A racist society doesn't even factor into it... I have much better things to do with my limited time on this earth than to ponder how to piss 'society' off or how to piss off some random racist white guy. If my being with a black man gives him a heart attack, great. If not, whatever... quite frankly, I couldn't care any less. Stereotypes have nothing to do with it either. I was attracted to exotic features long before I ever heard the stereotypes surrounding black men, and to tell you the truth, some of the stereotypes are a huge turn off. I am genuinely attracted to black men for who they are, not for what racist 'society' tells me they are.
got to love tuckered... at the age of 12 I didn't even know there was a stereotype...but I knew then that bm interested me...intrigued me...caught my eye...I naturally gravitated towards them ...
I don't fit the "black guy stereotype" in any way really but the best results I've had was just from being myself. If I start pretending to be more thuggish things don't go so well. So I would say on my experiences WW like an educated BM more than just a thug
bingo! I think most women in general prefer a man who does not hide behind a facade of who he believes he should be, rather a man who is confident in being himself. Educated, polite, and confident trump the playboy every day in my book!
On a general tip, who doesn't love an educated man. :heart: I swear, it's the true secret to winning an educated woman's heart. And by educated, it's not just about being book-smart. It's about being WELL READ and well ROUNDED, DIVERSE and open in thought.
Sure he's tough and pretty darn good looking but would I want to spend the rest of my life with him? Nah.
I can only speak for myself. Yes, there are things about a black man, physically that are very appealing. Nice juicy lips, nice booty, etc. People should not believe the stereotype thing, though. I went out with a black man who was 6'7", but not "all that", if you know what I mean. To me, a black man has an inner strength and confidence that a white man just doesn't have. Very sexy. A tall, black man who is confident (not cocky), intelligent, articulate, kind, passionate, and accomplished, is just about the most perfect thing in this world.
This. Although I disagree that NO white men have that. I think it just seems more prevalent in black men. I would add a few extra pounds to his frame, and witty and a gentleman to the list. Oh, and he's from the south. Now he's just about the most perfect thing.
And another thing... I've posted on this thread, but after being gone for a bit (working), I have enjoyed reading and catching up. This is actually one of my favorite threads. A man being black doesn't automatically qualify him for my interest or attention. But a black man will get my attention before a caucasian male would. Attitude, manners, communication skills, goals, demonstrating the ability to see things through to completion, personal honor, and size, all matter. I absolutely prefer a black male partner, but stereotype has nothing to do with it. My preference is based on experience, and a natural attraction to men of color. I will also add that I truly enjoy the conversations here. Glad I found this site. :freehug:
In my experience it has seemed to be my physical attraction and uniqueness. I've heard one or two mention that African Americans over here were 'the best' so to speak so there is some mystique behind us somewhat. Of course if a woman hasn't dated outside her race there is some foreign appeal, just as I would be with an eastern european woman or a non-american woman. But I think I have a good package in terms of looks, intelligence, vulnerability, voice, and physique so that also attracts women to me.
