what do white women love about black men?

A lot of disagreement on this issue...

http://www.pbs.org/race/001_WhatIsRace/001_00-home.htm

 

Just no....

 

I was more offended by the "Africans have wider mouths than Caucasians" thing.

 

A question like this should focus on an individual's romantic perception for the person he / she wants to court.

In order to remove the taboo nature of "interracial" perhaps eliminating the thinking for having threads like this will help.

The thread should say "the attraction between the character and decency of a specific woman or man" and not the "the attraction between white women and black men".

I am not of a different species than a woman with blonde hair and blue eyes. We are both human beings who strive to find commonalities.

I have to believe a woman can see me, the individual, and not the "black man". Because I have conditioned myself to see her, the individual, and not the "white gal".

I would care about an individual woman's decency and how it will blend with mine (I consider myself a human being with morals and values). I would care about the type of character she has and whether helping people in need is important (because it is for me). I would care about her short and long term goals (and I hope she cares about mine). I would care about her family and friends (I have issues here and would need her strength in certain situations). I would care about her humanity and willingness to evolve as a person. I would care about her religious practice(s) (and would be open in joining her through prayer and celebration). I would care about her communication skills (I am not a loud person and will not be around someone who is, etc). I would also care about her past and whether she carries emotional scars, such as being overweight or sexually assaulted or treated unfairly by ex-lovers (I will not play her therapist however if she is emotionally and or physically stable I will be there in support). I can go on and on...

Therefore, to say "the attraction between white women and black men" is doing a disservice to everything needed in order for a relationship to become healthy & whole for two individuals.

 

You mean, you love a man you connect with through mutual likes, enjoyments, banter, etc... To say you love "some black man", should bother some folks.

 

The members of this forum know me well enough to not get bothered by my choice of words.
The women who are members of this forum appreciate the beauty of black skin, hence the name of this forum

 

You commented on the less provoking rebuttal. Hehe, it's OK.
I value the beauty of a woman, but not the beauty of "white skin" to put it in your context.

 

Thanks for your honesty, more in depth posts like this is needed round here.

 

Your "description" was of personal traits. There is a difference in having personal / individual traits in a male compared to singling out a bunch of men with similar traits.

As a man, I did not have to read the above... Strange men sending you pictures of their penises told me enough in what I needed to know about you as a woman (you condone this clear disrespect) and the men you are attracted to.

And why did you have to comment on penis size? I don't understand this... A strange man sending you a picture of his penis with your emphasis on its size makes you seem small as well as the man. Too many men are misogynist because of penis size and the way naive and limited women, such as yourself perceive them.

If penis size did not matter as you claimed why allow it to be the focus on this bias post? I can describe a woman sending me a picture without it being graphic or focusing on one aspect of the picture. But I am me.

God forbid if an average "BM" penis was to ever be sent to your email... The horror huh lady? You can have your penis emails. Let those men have women like you. Ill take the other half who doesn't need penis images in an email in order for feel beautiful.

Time for a nap...

 

Penis size was not the focus of her post, it was one thing she mentioned. I'm going to go out on a limb and suggest that she brought it up because of the stereotype of the BBC. If anyone was thinking that had anything to do with her attraction to BM, she may have sought to lay that thought to rest by mentioning it. I can't speak for her, but that's how I interpreted her inclusion of that topic.

Also, you mention that she condones men sending her pictures (thus, she must disrespect herself). I have had men send me photos, UNSOLICITED. Perhaps that was the case for her.

 

But why mention it? But then again I am beginning to see its one of the top three things all women seem to care about above most things

 

Let me try this again: A lot of women DO seem to be preoccupied with the whole BBC thing. (Think cuckold). She MAY have mentioned it to squash the notion that it matters to her. Let's be honest here, TDK. How many times have YOU wondered if that's what a white woman is curious about? Or attracted to?

 

Personally I've never had to wonder because those who I've messed with who were curious were up front about their curiosity but honestly it being brought makes one think there was some type of expectation.

 

Ok. I'm just going to let it go and let her answer for herself. Just thought I'd take a stab at it. I don't always jump to the conclusion that someone is a troublemaker or a troll just because they bring up something like that. I thought she was being up front by saying "And as for the whole BBC thing (if you're wondering if that's part of my attraction), it's not a factor." But, as I said, I'll let her answer for herself.

 

Are you really saying penis size is "one of the top three things ALL women care about above most things"? Have you not heard anything the women of this board have said, time and time again?

Anyone who wants to fuck out of "curiosity" isn't worth your time IMO. A guy I met recently was open about the fact that he'd never dated a white women, but swore up and down that he wasn't looking just to fuck...he actually wanted "love" and a relationship and all that good stuff. I could see a mile away that all he really wanted was to satisfy his curiosity. To me it's degrading no matter which way you look at it (the expectation a ww might have of a bm, or the expectation a bm might have of a ww).

 

Well most of it occurred when I was in my early 20s and was just happy to be getting some. I wouldn't go for that shit now. In your case you were probably right. A lot of men feel they need to lie to get what they want and its usually true.

The reason I saw penis size is in the top 3 is really based on how much emphasis I see women put on it lately. I read somewhere that good sex can compensate for low wages. Maybe I should worry less about making money and more about being the best lover I can be lol.

 

Personally, I demand a man drops trou before I even consider having a conversation with him. If the shlong ain't long, we ain't gettin it on

 

This! Dude is a shit stirrer....

 

Hahaha, you know I've always loved your honesty Glad you wouldn't lower your standards to that level anymore...(although...I am a little curious about your stats...so...)

I hear men talk a lot about how women want a well endowed man, but in reality everything I hear from women is that we enjoy average!! Too much of a good thing hurts (ask most any woman who's experienced it, and they'll tell you they'd take average any damn day!). I can only speak from my experiences and those of the women around me, but good sex doesn't pay the bills, nor is it really hard to come by...so I don't think it's playing as much of a factor as you might think.