A little embarassed but facing reality

Star wars sucks. :mrgreen:

 

Well, I guess it could be worse. You could've said I LOOK like Yoda.

I don't care what I sound like, I just hope he does it. It sounds like his marriage is still salvageable.

 

I don't think it's about power. Feeling taken for granted perhaps... but I don't see anything that really mentions power. And honestly, he has a hell of a lot of (will) power since he's trying his best to make it last.

Perhaps it's just become so comfortable that you forget you can lose each other. That no matter how long a relationship is, it takes work to keep it fresh and sometimes a spouse needs a reminder like, "You know, if I'm feeling unwanted, I could leave", which shows them what they were doing.
While on a much shorter term basis, I've done that to my boyfriend... told him I wanted a break, that he didn't seem to care about me anymore. I told him he had until the end of the semester to SHOW me he still cared, or I'd walk away. It was a big wake up call for him and things have been different ever since (then again, we've only been together for 2 years and some change).

I hope things don't fall back into the old routine, and that there's a way to save what you both have... from the posts, the information you share... I can see the love is still there. Same with the up and down feelings... there's something there and I wouldn't want to see you both lose that.

It'd be hard to walk away, so it's good to see so much effort into making it last.

Wishing the best for the both of you, *hugs*

 

I don't believe a fucking word of this.

 

lol @ paying someone to reaffirm what you already knew from the start just so you could say outloud I did the "right thing" according to society.

 

Counseling isn't just about re-affirming what you already know. A good counselor will help you understand why the marriage derailed and teach you strategies to get it back on track and keep it there.

And it's not just doing the right thing by society. It's doing the right thing by your spouse and kids. The best gift a parent can give their child is to do everything in their power to make and keep a stable home, and that includes a solid & loving marriage.

 

That's garbage 4north. Counseling, as Chesbay mentioned, is far more than paying for lip service. But I take your comment in stride based on your posts of your erect dick, encouraging a man to bust a nut outside the marriage and now this. As a married man you are setting quite the example and illustrating why so many women are getting divorced and are extremely wary about new relationships.

 

:smt038

 

LOL, damn north you have these ladies coming after you bro.

 

I am still actually confused Married or not married

 

North is married to a bw if I recall correctly.

 

Oh Ok. I just remeber some dumb thread about I made up the wife? Maybe I was high on Nyquil

 

He might also say he made up his kids. lol But he's posted pics of them on here too.

 

o.0 really? I miss so much here.

 

Women love living in these delusional emotional filled bubbles...couples counseling is complete utter bullshit. If you need outside help to mend a broken relationship, it's hopeless.

This man's ego is not being stroked by his Wife I seen/heard it happen a plethora of times, dude starts getting close to the chick at his job, because she is supportive and makes him feel good. He might even go out with her after work and lie to his woman about it....Initially, sex might not even be on his mind, but eventually those situations can lead to sexual encounters....Some women don't get it, but a man and his ego are hand in hand, just like a woman and emotions are.

I believe my advice ain't that far from sound considering the shift in roles men and women play in relationships these days. As we should all should know by now, in the past, marriage served important purposes for both sexes, but it was particularly beneficial, if not crucial, to the survival and financial support of women.

Today it’s the opposite, women today have men by the balls because so many realize that they actually have the upper hand in the marriage, knowing they don't how to put forth any type of effort into the marriage what so ever because her scary ass Husband knows to act right unless he wants to lose it all.

What you guys fail to see is that men are falling into the same trap that many women of yesteryear are are climbing out of. Powerless because they are afraid of losing a certain standard of living.

Gotta love the internet where you be whoever you want to be like the many virtuous armchair crusaders of WWBM.com.

 

Oh puh-leeze.

Marriage doesn't come with an operator's manual. Sometimes, you need help. I'm sure you didn't walk into your job and know what to do with no education or training. You didn't learn to drive with no instruction. Telling someone who has hit a bumpy patch in their marriage that getting help is a waste of time is foolish. Many marriages have been saved with good counseling.

As for the rest of your post...drivel. Sorry, North. You're adorable but I question your values and philosophy.

 

if you don't want and don't like the person you are with no matter what help or counseling you do will never work ...

 

Yeah, and what we really love is someone mansplaining what it is we love. :smt102

A grown man shouldn't need to be "ego-stroked" in the way implied. Appreciation is a two way street in a healthy relationship.

 

North, your view on relationships is stunningly immature. Until you grow up, I'm going to make a suggestion and borrow Saty's favorite line: shut the fuck up.