"12 Reasons women can't stand Nice Guys."

It is fricking creepy as hell. I believe that women general can discern between fantasy and reality. Just like most guys who go see films with lots of explosions and gunfire really don't want to be Rambo, most women don't want some creepy guy playing music under their windows. (BTW I think you've seen more of them than I have - they are such complete fiction they generally make me want to scream, unless the dialog is snappy as hell).

 

Oh God the list of shit that I've seen out of obligation makes me cringe to this day. One of them was Phantom of the Opera. I saw it when I was 23 with my then gf and hated every possible second of it. Nothing creepier than a dude who lurks in the shadows watching a girl for years under the guise of wanting to protect her. But my girl thought it was incredibly romantic because he would always be there for her. Again I think this is where the age gap comes in again because I did know a lot of dudes when I was younger who joined the military and did think they'd become Rambo. People are generally dilusional it appears because these things make a shit ton of money.
And while I agree most don't want to be stalked or creeped out there are still a lot of women who openly say they want a guy to be Lloyd Dobbler for them and that's how you get dummies singing in public for girls that don't want them. All I'm saying is mutual responsibility

 

I have no idea who Lloyd Dobbler is, but I wouldnt find it at all charming. I'd find it embarrassing and it would make me angry - you're really putting someone on the spot when you do shit like that. Like the guys who propose on the big screen (brain fart, I cant think of the word) at a football game, or propose by skywriting - what's the girl going to say, no? What kind of a bitch would she been seen as if she did? So it's sorta stalker-creepy to do things like that.

I have a feeling once you get over your obsession with young girls, DK, you're going to find the woman of your dreams pretty easily. Most of what you complain about in women seems to fall under the title of "She needs to grow up a bit." I think you'll be pleasantly surprised when you start dating women in their mid 30s and up. No rush, obviously, you're young yet, but when you get there, I think a lot of your issues with dating and relationships will disappear.

 

Lol@obession with young girls. Thanks for making me sound like a pedo.
I generally date women in their early to mid 20s because they tend be far more fun and don't expect as much out of a relationship and they generally want to have families but its not expected within the first two years of dating like most in their 30s and like I said before I want the option to have kids at some point. Women in their mid 30s and beyond can't offer that to me.
And I can also admit I am in transition in my life where I started school again and I do notice a lot of women who are looking to settle down soon don't find it attractive. They want a man who has a stable career path which isn't something I can promise right. I just want to enjoy life and enjoy the moment and younger women seem to appreciate that more.
Truthfully I have no issues with dating or relationships it just took time for me to see what they are opposed to what I thought they were.
Like Einstein said, "Your time is better spent on what is rather than on what you want it to be"

 

getting and banging females is not a relationship

 

And whoever said the relationship was the goal. That's usually a woman's goal not a man's.

 

Dude, make up your mind. lol

In one thread, you're complaining and saying you want to meet the woman you'll marry in the next year...and in another, you're saying 'Who wants a relationship? I get to bang her, so I'm fine!'

It's impossible to keep up with you.

 

I never said I didn't want a relationship. I just said that's not the goal when I meet someone. Please keep up lol.
I have no end game outside of the possibly having children. Romantic relationships can be fun and rewarding but as we keep seeing they are the most unstable of all. So why bank on it or hope for it? Just trying to enjoy life kid.

 

For the 10,000 time why do you live in New York? Don't give me the near family biz........be a big boy and move to a different US city. New York is not the US.

I would never sit around and complain about something so much, that I wasn't willing to change. See smoothdaddy's signature for my feelings on that.

 

Whores are cheaper in the end, and a whole lot less complicated if you're looking for sex.

If you're looking for companionship, a lot of women in their 30s don't necessarily want to have children, or have children with YOU, so you're golden. 30's is not out to pasture - you are terribly short-sighted if you think that. Since you don't care about long-term relationships, you shouldn't be so frightened by getting to know a woman in her mid 30s. I'm not talking about myself, as I would not be attracted to you. You are not my type.

