes across like you think it's degrading or the WW are only seeing a BM because he's black.

If that's been your personal experience, I'm sorry.

Trust me, I'd be just as happy, or happier, with a black or white man closer to my own age. But they are not the one who find me attractive. It's the younger guys. If you want to know why, ask them, because I sure as hell can't explain it. I'm not all that and a bag of cheese curls.

Oh, and I understand why you like young women. They're physically more likely to be fit and tight, have no wrinkles, and no children and less strong willed, so they're more malleable - I know you want very much to be the boss.

 

Personally I think a lot (NOT ALL PC POLICE) bm date older and/or overweight women because the ones they would like to date aren't available so they focus on the demographic who is more likely to receive them.
Just my personal observation definitely not gospel.

 

Actually, I'm not sure that's true in general. :smt043 Women rule the relationships, men are merely along for the ride.

 

Generally true but that's when a woman has something to offer that many can't get easily else where. Like I were to have sex with a woman a lot older than me I'd feel like I was doing her a favor because in my mind I'm thinking how wide are her options and even if she blows me off I feel like finding another one wouldn't be difficult.
I'm arrogant about younger women too but just a little extra with the older ones lol

 

LOL Apparently. Truly, DK the options of a woman even my age are far wider than you imagine. I think maybe you're projecting your personal perspective onto all men when maybe it's not as universal as you perceive.

Surely the media pushes the youth thing, though it's starting to expand a little bit. But just like some men make big noises about skinny models and prefer a woman with a bit more meat on her bones, some guys seem to actually either not mind a few years, or like it. I'm not going to tell you I know why, you'd have to ask them. They don't act like they're doing me a favor - in fact they act like I'm doing *them* a favor in responding to their attentions.

So I guess I'm still confuzzled as to what it is you think older WW get out of the relationship which makes it somehow a win for them and not for the man, especially if he's black.

 

DK, just keep chasing those 23 year olds and let those who enjoy those with a little more experience be.

 

Why does anyone care/waste time on other people so much?

If the two people fucking consent, why are the rest of you up in arms? Does it matter how ugly or old one or both are??!!

I am always amused when you see a couple out (I don't care what race) and someone will say....they don't look like they go together. Who cares......

DK are you the fucking police?? Let that woman in the other thread have her fun........if some guy answers her the he must want it. Why are your standards the standards for all? Stoooooooooooooooop............ :mrgreen:

 

Smooth and JC fricking blow me. I didn't start anything. Trix not only asked me she made a thread about it.:smt068:smt068:smt068

 

I did ask, because I find it puzzling. Still do. I'm not sure why you think older WW date younger BM but not younger WM.

For the record, I am not dating homely men of any color or age, so it's not like the guys couldn't do "better" by your standard of youth.

And if Jordan and Smooth do blow you, pictures or it didnt happen. ;-)

 

I'm guessing by the absence of consensus with DK's theory, that he just might be in the minority here. :smt115

And for those silent fellas that do agree with DK, please note that many ww out with younger men didn't necessarily chase those little buggers down, they chased us. :smt042

 

You don't suppose those younger guys who do that might be onto something other young guys aren't aware of, do you?

 

Might just be the case....

 

can i just mention, that i'm loving the avi my lovely goddess...!!!!:smt060

 

Truly, no idea, but it seems to me that my single friends my age-ish, and a few of the married ones as well, seem to have more than their share of young admirers.