Fortysomething...and then some

Good to see you back, Sir Nose!

 

Good to see you too! Cheers!

 

4 months from 40 and increasingly pissed off :smt071:smt071

 

Sir Shnoz and Mr Nevada...two of my favourite men :smt050:smt050

 

Don't be, life get better. I'm 45, and I feel like i'm 15 years old everday.

 

Does that mean you feel like you're going through puberty every day?!

 

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I have the energy of a fifteen year, but still have a saggy nut sack of a forty year old.

 

You need to find a way to be happy. Happy people bring happy things into their lives. If you need to, go talk to someone. Spending life pissed off is not a fun way to live. You need to fix that.

 

Don't let getting older make you angry. Look at it as a chance to acquire and apply wisdom that you didn't have when you were younger.

 

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It doesn't help when I'm frustrated economically, vocationally and sexually...

I was cut back to part-time status at work for 10 weeks this summer, which put me in a hole financially. Back to full time now but the bills sure weren't part-time. had to cannibalize some savings.
I've been trying to find an entryway into a new job for nearly a year now and I can't get a ******* interview. I've edited and re-edited my resume. I've tried different styles of cover letters. If I get any type of correspondence back, it's one of those generic "thanks but you have not been chosen to move forward in the process..." memos.
I'm sick of living in a bankrupt city; I need a completely new start elsewhere.. I never seem to be able to meet women/have any girlfriends, so I'm infuriated even more.. :smt084

 

I know it's cold comfort, but remember that 1/3, if not more, of the country is experiencing something similar right now. A move might be in order for you, but remember that a lot of the time when things bottom out financially, it's setting the stage for a rebound with cheap assets and new opportunities. It's no guarantee, but moving too soon might cause you to miss some great future opportunities right where you are. I'm going through something similar with loss of a home and divorce and pushing through law school to give myself some more options, and I'm 43. So no matter what you are going through, don't give up. Move if you must, but keep on moving forward.

 

I don't know whether to say "TMI!" or "Pix, please - let us be the judge of that!"

 

Absolutely this. I choose to always see positive in everything, even when it seems that there isn't a thread of positivity. I'm beyond grateful that I'm alive, that I have my children and for the friends and family in my life. I honestly believe that there is far too much emphasis on money and possessions, always wanting the best, the latest and what someone else has. As soon as I stopped caring about all that, I found a hell of a lot of my stress and unhappiness stopped.

 

Pix...always the pix

 

I wasted so many years of my life being a "realist" when in reality I was just a pessimist.

It's sometimes extremely hard to think positively when it seems like the world is crashing around you, but you have to make a conscious effort to always find something positive going on and when you do, to focus on it.

I have to remind myself nearly daily to try to keep a positive outlook. It's difficult to change your way of thinking sometimes.

As cliche as it sounds, I do feel like things happen for a reason, which is why I try not to dwell on the negatives. They're only a passing thing anyway.

 

If I were looking to make a new start here is where I would probably go. You should check it out.

http://money.cnn.com/2011/09/28/pf/north_dakota_jobs/index.htm

 

Mutual baby, mutual! :smt033

 

I'll start looking into it, for sure-- I'm at the verge of just not giving a **** anymore. :smt011 I finished out my Bachelor's last December, and a tech-school diploma a year before, but I'm still hitting a wall in terms of pay (lower-rung paraprofessional) and promotion (not happening).. I'm feeling like all I did was give myself $20K+ in student loan debt.. :cry::cry:

 

Forty was okay, Fifty was better, and by a skinny minute avoided a meltdown over the whole sixty thing. Next month I will be 62, that profile photo is recent, and I believe this is the best time of my life. I am young enough to enjoy life, and the experience to know how. I believe 60 is actually the new 40.

 

Don't think like that. The best thing you can ever do is invest in yourself via an education. Whether or not you receive an immediate financial reward for it is beside the point. That's an asset that does not depreciate and permanently improves you. I saw an interesting statistic somewhere once that essentially said that an educated person tends to live better than an uneducated person even at the same income level. You are permanently changing yourself for the better. Keep it up.