You should make up your mind. If you are looking to go back to school, you should chill out and find women who are not looking for a serious relationship/children/family either, and not get so hung up on age. You could learn a few things from women over 25 in the meantime - they have a lot to teach you about how to be a man. IF they even want to talk to you that is.

 

Charming. Then don't go on about having children. I always wanted to be in a relationship but even THEN, I didn't think about having kids every second of the day. It was always something that I would like to happen If and When I met the right man...if not, then oh well - the world will not end if I do not make babies - I have other worthwhile pursuits and talents that will make their mark on the world.

The focus on having children, over finding a woman to truly love makes you look like an egotistical schmuck just eager to spread his seed to the next generation, pretty much like misogynists have been doing for ever - god forbid that all your spawn/offspring should be female, and choose to carry their husbands names. Then you will be forgotten. So having children will be a waste then, right?

What if you find out you can't even father a child? Will you kill yourself?
If I found out I was barren this whole time, my life would not be over - I would just carry on - as my worth in life is not determined by reproducing myself over having a companionship/love relationship with another individual.

 

JC truthfully I wasn't complaining in this thread at all. You took one post and ran with it babe. But here's the thing New York is not necessarily THE world but its MY world because everyone I love and care about are here. EVERYONE. I come from an incredbily close knit family. I see my brothers weekly, talk to my mom and cousins daily. I know if its because we're immigrants but I do I see the same trend with a lot of mexicans, italians, and irish families as well.
Like I said earlier my goal in life isn't about finding a woman, it would be cool if I did connect with someone that way but I don't lose sleep over it. Btw going to Denver at either the beginning of next month or end of this one on business. Can't wait to see the interracial capital of the country lol

 

Dude what is with all the angry posting and jabbing? I never said anything about having to have kids just wanting them and I am actually willing to adopt and I don't care about the gender or race as long as they're healthy.
The idea of giving a chance to a kid that didn't have a chance has always appealed to me, being a dad has always appealed to me but no so much a husband or a boyfriend. And even that isn't what I want my life to be about entirely but I do have love in my heart so why not share it.

 

Quit internalizing what I said. I didn't direct it towards you. No need to be nasty.

 

No one is internalizing, just relating. I am not being nasty, just completely and utterly direct. If you can't take it, take a look at yourself. I've always shaken my head at men who claimed they wanted a family, yet seemed to have such little respect for women their own age, or women in general. You have demonstrated that you do not listen to women, given your rebuttals to all of the great advice that has been directed to you here. Such is your loss.

You were the one talking about ages of women, and who would/wouldn't be capable of having children within your timeframe. You pretty much made it clear that it was biological children you were interested in, and have very much downplayed the companionship/love aspect of finding a woman to be with. IF you fell in love with a woman who was say, 32 or even 35, she could still have children by the time you were done with your education. My guess is that you like younger women because you hope they won't have the life experience/ sense (the way that women your own age do) to call you on your shit. So you can get away with living with your fake assumptions forever and not evolve to the next level. Hey, whatever makes you happy.

I was suspicious, about 40 posts ago, that you were perhaps stricken with the "Nice Guy Syndrome", and 40 posts later, I am convinced.

 

ok

 

THAT isn't what I meant and you know it!! To me, a woman in her early twenties is the age of my son's GF so I do see them as "girls" I suppose.

I just meant that a more experienced woman is likely to be more comfortable with herself - maturity does a lot for both men and women.

 

You know Jordan and I are both within an hour or so of Denver, right?

 

Trust me I'm aware. So when my agent told me we were going to CO for a meeting I was absolutely gitty lol.

 

I agree and disagree with that. I see too many women around my age who act like they are in sudden death because they're in their 30s and not in relationship headed towards marriage. It doesn't help that everyone and I do mean everyone we know is either married or getting married within a year.