There Has To Be A Reason

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By your response I can tell you're not understanding me. This is not about your preference. Because I can like apples but prefer oranges (if I had a choice between the two), but my preference for oranges does not negate my taste for apples. Therefore telling me your preference is white women does not mean that you are not attracted to Black women. Once again, this is about all lost attraction for Black woman, saying as a Black man that you have no attraction for Black women. I mean none whatsoever. Do you understand me now?

 

Do I understand u now? Yes Sir...Captain...Boss...

Yeah, all lost attraction for BW...that definitely sounds either fake or the result of a trauma...hence, the negation of all pheromone activity between the BM in question and any BW...which is hard to believe if it`s a hot, classy BW!!

This said, sometimes you prefer apples to oranges and actually don`t like oranges that much...it happens...just like I`ve known some WM who found WW not so interesting...

But I do understand you better now!

To raise another question, which is what I do best, maybe it`s a philosophical issue...deeper than a negative experience with BW...maybe most BM in American are stilll trying to cut the ombilical cord and reject the "blackness" inherited from their mums who brought them forth in a society were they are so rejected...

Maybe they blame the BW for sending them out to the lions in the arena and there is therefore a "guilty" tag already placed on all BW?

Ok don`t take this too seriously ppl, I just woke up

 

EXACTLY MY POINT.

 

For the record, most of the brothas in here aren't limited to a select few, and with that said, I haven't had any negative experiences with black women that would make me feel attracted to white women. Attraction isn't determined by anyone's experience. It's only determined by their preference, and using your or their experience as an excuse is twisted logic, along with this conversation about their 'being a reason' altogether.

 

There is atleast one reason, if not more. And again this is not about a Black man's attraction to a white woman. This is about a losing all attraction for Black women (meaning there once was an attraction) and there's got to be a reason for that.

 

Your question is vague, and only pertains to the reasons of the individual, and not all black men who are attracted to white women.

 

Don't give me that vague stuff. That's that secular humanist talk. There is no open-ended question. Every question has atleast one or more definate answers. Just answer the question. If you don't know, tell me you don't know.

 

Who's the Boss, the answer to your question has been given on this site a gazillion times already. What the eff are you looking for? Many Black Men on here have stated their personal reasons and you just need to come to terms with the fact that there is not ONE reason there are many, all very personal and all not for someone else to judge, disect, chew and spit out again preferably with a narrow minded and judgemental view like you seem to favour. Would you be at peace if the man on here came out and said things like: I am turned off by BM, I have had bad experiences or the MOST COMMON "I simply find WM more attractive" ? I doubt it. You would still not be satisfied, I think (and yes I know that I can't KNOW for sure what your intent is, it's just a feeling) I think that you won't be happy with the answers given unless the BM on here would resort to slamming and bad mouthing black women to justify their choice.

Who's the boss, let me ask you this: You are on this site for a reason- what is your reason? What is your preference and can you please explain it? Don't give me the "I don't have a preference I like all women the same BS" I would consider that a cop out no matter what you say.

 

Hey J - what's the difference in the demeanor of white chicks around black men in Europe and here? I've been hearing stories about how they just come up and throw their legs on your shoulders as a way of saying hi. Is it true? Because here in the gloriuos NYC white chicks are not inhibited at all, either. :lol:

 

Stop jumping to conclusions. By your own admission you don't even no my reason for being here, so how can you assume all of that about me? And I'm the one being judgemental. That's so hypocritical. You need to check yourself.

How did I know that most of the brothers on here have had negative experiences? Because I've seen it (read it) with my own eyes. You just can't tell me anything and expect me to believe it.

So why am I here? The first reason I came here I was getting some advice on how to turn down this one woman, because the time before last when I did I was called a racist (long story). Now, the reason for me being here is out of curiosity.

What is my preference? Well ... if it's meant for me to get married I want to be with somebody GOD would approve of. I don't know if you believe in GOD or not, but in order to understand me you have to understand what I believe, right? And from what I've been taught, in conclusion I should be more concerned about being with another believer more than race.

And honestly I haven't pursued anybody but Black women. But does that mean I prefer them? It's just that I'm from a predominately Black community, so the chances of me crossing paths with a white woman was slim to none. When I went after who I went after it was because I was genuinely interested and they just so happened to be Black like me. Is that my fault? Besides I can't see myself waking up one morning and saying, "Hey, I'ma go get me a white woman. How about that?" You know? What sense would it make to do that? Where's the logic behind that? There is none.

 

I'll bet ya those sisters will be glad to know that one of the reasons you “like” them is because they were the only women around.

I love people who'll ask a question and not listen because they already know all of the answers.
They know so much that they know what others think before they think it.

 

Hey Moskie...
U know, NYC is...NYC...diversity, makes ppl less inhibited bcoz "they have seen the light...and the dark "

White chicks around black men in Europe...I`m goin to generalize, even though I travelled around Europe, and dated different nationalities, I was based in France, so I`ll say this about French women:

A few years back, BM were the "thing" to do...especially in Paris...fortunately the stupid fashion faded away...but BM are very much "in demand" in Europe...and u see mixed couples all over the place, any time of the day...that`s is what I like the most...especially about Paris...

French women aren`t inhibited or shy...but they will very rarely make the first move...Once you approach them, IF and only if they are interested, then all the inhibitions are thorwn out the window...my current gf, right after our first date, we went to her place, had a drink and next thing I now she was sitting on my knees and asked me "do I shock you, bcoz if I do, I`m sorry" with a witty smile!

Also, France, even though historically catholic, is not very religious...so there`s not the huge feeling of guilt that ppl (WW) have here, where they nearly need to go to church after having sex to confess the baaaaaaaad thing they just did...and with a Black man...Oooooooh!!

Now let`s make this clear: NO they are not easy!! they are outgoing and not shy...if they want you they`ll let you know...if they don`t, they`ll talk smile but not go home with you...and yes they shave their armpits!! (this is for my American friends )

 

I did not jump to conclusions, I clearly stated that "I think and I have a feeling" sorry dude but when you post messages you open yourself to other people making certain assumptions that's just it.

As far as "checking myself"
I did and I like what I see

So I can't tell you anything? Of course I can't but that is exactly what I have said all along. You are not here to hear what people who ACTUALLY are interested in white women and have been dating them have to say about their reasons. You already know so why bother asking???

I honestly think you should move on and find a site more suitable for you. This site is not for a novice to come and learn it's for Men and Women who know and want to get to know the other by their own experience.

 

What part of "genuinely interested" tells you that?

Yeah, I thought so ...

 

I am here to learn about that too, but that isn't what this thread is about. Once again, this is about all attraction lost for Black women.

Nowhere did I say I know every reason, but one thing I do know is that there is a reason for everything. Read the first page of the thread. There are those who agree with me.

Do you honestly think I'm going to leave because you don't want me here? Let's be for real. This is an interracial site. Why wouldn't there be talk about race issues?

 

I hear in minneapolis and ohio, black men won't give black women the time of day. if I ever date inter racially, i have to make damn sure my man is not ignoring a huge group of women to be with me b/c he must have some sort of hidden agenda going on.

 

I'm with you. If I ever dated a white woman, I'd have to know that she didn't hate white men.

 

yup. only way to be positive that you won't end up with a psycho. :lol:

 

Think again.
You say you only pursued black women but you ask if you prefer them.

If you only date black women in your "predominately black" community why would talk about your slim chances of crossing paths with white women?

If you are here to learn, you may learn more by thinking more and not asking questions when you already think you know the answer.

If that is why you're here.
But then again only you know your agenda.
Have fun.