Old White Woman Regret

I think a lot of older white women regret that they didn't consider a black man. I'm talking 40 and up ... way up! I've lost count how many times they've told me that they thought I was handsome or loved my skin. It's always either of the two or both. I would go so far as to say that they would fool around if I agreed.

It may not seem like a big deal to you, but I'm in the South where hatred is shown openly.

 

I see what you mean. It seems that way, by the way they tend to lust after some of us in private, mainly on the Internet, and since I am here in the Southeast, I feel ya.

 

I would mark it down as white women raised to date and marry white men and avoiding black men when they are young. As years, weight, and break up or divorce happens with white men they look for other options in black men who accept them readily.

Though I don't date younger white women I make it a rule when I date mature white women that they need to be in shape and she can't look like she's ready for the coffin.

 

:arrow: I'm in the South as well & I know quite a few that aren't just sitting on the sidelines wishing on what they SHOULD HAVE DONE...THEY'RE DOING IT, alot more than folks realize :!: :wink:

 

Hmm.....Where are you at babe you surely look good in that photo

 

Yes, unfortunately.

That's it. That's the ticket.

 

^^^ That is not HIS picture.

Back to the real world...

I have found that older white women seem to be a tad more open but it is more about the woman as an individual in the end.

 

For a very long time, i've always wondered why a lot of white women, in their youthful years (16-32), will exclusively date white men because their daddy would be mad if they brought home a black man. These women try their best to hide their attraction to black men as possible, which is their own problem. Some of them would marry white men, which is no problem with me but here's the funny bit.... they would seek sex with their "bull" and take "vacations" and "breaks" to Jamaica, Barbados and where have you for reasons you do not need to be a rocket scientist to figure out.

This is the very part that makes me livid personally. Now i must admit this one thing that i've made that mistake when i was much younger (between 18-21). I came across several white women, gorgeous of course, who were married to white men but then we....... well, i do not have to say it. Back then, when my hormones were ridiculously out of control, i rarely had a stable relationship and i for some reason found it exciting to fuck a white man's wife :lol:. There, i mentioned it.

Anyway, i never realised that i was exploited a little bit, given the fact that i was satisfying myself and i was looking at it from an immature point of view. But one day, i sat to myself and thought why these women only wanted me or any black man for that matter for sex and nothing more. I know this for a fact because i had held conversations with many of them that gives away the fact that they are afraid of going there for some reason. Anyway, i kinda saw myself as very idiotic and foolish for allowing myself to be exploited by some self-centered asswipes and swore never to indulge in such acts.

I have also noticed that there are a lot of divorced white women who, at over 30, claim to love black men and probably have married twice to white men with white children. Where, then, is the love? :roll: If you love black men and always have, why did you not date or marry one when you were younger? Oh, i get it, you are not good enough for a black man when you are young, fresh and beautiful. When you have had kids, are old, in your sexual peak, probably fat and do not seem to be attracting any white men, go for black men then. Silly? You be the judge. I am not sure who's more stupid; those who do it or those who actually date these people.

DISCLAIMER : THIS DOES NOT APPLY TO ALL WHITE WOMEN.

 

I find this interesting...
I don't think that some 40 something white woman liking a black man is a bad thing. I don't believe she is doing it because she can't get a white guy.
I've seen more than a few younger white women on this site talking about their love of black guys...

When I was in my 20's I only dated and was married to a black woman.
Am I into white women because I can't get a black woman as I hit the big 40 in about a month?
I don't think so.

And why does a “plus size” white woman liking black men mean she can't get a white guy because she is fat?
I know many [most] black guys don't like plus size... I get that.
But sometimes it seems like we go out of our way to let big women know “not us.” Almost to the point of being mean about it.

Not good.

 

Ah that's NOT ME playa... :shock: BUT I DO WISH SHE BELONGED TO ME... :lol:

 

well, i haven't been here in a while but i found this post interesting- i guess b/c i'm 32 and for the first time have gotten involved with a bm. i'm seriously trying to figure out why i never dated bm before- and i'm sure subconciously a big part of it was my dad. i'm also in the southeast (alabama!) but grew up in tennessee. it's not that i never gave bm a chance when i was younger- but i honestly don't remember any bm approaching me or asking me out. i didn't run in the same circles- and i was the girl in high school that always had a boyfriend... so maybe i was never approached... who knows. all i can say, from the bottom of my heart is that i'm not turning to bm in my 30's b/c i can't get a white man. and i'm definitely not past my prime or overweight at 5'1 105 lbs! i know this wasn't for all white women but i wanted to put my 2 cents in. and if you really want to know the truth, i wish i had dated bm at an earlier age- somehow i alienated them- almost as if they weren't in my world at all, which is strange. but now it's totally different, my world is very integrated- i'm not so self-centered or exclusive... guess i've matured a little bit...lol

ok, your thoughts???

 

I think we live in a race based society where black people and white people are told to see each other as opposites. It's always “what makes us different?” and rarely “what do we have in common?”
Then you bring up a great point about the male/female dynamic in that most women are raised to believe that men are the pursuers, women for the most part will wait for the males to make the first move. I remember when I was around 32, there was this very nice and nice looking white woman [24] that never said anything to me for the first 3 weeks we worked together, then one day I just asked her out to lunch and it was all good from there. In fact, she told me that we would have never gotten together had I not made all of the first moves.

Some people say that young people do things out of rebellion therefore any young white woman into black guys are doing it for all of the wrong reasons too. There are young white women who'll party with and sleep with black guys but only marry and have kids with white guys when they get older. I think we have all seen this...

There are a number of factors that cause people to behave as they do and I'm sure there are those people that turn to IR for what many consider to be the “wrong” reasons.
There are those who'll side step conventional moral scripts at a young age for the “right” reasons however.

This I feel is a case of “Damned if you do. Damned if you don't.”

 

there are lots of ww who are young, fresh and beautiful and not overweight, and not divorced or with kids, and not wanting the sex but when it comes to a serious relationship it must be a white guy, as well, and even this forum is a proof of that. I guess it's what side of the glass you choose to look at, the full or the empty.

plus, not every bm wants or needs 20 and something's, some are not in their first youth or first marriage either, so there's someone for everyone. :wink:

from what i've seen in Europe and what i read on this forum about US, i notice there's a tendency, as JReminator said in one of his posts, that in Europe it's the bm who mostly tend to use ww for fun and sex but not want serious stuff, while in US its the other way around.

 

I remember one situation when I was out for dinner, and on the table next to me was this old interracial couple, maybe in their mid to late 60s, maybe 70s. Sitting close to eachother, their eyes locked into eachothers eyes, holding hands, it seemed as if they forgot everything around them, sitting there in this special kind of comfortable silence, as if in agreement that the only thing that’s important is the love they share fot eachother and that they can be together.

It was as such a wonderful and beautiful thing to see, I had to force myself not to stare at them all the time. I wasn't wondering who they might have been with before they got together, or what color their kids might be, I was thinking about how their life must have been, how different their upbringing must have been in the mids of racial tension and racial segregation, how they witnessed or even participated in race riots, civil rights marches, maybe followed the civil rights cases in the newspapers, and how they were falling so deeply in love with eachother despite this hell of racial insanity they went through in their youth.

Remembering their wrinkled and loving faces, it almost hurts me physically to read some of the deprecative, disrespectful comments about old loving people.

 

1. This thread is getting more and more thought-provoking

2. All of the posts written in here recently contain a particular message about the threads' topic



3. Young IR black male/white female love is on the rise. I (or shall I say WE) see it everywhere, and recently, as usual, I saw it several (yeah, I said SEVERAL) times again, with a fat couple, and an average-looking dude with one of the hottest blonde girls with a big ass I've seen... :lol:

so, all hope ain't lost, at least for now

 

:shock: >>>You mean you approve of the way this thread is going Bro SardonicGenie?! That is something because you are hard to please my brotha. You definitely don't like weak-azz stuff coming up on the board. :wink:

 

Amen, my brotha. However, the issue of black men dating BBW sometimes worries me at times and makes all those fake ass stereotypes seem true.

 

well I am not from the south... but I have liked black men all my life. There just weren't any oportunities to date any where I was from until I moved 6 yrs ago..

but 20 yrs ago given the opportunity, I would have been dated them then too..

 

:wink: Glad to see you back Sassy :!:

 

thanks noble!